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Being Positive Is Your Choice

Audrey's desire to help others to respect and understand themselves led her to the study of psychology at UCLA.

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Free Yourself From Enslavement to The Mind

Let's get right into the nuts and bolts of why being positive is your choice. To begin with, here is a word I'd like you to write down three times. Perception. You're going to learn how important this word is and just how it connects with being positive.

I'm going to throw a thought at you in the form of a question. How would you like to live in a state of uninterrupted peace and bliss? Of course, you would. This is what everyone is looking for. Do you know that this is your true nature? Author, Eckhart Tolle, (The Power of Now), writes that we already have intense joy inside of us. He further states "You have it already (intense joy). You just can't feel it because your mind is making too much noise."

No matter who you are or where you are you can learn to free yourself from enslavement to the mind and enter into an enlightened state of thinking which is being positive. It is your choice.

Positive attributes build good character. The Rose twins, previous vocal students of the author. This brother and sister exemplify positive attributes that attract others.

Positive attributes build good character. The Rose twins, previous vocal students of the author. This brother and sister exemplify positive attributes that attract others.

Six Sure Ways To Stop Negative Thinking

Choosing your thoughts will control your inner-dialogue. It is this "self-talk" that cements either a positive attitude or a negative one. Try the following strategies:

  • Interrupt the negative thought. When we learn how to interrupt the negative inner-dialogue, we are taking the first step to choose a positive thought over a negative thought.
  • Shout out loud - Stop! You'll be surprised how fast the negative thought will vanish. Do this whenever you have a negative thought or inner-dialogue going on. If you practice this enough, you will come to the point where you can do this in your mind.
  • Using the sound of "shhh" works well for me. The sound is quick and deliberate.
  • Sing. Yes, that's right. As soon as your mind begins to dwell on a negative thought or an unhappy past experience - start singing. Sing anything, just to interrupt the present thought.
  • Another step is to replace the negative thought with something pleasant. It can be anything that is not related to the negative thought. Visualize a baby laughing or see yourself relaxing on a tropical beach.
  • Meditation transforms negative thinking into a peaceful state. During meditation, you learn to welcome every thought as one expression of your innate wholeness.

Negative thinking is a habit that has been developed over time. We can stop this behavior by developing the habit of thinking empowering thoughts.

Guard your thoughts.They are your treasures and reality.

Guard your thoughts.They are your treasures and reality.

Perception and Positive Thinking

What does perception have to do with positive thinking? It has everything to do with how we think and how we interpret experiences. This is what Douglas Adams had to say about perception. "Everything you see or hear or experience in any way at all is specific to you. You create a universe by perceiving it, so everything in the universe you perceive is specific to you."

In other words, you create your own reality beginning with your thoughts. If you don't like the way your life is going, change it. Change your thoughts to change your life.

What you perceive becomes your reality. This might be a bit to take in, but as you practice controlling your thoughts, you will come to realize that this is true. Author Wayne Dyer has a quote that serves me well. "When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change."

One of my favorite authors is the late Stephen R. Covey. One of his most famous quotes is, "To change ourselves effectively, we first have to change our perceptions."

This quote clearly indicates the power that exists in making good, positive choices.

Exercise your imagination. Explore the path along the way. Discover the beauty and the joy.

Exercise your imagination. Explore the path along the way. Discover the beauty and the joy.

Your Imagination Will Change Your Perceptions

One of our most treasured gifts is our imagination. Most of us fail to use this remarkable tool in such a way as to change our perception of things. Our imagination is a powerful mind-brain function. We can even use mental imagery to reduce pain in the body. I know from personal experience that by using my imagination I am able to divert the feeling of pain by focusing on positive, beautiful and happy thoughts and imagery.

The imagination is so powerful that according to scientists at the Karolinska Institute in Sweden, future research will be done on brain-computer interfaces for people who are paralyzed. Their imaginations will control virtual and artificial devices. How amazing this is.

Emotion: The Body's Reaction To Your Mind

The mind, in the way I'm referring to the word, isn't just a thought. It also includes emotions. Where your mind and body meet, emotion will arise. It's the body's reaction to the mind. If you cannot feel your emotions and you are cut off from them, you'll eventually feel them on a physical level.

