Chronic illness warrior and natural health coach and advocate, Gina helps others thrive beyond the challenges of chronic illness.
Life is meant to be enjoyed!
Life is meant to be enjoyed!
Life on the fast track will eventually take its toll on your health and your relationships with others. The pressure to perform and live up to unrealistic expectations leaves you yearning for a simpler and more peaceful life. By adjusting your schedule, prioritizing your life, and changing your physical environment, you will attain the life you desire.
Life is meant to be enjoyed. But you have to intentionally design your life to be able to experience that. Here are some things that I do to help make my life easier and more enjoyable.
There is something truly spiritual about watching the sun rise!
1. Begin the day with prayer and meditation.
When I open my eyes in the morning, before I even leave my bed, I whisper a simple prayer, "Thank you, God, for allowing me to open these two gifts this morning."
I spend the first hour of my day in peace and in prayer. Before I touch the phone or begin my day, I spend time with God: talking, planning, visualizing, and praying for the things I want to manifest in that day. I get in alignment first—before anything or anyone has an opportunity to move me.
Sometimes I go outside to watch the sun rise... or I do so from the comfort of my bed. There is truly something spiritual to watch the sun rise above the horizon, signaling the beginning of a new day filled with brand new opportunities, new possibilities.
2. Slow down.
Caught in a chaotic, frenzied spiral of a new addiction, people are chasing money, power, success and a wilder, faster pace of life. Just like any addiction, people are out of control in their behaviors, feelings and thinking, yet they believe they are normal.
We get so used to doing everything in a hurry that we don’t notice how fast-paced our life has become. Simply reading the words, “Slow down,” will allow you to pause for a moment and notice.
3. Have a purpose of life. Keep goals and plans close-by.
I keep my goals and plans in front of me. Sometimes I write them as a post on my Facebook page so that at the end of the day I can look back at them and see if I have accomplished all of them. If I haven't, then I put it on to the next day's. I don't stress that i did not get that done.
Sometimes I keep a book next to my bed where I write down ideas tat pop into my head in the middle of the night when I wake up. It could also contain my current goals I am working towards and the plans that I have for myself. I read them and pray over them several times a day.
I also put my goals on post-it notes throughout the house or on walls and windows to remind myself throughout the day.
Every life has a purpose – find yours. It helps you to be motivated and more focused so you can easily achieve your goals and become happy in your life. Having a purpose in life does make your life easier, more peaceful and more meaningful.
4. Don't force yourself to follow a hard schedule.
I don't force myself to follow a hard schedule. I let my days flow and let God move me. Because I've already written it and believe it... I trust my plans will manifest. No resistance. I go with the flow.
Recently I decided to have an art show. I made a post about it on my Facebook page, and all of a sudden I started getting messages about how others could help me manifest my vision. God is in control. Everything is working out better than i anticipated... and I still have three months before the event.
5. Talk to yourself constantly.
I talk to myself constantly. My kids look at me sometimes as I am nuts. I am always in intentional inner conversation with myself. I tell myself how capable, amazing, valuable, and needed I am. If I pass a mirror I say, "Hey Beautiful!" When I need motivation, I go to a mirror and give myself a pep talk. If I am mad, I discuss my feelings with myself.
I realize now that when I want something I manifest it in my words, and sure enough things work out.
6. Prepare meals in advance.
I prepare my meals in advance. To prevent eating out or over indulging, I prep my meals for the week on Sunday. I cook, package and plan out what will go in my body for the week. I love my trust crock pot. It has been a blessing to my household.
Over the last year I decided to home-school. Now it is tough enough trying to build a business or work from and home-school at the same time. Try doing it with a chronic illness, like lupus. Some days it is tough enough to get through the school day. On those days I try to put the dinner meal in early I the morning, and it will be ready for dinner. I can usually manage lunch and breakfast.
Every home should have at least one crock pot. It truly is a life save-saver, and there are so many recipes for the crock pot online.
7. Reset the mind at the end of each day.
I "reset" my mind nightly. I never go to bed with the day on my mind. I let go of my thoughts. I forgive moments that bothered or upset me. I move on from those things that I did not accomplish, and I let it go. There are so many nights that I noticed that I was going to bed upset about something that happened throughout the day, and I realized that it was something beyond my control. Yet I was letting it control my mind.
Let it go, and let God.
Reset your mind at the end of the day....and let it go! You know I could not say "let it go!" and not post the song. LOL
8. Live in Joy. Shape your environment.
Choosing to see the wonders of the world is an antidote to violence. It’s hard to be violent against that which you see as beautiful, wondrous, amazing, and joyful. The greatest despair arising from wars comes from the destruction of innocence, beauty, and joy. Joy brings peace to your life because you’re always prepared to see what is good in others and the world, and to be grateful for the wondrous aspects of life.
What are some ways that you shape your environment? I love to burn incense, especially when meditating. I use essential oils throughout the day to help with focus and concentration. Sometimes I bring fresh cut flowers inside to brighten up the area.
Recently I have really tried to minimize items in my surroundings. This is one concept that I am always working on, and I will mention this again later on in the article. Energy and environment shape your ability to be creative and to think on a higher level.
The greatest despair arising from wars comes from the destruction of innocence, beauty, and joy. Check out these Before and After pics showing the devastation i
9. Always look good.
Recently I read a book called "Lessons from Madame Chic." The book dealt with a student who traveled to Paris and learned some valuable lessons about style from her the family she stayed with. This book struck me and I immediately went to my closet and gave away 2/3 of my wardrobe. Yes, I had a lot of clothes, but I realized that I did not need all those clothes to look good. I just need to know how to put them together in a minimal way. I always look good. I make sure my clothes are well put together, clean and crisp. Even if I'm wearing sweats, I'm well put together (although I have tried to stay away from sweats now.) I never leave out disheveled or just thrown together.
