5 Amazing Things That Happen When You Ignore Negative People

Updated on December 13, 2018
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Michelle writes about relationships, self-improvement, life lessons & attitude to both inspire & relate to her readers

See what happens when you filter out the negative people
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What exactly makes a negative person? Is it someone who is always in a foul mood? Is it someone who constantly criticizes others? If you take a negative person out of your environment will things actually get better for you?

The answer to all of the above is a resounding YES.

Identifying a negative person in your life is really a matter of thinking about how they make you feel whenever you're around them or talk to them. Do they make you feel drained, depressed, or like you can't wait to get away from them?

If the answers are yes to any of those, then most likely you have come into contact with a negative person who can suck the joy out of you like a vampire. Generally, they are self-absorbed, dramatic people who are only concerned with their own problems.

It's true that many people perceived as "negative" could have serious mental health problems such as depression, but this article is about those who choose to be negative. These are people who feed on drama or negativity just don't want to make the extra effort to be productive or supportive.

And it does take an effort to be positive about life, so don't let the naysayers belittle your cheerful ambitions.

"Defining a negative person in your life is really a matter of thinking about how they make you feel whenever you're around them or talk to them."

Negative people want to stay that way
Negative people want to stay that way | Source

Negative people may appear charming at first, even happy. But, as time goes on, you'll start to figure out that there is not much that can satisfy a perpetually negative person.

Even if they won the lottery they would find something negative to say about it. They can be happy for very short bursts but only if their ego has been boosted in some way.

If negative-thinking people become unhappy about something, they will most certainly make sure everyone else is as well. It's a form of selfishness, and it's important not to let them drag you down with them.

If you are truly wanting to live your life without negative people, read on and discover 5 of the things that will happen to you when you oust them from your life:

1. You'll Stop Feeling Guilty About Your Good Fortune

No doubt about it. Those negative people in your life do not like to hear about your good fortune. Anytime you tell a negative person something wonderful that happened to you, they will find a way to turn the conversation back to them and their troubles.

Negative people are often extremely narcissistic and are unable to revel in the joy of others because they tend to have less empathy.

What happens to negative people is that they fall so far down into the hole of self-pity that they literally forget how to climb back out and express consideration toward others. They are unable to experience delight over anything that isn't centered around them.

Telling a negative person about your happiness is futile. They will only feel envious of you and try to downplay your success.

Until a negative person is able to pull themselves up and engage with others in a healthy and productive way, let them go. They need to go on that journey alone. You can't force them to feel gratitude or happiness. Whenever something good happens to you, focus on telling those around you who are genuinely proud and happy for you. You deserve it.

You deserve to feel positive and you can do it by ignoring the unhappy people
You deserve to feel positive and you can do it by ignoring the unhappy people | Source

"Telling a negative person about your happiness is futile. They will only feel envious of you and try to downplay your success."

2. You'll Have Less Anxiety In Your Life

Have you ever been in a situation where you had to interact with a negative person who seems to do nothing but wallow in their own personal drama? It's stressful and tiresome.

You pretty much already know what to expect from a negative peer. They usually have the same, disheartening comments to make. So when you're forced to interact with them, for one reason or another, you probably get anxious.

Dealing with negativity when you're already struggling to make the best out of things in your own world can ruin your day. The less you engage with a negative person, the better. If you have to be around them for work or necessary social situations, arm yourself with the knowledge that they are just miserable people and you do not have to absorb their energy.

Once you realize that negative people are mostly trapped in a prison of their own making, you'll be able to avoid them with much more ease and your anxiety level will go down. Having anxiety is a reaction to doing things that make you uncomfortable. So stop doing it.

Learning who supports you and who will never be happy for you will help you to decide which people to avoid
Learning who supports you and who will never be happy for you will help you to decide which people to avoid | Source

"In fact, most negative people will already assume that you will leave them or betray them in some way because that is the outlook they have on the world. They are just waiting for the next bad thing to happen so they can exploit it for sympathy."

3. You'll Realize Your Presence Won't Be Missed

Negative people are usually so busy wallowing in their own misery that they probably won't miss one less person to complain to. They will always find someone else to vent their misery with. Negative people have a way of attracting others who feel sorry for them until those people realize down the road the mistake they've made.

Don't worry too much about fading a negative person away from your activities. Their lack of concern for you and your life will outlive any anger they may feel if you aren't around much anymore. As I said before, negative people tend to be quite selfish, so it won't be long before they are consumed again with some other crisis in their life and forget all about you.