An example of this is people that carry a lot of anger inside without expressing it. They are more likely to be attacked either physically or verbally by another angry person.

Feel your body within to focus on your emotions. Allow them to be expressed when you are in a comfortable, safe and personal place. Most of us grow up being made to control and hold in our emotions. Feelings must not be judged. Feelings 'just are.'

Be In The Moment to Control Your Mind

When you allow yourself to be in the moment, you are being your deepest self. The noisy 'chitter-chatter' that goes on and on in the mind will come to a complete stop. This is a powerful way to switch from negative thinking to more positive thoughts.

We live in fast times with fast food and fast thoughts. How many times do you really taste the chocolate flavor, texture and smells of a chocolate dessert or snack? We wolf the delicious food down, not even remembering we ate it. We don't even live in the moment as we enjoy one of life's greatest pleasures - eating.

Author, Eckhart Tolle, describes 'being' as "Being can be felt as the ever-present I am that is beyond name and form. To feel and thus to know that you are and to abide in that deeply rooted state is enlightenment."

Meditation Quiets The Mind

In 2006 I lost my son to cancer. The pain and emptiness devoured my mind every minute of every day for years. To talk to me, you'd think I was one of the happiest, bravest souls on the planet. Hiding my grief became a pattern. But my heart had an enormous hole that could not be filled.

One day, while watching television, my remote led me to a channel featuring author and speaker, Deepak Chopra. The sound of his calm, smooth, voice seemed inviting. Listening intently, he began to talk about meditation's healing effects. This intrigued me enough to investigate this practice.

When I tell you that as I became seasoned at meditating, my life changed, it really did. Learning how to control my thinking set me on a direct path toward accepting my son's death. I'm a changed person.

Meditation is a personal creative experience. As you practice, you begin to understand that there is another way to view reality than the way you have always taken for granted. You come to learn that your problems are based on fear.

These first insights only occur when you are in your most quiet and self-collected moments. The clarity and reassurance you're beginning to feel will pour out into your daily tasks. You'll find that you're not as sensitive as before, not so defensive and not so rushed and anxious.

You will discover inner joy, inner gladness, and inner light. You give up one way of being and grow into another.

The power of regular meditation helps you discover your true self.

How to Quiet The Mind With Self-Talk

Good coping skills lie in both the self-talk and the different ways of interpreting events over time. It might be useful to recast our various assumptions about the nature of self-talk into one or more of the four following statements:

  1. Only I can upset myself which I do with my self-talk.
  2. My inner dialogue is something I've learned so I can learn new ones to replace wrong thinking.
  3. Although it may be difficult to change old patterns, with effort, and persistence, I can change.
  4. Ultimately I can regulate the nature, intensity, and duration of my emotional responses.

With these assumptions as a foundation, we are ready to begin addressing specific patterns of self-talk and replacing any dysfunctional and stress-producing thoughts with functional and health-enhancing thoughts.

In Conclusion: Key Points To Remember

As we learn to use some of these techniques for choosing positive thoughts over negative ones we may even run into a miracle now and then. Don't be surprised if this happens to you.

Here are some key points to take with you:

  • Living in a state of uninterrupted peace and bliss is your natural state.
  • You can learn to free yourself from the enslavement of the mind.
  • Practice the list of strategies to interrupt any negative self-talk.
  • Negative thinking is a habit and can be changed to positive thinking.
  • Your perception influences your thoughts and interpretation.
  • Use mental imagery, (imagination) to change your perception.
  • Focusing on your emotions is your body's reaction to your mind.
  • Avoid judging feelings.
  • Live in the moment.
  • Quiet your mind, (the chit-chat.)
  • Practice meditation each day to quiet your mind and to transform your life.
  • Ego is our false self and blocks who we really are. We can only see clearly when we are without ego.
  • When you have a choice to either be right or to be kind always choose to be kind.