The way you dress and present yourself in public speaks volumes to the way you value yourself.
10. Reduce your commitments.
This past year saw me saying "no" to a lot of things, even activities that I would normally be involved in or have been involved in for over a decade. However, with health issues, I was constantly going from one doctor appointment to another. I had to say no sometimes. Initially I felt bad, but then I realized that I cannot give from an empty well.
If you have current commitments to do something, then follow through until the tasks or events are complete. However, from this point forward take on fewer commitments. You may struggle at first, but focus your intent on simplifying your life, which will bring about peace. Allow the eventual goal to motivate you and quiet your feelings of guilt.
- Limit the amount of times you say “yes” by keeping a tally on your calendar.
- When you are asked to participate in an event, discern if the event will enrich your life.
- Develop an ability to say “no” by communicating your intent.
11. Set limits.
This includes quite a few things:
Observe what you unconsciously consume:
- How much time you spend on social media
- How often you check email
These things affect how you feel throughout your days. Don’t underestimate the power of the things you don’t even realize you’re letting into your life. If your life is overfilled with stuff you may need to set some limits.
12. Give a lot.
I give A LOT. If I am at a toll booth I often pay for someone behind me. If I see a homeless person with a sign saying, "Please, help," I can't just pass by. My daughter often chides me because I have given away my last $10 bill. Hey that person need it more than I did. It does not matter how much or how little you have. You can give something. This principle has blessed me in so many ways financially. I am never without because I give so freely. And it has pushed my financial limits and money mindset.
13. Relax and unwind.
- Find a relaxation technique that works for you.
- Get a massage.
- Spend time with family and friends.
14. Have an attitude of acceptance and gratitude.
Do not curse your present state. It will not help. Instead accept it if you cannot change it. Acceptance opens up the door to new opportunities. It helps you adjust to life, brings peace, and dampens the inner conflict and anger.
Once you are able to mentally adapt to a situation, you can formulate a plan and implement it by adjusting to the situation. A person who can accept change and adjust to life is the one who is able to focus the mind in new directions and make choices based on his or her desired outcomes.
Be thankful for everything; for what you have and what you are. Even for the simple fact that you’re alive. Express gratitude to bring peace of mind, positiveness, to eliminate ego and reduce stress, and to appreciate everything in your life.
15. Reduce your needs.
I mentioned this earlier, when I referenced minimalism.
Needs and demands are unending, but there has to be a limit.
Have needs that are basic and essential to moderate living. Make sure they are within the scope of what you can afford.
- Throw out, sell or donate everything you don’t need. If there’s anything that will immediately release your anxiety and put you at ease, it’s making the choice only to keep the physical things that either serve a purpose or hold a positive meaning for you.
- De-clutter your world, de-clutter your mind. Just take 5 minutes to de-clutter your work-space or the room you are in. A de-cluttered, simplified and ordered space around you brings clarity and order to the mind. So don’t stop at the work-space or the room you are in. De-clutter, simplify and organize your home and life too to live in a more relaxing environment.
- De-clutter your living area. Remember, you create your environment. People create their world around them and fill it with items. If you want to simplify your life, survey your surroundings and get organized. A well-organized home is a healthy home. Eliminating surplus items that you no longer use will help de-clutter your home, your emotions and your thoughts.
- Take a minimum of 10 minutes a day to organize your surroundings.
- Use the weekend or your days off to take on bigger projects like cleaning closets, drawers and garages.
- Sort your items into three categories:
- throw away
Achieving a minimalist lifestyle has been a great challenge for me, but it can be done... a little at a time... one room at a time.
Check out this video for great tips on achieving a minimalist lifestyle.
Living the Minimalism lifestyle
What are your thoughts on these habits? Feel free to share any that you practice regularly through the comment section below to help make this article even more powerful for those who come to it next.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2016 Gina Welds
Gina Welds (author) from Tampa, Florida on August 14, 2016:
Oh, Manatita, I am always open to learn. I should never think that I am so full of knowledge that others cannot share their wisdom with me, or be unwilling to learn from it.
I am well, although yesterday was a bit of a challenge. However I took the opportunity to rest a lot, and to connect with some amazing people such as yourself. Yes, let's do pray for each other. If more people took that opportunity...to pray for each other....there would be more peace in all of our relationships...and the communities. I hope your day has been a blessing.
manatita44 on August 14, 2016:
Well, my Sweet,
I almost don't need to tell you anything. You seem to have it all covered. I almost don't need to be your fan. I mean, what can I say to someone who writes such beautiful lines! I can only receive, like the wilted flower, dying for nourishment to enhances its fragrance. Hope you are well and continue to stay well. Let us pray for one another.
Gina Welds (author) from Tampa, Florida on August 06, 2016:
@Paul Thank you for your feedback, and your thoughts on this Hub. I appreciate you stopping by. Yes, I always pray at night before I go to bed. I use it as a time of reflection on the day, but not to dwell on what went wrong, but what went right, and to prepare for the next day, should I be granted that desire. However, I find that starting the day with prayer is so beneficial. It makes me stop, and calm my mind to start the day right. My day always seems off somewhat when I miss that prayer opportunity.
Thanks for sharing with the community. I appreciate that!
Paul Richard Kuehn from Udorn City, Thailand on August 06, 2016:
@Gina , I really enjoyed reading your 15 tips for making life easy and peaceful. Although I do say a prayer at night, I do not say a prayer in the morning which I will start doing now. Slowing down your life, being generous, and showing gratitudes are also great things which will make your life easy and peaceful. I am sharing this article with HP followers.