In fact, most negative people will already assume that you will leave them or betray them in some way because that is the outlook they have on the world. They are just waiting for the next bad thing to happen so they can exploit it for sympathy.

You are allowed to be happy  - don't let the miserable people bring you down
You are allowed to be happy - don't let the miserable people bring you down | Source

"Once you realize that negative people are mostly trapped in a prison of their own making, you'll be able to avoid them with much more ease and your anxiety level will go down. Having anxiety is a reaction to doing things that make you uncomfortable. So stop doing it."

4. You'll Make New, Sincere Friends

As soon as you extract yourself from the reach of an angry, toxic, negative person, there's no doubt that you will begin to make new friends who are mentally healthy and pleasant to be around.

Having that shadow of a negative person around you removed is certain to enable you to socialize with friendly people who are sincere and empathetic. What a joy.

There are a wealth of people out there that have a genuine interest in others and are able to converse with people in a productive "give and take" type of relationship. In other words, you tell someone some things that are going on in your life, and they tell you about theirs, and then you both have some vested interest in what's going on with each other.

Dealing with people who always have a negative view is just a one way street of drama and bitterness where you show concern for them, and then the person never lets you get a word in edge-wise. They are consumed with expressing only the tragic or depressing aspects of life.

That is the typical pattern of a negative person. Everything bad happens to them, everything is a conspiracy, and everyone needs to be concerned about their problems or else the world is going to end. No one needs a friend like that.

"...you'll feel the freedom of being able to express your excitement and ambition about life without those feelings constantly being sucked out of you by a miserable person."

5. You'll Learn The True Value Of Staying Positive

One major thing that can be learned from negative people as we move on from them is that, usually, the terrible things that happen to them are self-inflicted.

For instance, they hate their job and complain daily - but refuse to even try for a new job, or they have been single for a long time and desperately want someone special - yet they refuse to compromise on anything and expect the entire relationship to be about them.

There are reasons why negative people are the way they are. They won't see the bright side of anything and they believe the world is against them. True, staying positive is sometimes extremely challenging, but looking at things from new perspectives always garners some change of outlook, usually for the better.

Negative people have blinders on and won't look any other way. Once you disassociate yourself from them, you'll see the difference in perspective.

Even though you may still feel sorry for that negative person you left behind, you'll feel the freedom of being able to express your excitement and ambition about life without those feelings constantly being sucked out of you by a miserable person. Take a deep breath and enjoy it!

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and does not substitute for diagnosis, prognosis, treatment, prescription, and/or dietary advice from a licensed health professional. Drugs, supplements, and natural remedies may have dangerous side effects. If pregnant or nursing, consult with a qualified provider on an individual basis. Seek immediate help if you are experiencing a medical emergency.

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      • lsmith131 profile image

        Lanecia Smith 

        17 months ago from Ohio

        Hi Michelle,

        Thank you for providing the great advice. I find that negative people always suck the energy right out of me, so I try to avoid these people as much as possible.

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        Michelle Zunter 

        3 years ago from California

        Well, thank you!

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        Aditya 

        3 years ago

        Nicely written.... good work

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        Alan 

        3 years ago from San Diego

        I wouldn't necessarily correlate a constantly positive demeanor with "sincerity"; it's true that some people can be very toxic, in the sense that they'll do anything to negate your happiness; but you shouldn't be lumping cynics into the same category, as I suspect is being done. Not all of these people have bad intentions, they're just more inclined toward a realistic, non distorted view of the world, and socially sanctioning them just because they complain (or satirize) the atmosphere of a restaurant or a certain song leads to more problems in this world. Sometimes these people are the ONLY people who would lend you a hand when they see that you're in genuine distress. Their exposure to negativity allows them to empathize more easily with you when it happens.

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        Michelle Zunter 

        3 years ago from California

        Yes, there's no doubt a big difference between those who have serious mental illnesses preventing them from enjoying life, and those who just enjoy to complain and who are unwilling to make positive changes... Thank you for reading :)

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        Michaela 

        3 years ago from USA

        I think it's important to note the differences between negative people and those struggling with mental illness like depression or anxiety. A lot of people who struggle with these conditions are often just written off as being "negative" and abandoned by the people they trusted most to be there. And that's a sad reality.

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