Focus on all that is good. One way to do this is to keep a daily gratitude list. And allow plenty of patience as you practice these new concepts. You may forget some of these points for being positive from time to time. That is perfectly okay. You will eventually grow to the point where your choice to be positive will move you to divine love.

Watch your thoughts, they become your words

Watch your words, they become your actions

Watch your actions, they become your habits

Watch your habits, they become your character

Watch your character, it becomes your destiny

Unknown

Resources

www.psychologytoday.com/ June 28, 2013

The Power Of Now - Eckhart Tolle - Namaste Publishing and New World Library, Novato, Ca.

7 Habits of Highly Effective People - Stephen R. Covey

Manifest Your Destiny - Wayne W. Dyer - Harper Collins Publisher

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2014 Audrey Hunt

Comments

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on March 29, 2018:

Dolores

Thank you for your comments and the wisdom in your words. We can't escape negativity, however, we can control how it affects us. I, like you, spend time outdoors, hiking and gardening. Nature provides a healthy outlet for negativity. Playing a musical instrument works well too!

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on March 29, 2018:

Dolores

Thank you for your comments and the wisdom in your words. We can't escape negativity, however, we can control how it affects us. I, like you, spend time outdoors, hiking and gardening. Nature provides a healthy outlet for negativity. Playing a musical instrument works well too!

Dolores Monet from East Coast, United States on March 27, 2018:

Hi Audrey - well said. We all have to contend with negative thoughts, but to allow those thoughts to rule us is dangerous. I find that spending time outdoors in nature, going for walks can help banish those dark emotions. When we look at ourselves for too long, we forget everything else including the good stuff.

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on January 31, 2016:

healthylife2

Thanks for taking time to read my hub. I'm thrilled to hear that it packs value for you. (I keep reading it myself:)

Hurrah for you and your desire to use the tips in this article. Let me know how you're doing.

Audrey

healthylife2 on January 29, 2016:

So often people say just be positive but it is easier said than done. This is an excellent article because it offers some very practical tips that are easy to follow. I am going to put these tips into practice and see what happens.

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on March 15, 2015:

Kristen Howe - My best to you my friend. Let me know how it goes. My thoughts are with you and thanks.

Claudia Mathews - I appreciate your comments so much. Thank you Claudia!

Claudia Mathews on March 01, 2015:

We all struggle with this. You have created a wonderful resource of information here. Thanks for writing such a helpful article.

Kristen Howe from Northeast Ohio on March 01, 2015:

Thanks Audrey for the tips. I'l give it a go after church today. It just might work. Thanks for the condolences, too, my friend.

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on March 01, 2015:

Kristen - I'm sorry about the loss of your mother. This is very hard and you have my sympathy. When you meditate, try to completely empty your mind and just focus on the sound of OM as you breathe in and out. Visualize yourself writing easily and effortlessly like a non-stop fountain of water. Picture yourself as an ever-flowing waterfall full of sweet energy. The words pour from you on to your writing tablet. It's like you can't stop the words from flowing one after the other.

Do this repeatedly. Let me know what happens.

Create in your mind exactly what you want. Be precise and consistent.

Hugs to you Kristen. Thank you.

Audrey

Kristen Howe from Northeast Ohio on February 23, 2015:

Great hub, Audrey. It's so real useful and knowledgeable. As for meditation, I've began to do mini meditations and one walking one to church, since I've been having a dry spell in the writing world of having no creative ideas to write a new novel. It's been this way for six months, since my mother died last March and when I had Shingles last summer. Any ideas on meditation and such?

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on October 29, 2014:

strictlydating

It's great to see you here. Being positive is so much easier than going around with a negative attitude. There is something good that comes from every bad situation if we just look hard enough. Thanks.

StrictlyQuotes from Australia on October 28, 2014:

Great advice and I agree!

