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5 Things Most People Get Wrong When Using the Law of Attraction

Shanea Patterson is a writer based in New York. She's worked with clients like Instacart, Tailwind, Columbia, Esurance, and LifeLock.

Photo by Amy Shamblen on Unsplash

Photo by Amy Shamblen on Unsplash

If you're like me, you probably tried to hit the ground running with the Law of Attraction since you discovered it.

You might've purchased a bunch of books, joined a couple of social media groups, and started reading as much content online as you could so you could ensure you're doing everything down to the tee. You might've even experimented with changing your mindset with brainwave stimulation.

Because getting the law of attraction right means attracting your dream life - dream house, car, relationships/family, job/career/income stream, etc.

But what usually happens with most people is they start following one of those "commercialized" law of attraction gurus who claim that if you do some scripting, visualize your dream life, buy some manifestation oils, light some law of attraction incense (I'd go on but the ideas can get pretty ridiculous), etc., you'll manifest your dream life.

Here's what most people get wrong about that law of attraction.

1. Focusing on What They Want Too Much (Not Acting "As If")

The problem with this is: Doing this creates resistance to attracting the thing that you want, believe it or not. I recently came across a Tik Toker who revealed this information and it made sense.

The law of attraction works by feeling as if you already have it, right?

Well, if you already had it, would you be writing about it constantly? Visualizing constantly?

No. You wouldn't. So instead, act as if you already have what you want by trying not to stress too much.

Remember that you're always where you're supposed to be. You have to have faith that what you want is on its way (and put in the effort to make it happen). You have to work with the universe.

2. Not Putting Any Effort Into Getting What They Want

The problem with this is: A lot of people make the mistake of thinking that the law of attraction is some magic wand that's going to grant them all of their magic wishes and make their dreams come true and all you have to do is sit around and believe (oh, and buy whatever they're selling - oils, ebooks, courses, etc).

That's the idea a lot of gurus sell you, but the truth is that you still have to work for what you want to get to where you want to be and the universe will see what you're doing and start opening doors to help you get there.

But if you sit around doing nothing, the universe gets the message that that's all you want to do - recycle the same experiences.

So, write out a list of goals and start figuring out a way to achieve them. And soon, you'll start to see things happening.

But remember to act in faith - not fear. Otherwise, you'll won't be able to attract what you want. You'll only attract more experiences that vibrate at that same fearful frequency.

3. Not Feeling As If

The problem with this is: Getting into the feeling of having what you want is tricky for most people because they think you're supposed to pretend to be happy even if their circumstances aren't the best. Basically, fake it till you make it. But that's not exactly right.

You have to put yourself in circumstances that make you feel as if you have what you want already.

It's not even as tricky as you think.

Try the following to act "as if":

  • Treating yourself to dinner at a fancy restaurant once a month
  • Attending upscale events (or an events for a career you're pursuing)
  • Associating yourself with people in your desired field/people you want to learn from or work with
  • Using self-care to make yourself feel good (spa days, mani-pedis, get your hair done, etc.)
  • Buying yourself flowers

This goes hand in hand with working on improving yourself from the inside out.

4. Not Focusing on Improving Themselves (From the Inside Out)

The problem with this: Staying stuck in the same mindset won't help you attract the things you want. You have to change your mindset if you want to change your life (and it's a process - it won't happen overnight).

Working on yourself from the inside out, believe it or not, can help you attract things faster. When you start working on changing the way you think, you move through life a lot differently. You handle situations better and that helps keep you vibrating at a high frequency, which helps you attract the things you want.

Remember, you're always attracting things to you whether you know it or not. We're always using the law of attraction whether we want to or not. It just simply is.

So, why not choose to do the work that helps you vibrate a high frequency all the time (or at least most of the time)?

On the reverse, I'm sure you've heard before that when you look better, you feel better.

And when you feel better, you act from a better place - make better decisions.

For example, if you wake up, eat an unhealthy breakfast, don't address your spiritual/emotional needs, and then go out into the world to deal with the madness of everyday life, you're much more likely to react instead of respond with a healthy mind and body.

On the other hand, if you woke up, meditated, ate a healthy breakfast, journaled, said positive affirmations, and then went out into the world, you're more likely to respond to the struggles of everyday life with a much more positive attitude and more energy to make it through the day.

5. Not Expressing Gratitude

The problem with this is: Not appreciating what you already have only attracts more things not to appreciate. Remember, the law of attraction doesn't know how you feel about things; it only knows what you focus on and the feeling behind it.

So, if you focus on money (and you feel bad about not having money), the law of attraction is going to give you more of that - more experiences that cause you to feel bad about not having money.

Expressing gratitude for what you already have is one of the most important aspects of using the law of attraction. It can be difficult if your life situation isn't ideal, but finding even small things to be grateful for is a start.

Soon you'll start to notice that more and more good things are happening to you. Focus on the good (the things and people and experiences that make you feel good) and you'll get more good.

I've experimented with this for over two years now and it's been pretty amazing. At first, it was hard for me because I wasn't living where I wanted to and I had just ended a major relationship in my life, and other things in my life weren't how I thought they'd be.

But I found small things to be grateful for, like a roof over my head, food, good health, family that supports me, etc.

Find something - three things at least - to be grateful for and I'd advise writing them down so you can go back and look at it if you want (and remember to be grateful for the little things), but it's not completely necessary.

Using the Law of Attraction Correctly

Hopefully, you've gained some knowledge about what to do and what not to do when it comes to using the law of attraction.

What's your experience been like with using the law of attraction? Let me know in the comments.

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