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on October 21, 2014:

Dearest Bobbi

Please take your time - the video isn't going anywhere. I'm just so happy to see you here. Your body must come first. If it doesn't, nothing else will. Sending lovely, healing thoughts your way sweet Bobbi - Audrey

janshares

How wonderful to find you here. I admire your writing and your poetic nature so much. Thank you for supporting my hub with your positive comments. Come back anytime my friend. Meanwhile, remember that you are a beautiful diamond. Your sparkle and light touches everyone including me. - Audrey

Janis Leslie Evans from Washington, DC on October 21, 2014:

Oh, vocalcoach, this is such an important article. It's a tutorial that anyone could benefit from on finding peace by taking control and being positive. It really is a choice, so true. You've done an excellent and comprehensive job with so many helpful hints and techniques. I will need to refer back to this hub for myself and for my clients. Voted up, useful, and awesome.

Barbara Purvis Hunter from Florida on September 23, 2014:

Hi,

It is 12:03 am and I finally made it back. I feel empowered in my heart but my tired body says no.

I will try to return to watch the video tomorrow. Have a wonderful night.

Bobbi Purvis

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on September 15, 2014:

torrs13

You have the secret to a happy life down pat my friend. By waking up with gratitude on your mind you've actually thrown yourself a life preserver for whatever may come. I love it!

mdscoggins

You have a marvelous, positive attitude. Feeding your mind nutritious thoughts will always lead you to a happy, healthy life. Thanks so much.

moneymindit

You gave me quite a chuckle reminding me about Tolle's voice. LOL. I have to agree with you as I have caught myself wincing more than once :) Dr, Dyer, on the other-hand speaks with a soothing delivery.

I'll be over to visit you soon. Thanks.

midget38

I do hope your mom enjoys my hub. I've learned that some folks just prefer to be on the negative side. The "shhh" affect really does work. Thanks so much.

ThatMommyBlogger

Oh thank you. Her name is Jennifer and she will soon be my daughter-in-law. She makes and plays the violin. I love her so much!

midget38

Yes, my friend - being positive is always a choice. Thank you and happy thoughts!

Michelle Liew from Singapore on September 15, 2014:

We choose to be positive, no matter how hard our circumstances are. Well said, Audrey! Shared!

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on September 07, 2014:

rasta1

Your message is one to remember as we live our lives. Live in the moment! Thank you.

Hackslap -

Your point is well taken. Thank you for contributing this wise advice.

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on September 07, 2014:

mylindaelliott

Yes, I totally agree with you. The most powerful tool is our own mind. Appreciate your thoughts.

Peggy W

The word 'stop' works wonders for me. It's really quite amazing how just one word can make such a big difference.

Thank you Peggy for sharing and pinning my hub - Audrey

Tom Rubenoff

Hello Tom and how are you? Yes, I agree that as long as we have a choice, happiness is a better way to go. Having said this, I am convinced that some people actually prefer the negative. I have a relative like this. Regardless of how I try to help her see the positive side of things, she always wants to argue in defense of the worst outcome. Thank you Tom.

Missy from The Midwest on September 06, 2014:

That picture of the girl with the violin is so beautiful.

Michelle Liew from Singapore on August 18, 2014:

I love this and will send it to my mum, who is prone to negative thinking. I love the "shh" measure! Simple yet effective!!

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on July 25, 2014:

LadyFiddler - You have taken responsibility for living a happier life. I believe the Good Lord wants us to have joy. Keep those positive vibrations going. Thank you!

Joanna Chandler from On Planet Earth on July 25, 2014:

Sure right we are confined only by the WALLS we build around us. I use to be very negative and complaining always but the Lord has done something for me and i am being more positive and trying to say everyday today is going to be a good day etc no matter what. I am instilling that positive vibration and yes i am feeling much up spirited.

Thanks for sharing .

Money Man from California on July 10, 2014:

Excellent hub! You have a new follower. I like the resources you mentioned with one exception, Eckhart Tolle. He says so much without really saying anything. And that voice. Ay, ay, ay. LOL!!! On the contrary, Wayne Dyer gets to the point. He offers solid information one can use.

I look forward to reading your other hubs.

MM

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on July 02, 2014:

Crissylite - You are so welcome and than you for being here.

Hi moonlake - Yes, it's not easy to always be positive - in fact it's impossible. And like you, I don't like being around negative people and I have one in my immediate family. It's tough when the most negative person is related to you. Thanks for your vote up!

brakel2 - Hello dear lady. Very nice to read your comments. I like your idea of looking at paintings and inspiring photos to replace bad thoughts. A walk through a gallery is also calming. Your personal comment lifts my spirit and warms my heart. Thank you Audrey and blessings to you too.

Michelle Scoggins from Fresno, CA on June 30, 2014:

Hi Vocalcoach - great hub. Being positive is truly a choice even in the midst of something bad happening. Life becomes easier to manage and your heart is light when you work hard at warding off negativity. Thanks for the reminder of skills to use. Voted Up.

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on June 23, 2014:

Happyboomernurse -Thanks so much for reading my hub.I study at length, these other books and interpretate the message that fit in to my main message, I'm ordering :I can see clearly now and excited about reading this new book of Dr, Dyer. I learn so much good stuff from him. Thanks my friend for being here. I appreciate you kind support. - Audrey

Tori Canonge from North Carolina on June 22, 2014:

So very true! We have the power to control our thoughts and put positive thinking at the forefront. Sure, sometimes that is going to be easier than others, but it is possible. I like to wake up each morning and name out some things that I'm thankful for, such as having a roof over my head and a job that allows me to take care of myself. By starting the day off in a positive mindset, I find that I'm more prone to continue with that positive thinking throughout the day. Great hub!

Harry from Sydney, Australia on June 22, 2014:

While its good to have a goal and plan ..don't obsess over it as things rarely will go according to when you want them to happen ..i.e. the universe knows best. .its best to take life as it comes and do your bit in terms of hard work

Marvin Parke from Jamaica on June 19, 2014:

Living in the moment is the best option because that moment will be gone shortly. And the only thing left will be the present moment again.

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on June 17, 2014:

Dim Flaxenwick - Hello dear lady. Thank you for both your 'positive' comments and for voting up and sharing 'all over the place.'

Tom rubenoff from United States on June 14, 2014:

Thinking positive is choosing happiness. Why not choose happiness? Thank you for writing this wonderful article.

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on June 14, 2014:

I would never have thought to shout STOP if negative thoughts enter my mind. I may not shout it but will certainly think it for future use. You have made some excellent points in this hub and it offers empowerment for those people who wish to banish negative thoughts which all come at times to most people sooner or later. I also enjoyed reading most of the comments made on this post. Sharing this and pinning to my health board.

mylindaelliott from Louisiana on May 31, 2014:

Those are all wonderful tips. We decide and can use a variety of tools to help our attitude to be positive.

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on May 30, 2014:

abbaelijah - Hello my friend. Thank you for enjoying my hub. I'm happy to find that you learned from this.

Kathryn Stratford - Being able to 'help ourselves' by changing our thinking is a wonderful gift. I'm so glad you feel this way.

Thank you for sharing my hub on Facebook and with HP followers. Bookmarking is something I like to do as well with hubs of interest to me. You have great and happy days ahead. ~ Audrey

Audrey Selig from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma on May 30, 2014:

Hi Audrey - What a positive hub. It is so true that we must do self talk to get us out of any negative feelings. Sid Kemp, in his hub, says we can even look at an inspiring photo or painting to make our minds quiet. I do this all the time to make bad thoughts go away. Who wants bad thoughts? You brought all these ideas together in one hub with beautiful pics and video. You are an amazing lady, Audrey. It is so nice to know you. Sharing this hub that you shared with us. Blessings, Audrey

moonlake from America on May 30, 2014:

I try to be positive and at times that can be hard. I really hate being around people that are not positive. I think when you are not positive it does cause things to get worse. Voted up on your hub.

Crissylite on May 30, 2014:

Great article! & Thanks for sharing the resources.

Gail Sobotkin from South Carolina on May 30, 2014:

Dear Audrey,

Wow! I came here expecting to be uplifted and to learn new pearls of wisdom about the benefits of choosing positive thoughts and have to say you delivered both in this informative, upbeat hub.

I recently finished Dr. Wayne Dyer's "I Can See Clearly Now," and have read the other books you listed as resources and can see that you've taken some things from each of them, but also added your own unique viewpoint and tips about choosing positive thoughts and banishing negative ones.

And the last picture of your daughter to be, Jennifer Halenar, whom you dedicated this hub to, made me smile. She's beautiful and it's great that she shares your love and joy of music!

Am voting this up and sharing.

Sending a Bouquet of Blessings, Hugs & Love,

Gail

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on May 29, 2014:

TotalHealth - I like the way you think. We seem to be so busy thinking about ourselves, we fail to consider those that have no shelter, food or someone to care for them. Wonderful comment from you.

I spent quite a bit of time in Hermosa Beach growing up. I imagine I wouldn't recognize it now. How nice that you live there.

Thank you for stopping by and will visit you soon. ~ Audrey

Dim Flaxenwick from Great Britain on May 29, 2014:

This is a brilliant, all-encompassing hub and one l sorely needed to read.

Voted up up all over the place. Thank you.

Kathryn from Windsor, Connecticut on May 28, 2014:

What a beautiful article on something everyone can identify with! I always like to change my way of thinking when I start feeling down. We really can make ourselves feel better, and I like that you have given us some suggestions of how to do it.

I am bookmarking this to read again, and sharing it on Facebook and here on HubPages. Voted up!

Thanks for sharing this with us, and have a wonderful week.

~ Kathryn

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on May 27, 2014:

Lady E - Hello my friend. I am glad you found my hub on Twitter. How nice of Vellur to post there.

Thank you for enjoying this.

Vellur - Just want to thank you for posting my hub on Twitter. Lady E found my hub there. I really appreciate your sharing my post!

elijagod from Abuja - Nigeria on May 27, 2014:

Thanks for this wonderful hub.

I enjoyed and have learn a lot from it !

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on May 26, 2014:

suzettenaples - Thank you very much for sharing your meditation with me. This is pretty much how I use meditation. It's nice to share this with you.:)

Vellur - I get the feeling that you are positive most of the time. Your wonderful, light, personality, along with your magnificent hubs, reflects this. Thanks for voting up!

TotalHealth from Hermosa Beach, CA on May 26, 2014:

Excellent hub! Too often people lose sight of personal perspective. Although is it human to covet that they do not possess, unfortunately this can be an effort in futility that leads to demoralizing and destructive emotional outcomes. Thus, be appreciative of everything you have because there is someone wishing they had the basic desires of life - food and water, a safe place to rest at night, and people who care about them.

Elena from London, UK on May 26, 2014:

Being positive - a very healthy Choice. Thanks for the inspiration and thanks to Vellur for sharing on Twitter....or I wouldn't have found it. :-)

Nithya Venkat from Dubai on May 25, 2014:

Great hub, after reading your hub I feel more positive than ever. Being positive makes life a breeze! Great write, voted up.

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on May 23, 2014:

no body - Very well stated and I agree. My reference is geared to those who live with a negative attitude - those who's perception is mostly negative.

I like your "state of relaxed readiness." Very well put. When I pray and give thanks to my Maker for all He has given me, I have no reason to be anything but positive.

I am hoping that my hub is somehow beneficial to those of us who are put in a negative environment from time to time and choose to remain positive.

Thank you Bob for being here and taking time to read and post your comments. I appreciate all that you have said.

Looking forward to reading your hubs and have a magnificent day. ~ Audrey

Suzette Walker from Taos, NM on May 23, 2014:

I meditate on a need to basis. Right now it's everyday I'm trying to meditate. The amount of meditation I do is in direct proportion to the stress in my life. It helps to keep the positive thoughts flowing.

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on May 23, 2014:

suzettenaples - You are just the kind of person I enjoy hanging out with. Wonderful attitude! It's pretty amazing that by using a simple word like 'stop' how we can replace a negative thought with a positive thought.

How and when do you use meditation? Is it a daily thing or just when you think you need it? Thanks in advance for answering my question and a big thanks for your great comments. ~ Audrey

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on May 23, 2014:

MartieCoester - I always light up like a sun beam when you come to visit. It doesn't surprise me to hear that you also are a fan of Eckhart Tolle and I have to read through his book more than once to absorb it all. :)

I like your "replacing two positive thoughts for every negative thought."

Some days I walk around using the mental "stop" all day long. Those are the times I grow the most. It's an on-going process.

I agree that negativity is a thief of our peace and joy and thank you for adding this.

Thank you Martie for adding your own wisdom to this hub. I love your "carpe diem." Gives me such a boost for the day.

Enjoy the moment my dear friend ~ Audrey

Robert E Smith from Rochester, New York on May 21, 2014:

Lady Debbie, I have been back long enough to write one article. I am working on another and working to get my Commenter level back up where it was and maybe a little more. It is nice to be around all my friends again. I love you all. Bob.

Debra Allen from West By God on May 21, 2014:

Hey Bob, I have been gone myself and almost left here but an back now. So you have not missed much. On a positive note I have written a few new hubs and am working on one right now. Have a great day! Debbie

Robert E Smith from Rochester, New York on May 21, 2014:

Thank you Lady G. I haven't spoken to you in a while. Hope all is well. I will have to catch up sometime to see what I have missed in the months I have been gone. Bob.

Debra Allen from West By God on May 21, 2014:

Hey no body I think that is a cool way of putting it.

Robert E Smith from Rochester, New York on May 21, 2014:

I have often wondered how a person could be a "James Bond" and grow old and retire like some people I have read about and seen in magazines and on television. As well as people like the old west sheriffs and law men would know how to handle physical and mental stress on a moment's notice and then be cool and calm in the next. I know that stress mounts in the body and must be dealt with. I understand that mental rehashing or future envisioning cause the body to be overloaded. Yet in life things come at you in milliseconds and if you are to survive you have to be in a state of readiness. You have to be aware of your surrounding and ready to react if that change means danger. So a certain amount of adrenaline will be at the ready. That has to be damaging but I know when I am in a state of relaxation, I am in my good place with God. I am praying or singing or whatever the Spirit moves in me. If someone were to attack at that time or there was an emergency at that time, I am too "far away" to react to save myself or others. So I have to believe there is a "safe place" as far as stress factors go so you can be on the alert and yet be constantly sloughing off the excess stress out of your mind/body. I am not sure that is completely clear but it may be the only way I can say it. "A State Of Relaxed Readiness." What do you think?

Suzette Walker from Taos, NM on May 17, 2014:

Audrey, what a wonderful hub. I am familiar with Eckhart Tolle and his philosophy and works. Meditation is part of my life and it does wonders. Also, your suggestions and tips on thinking positive are spot on. I like your suggestion of just the word, stop! to get rid of negative thoughts. I had to chuckle at that because it is so simple to re-direct our thoughts. Thanks for reminding us what is important in this world and how to think only positive thoughts.

Martie Coetser from South Africa on May 17, 2014:

Eckhart Tolle's "The Power of Now" has changed me radically. And I haven't even read the entire book due to his ponderous writing style.

Excellent advice on "How To Stop Negative Thinking" - I have practised it all and still do. As punishment for a negative thought, I had to replace it with 2 positive thoughts. That's when I've learned how to appreciate the feeling of sun rays on my bare arms.

Negative thoughts are the thieves of our peace and joy. We have to kill them before they kill us!

Carpe diem!

Excellent hub, Audrey.

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on May 15, 2014:

LadyFiddler - I'm still playing your lovely voice in my mind. I am America's Singing Teacher and have heard millions of voices in my life. Yours is pure, clear and right on key. I'm so glad to find you here and thank you for sharing your kind comments. Blessings - vocalcoach

Joanna Chandler from On Planet Earth on May 15, 2014:

Waw i am learning the violin also is it your daughter-in-law to be you mean? does she have a website?

Thanks for sharing such a detailed hub about positive thinking. It's true the way we think affects our physical and mental. I use to be very negative but in 2014 God has helped me to turn my negativity into positivity and whenever i get discourage I remember "Joseph Scriven" the man who wrote the words to the song. WHAT A FRIEND WE HAVE IN JESUS, OH WHAT PEACE WE OFTEN FORFEIT ALL BECAUSE WE DO NOT CARRY EVERYTHING TO GOD IN PRAYER. I wrote a hub on it, its very interesting.

Have a bless day Vocal

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on May 14, 2014:

Lady G - I agree with Rusticliving - "You hit it right on the head." Thanks for your support.

teaches12345 - Singing works every time! So pleased to see you here and thanks for your kind comments. Happy days ~

Dianna Mendez on May 13, 2014:

I like your points to remember section, very much what will keep one in check. Also, I do sing around the home when I need a boost in spirit. Thanks for the advice.

Liz Rayen from California on May 13, 2014:

Well said Lady Guinevere!!!!!! You hit it right on the head!

Hugs!!!!!!

Debra Allen from West By God on May 13, 2014:

"However, she did criticize Christianity, the Bible, and me; I was merely trying to convince her that she needed to acknowledge these attitudes. She also never sought to refute my argument that Christ is the only way to God; no method of positive thinking or meditation can deal with the issue of sin against a holy Creator."

That is only your perception and I did neither. Positive bring positive period and it has nothing to do with you as such in my or anyone else's life.

All this hub is saying is that if you stop the negative thoughts that come to mind such as: I doubt myself and I hate others and others are not as perfect as I am and also that I do not feel qualified to express my opinions or even as simple as I do not think that I can do such and such. Now replace them with FAITH and hope and visualize you doing those things that is bringing in a positiveness to your life. Those are hard to do once someone gets into others heads that they are always going to do bad and they must ask someone outside of themselves to do something that is totally within that person or individual. I will not banter scripture because this is NOT what this hub is about.

Love one another as thyself and do unto others as you would have them to unto you.....well that is in scripture but it is not only in that one book that is read.

Attitude begins within the person or individual. It does not come from something outside of oneself. Having a positive attitude for oneself is not being selfish.

Debra Allen from West By God on May 12, 2014:

I want to tell you that I did use your positive thoughts and wrote my last hub about gardening instead of using negative thoughts towards the person here who attacked me. Thank you so much for this hub. It does work and I did enjoy writing my gardening hub very much. It took my mind off of negative things. HUGS!

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on May 11, 2014:

Dear Rusticliving - "Thank you" just isn't a big enough word to show you my appreciation for what you have done for me here. The degree of support both for me and for the principles of my hub is beyond commendable. I am so very blessed! I honor and respect you both as my daughter and as my friend ~

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on May 11, 2014:

travmaj - Hello dear lady. I'm delighted to see you here and to find your uplifting comments waiting for me to read. To know that my hub as inspired you is so much more than I had hoped for. Thank you and may peace and joy go with you. ~ Audrey

Jodah - Oh, my sweet friend - how can I thank you for coming to my rescue? My eyes are filled with tears of gratitude. I send you a heart full of thanks for writing and reminding me of the obvious. You are a treasure!

travmaj from australia on May 11, 2014:

Thank you for this, it's exactly what I needed to read today. I intend to implement your positive suggestions immediately. You inspired me and I shall be bookmarking and re reading. Voting.

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on May 11, 2014:

Neil Sperling - It is? I hadn't noticed. Thanks for clarifying this. But what has the size of the glass to do with being negative or positive?

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on May 11, 2014:

Dear Genna East - I thank you for your positive comments. I know it can be quite challenging, but the practice is well worth the time as we learn how to interrupt negative self-talk. Staying in the moment is the secret to success. Thanks Genna for voting up and for sharing!

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on May 11, 2014:

Meisjunk - My answer is absolutely yes! I also deleted much of the dialogue between these two commenters. This is no place for this type of negativity. It underminds what my whole purpose is about. I'm grateful to you for speaking up and do hope you will return again. Thank you!

John Hansen from Queensland Australia on May 11, 2014:

Hi Audrey. I fail to see how this hub attracted any negative comments. Just take heart that 99% of your readers agreed with the statements made here and the thoughts expressed. 13 Awesome, 13 Useful, 9 Interesting and 7 Beautiful so far says a lot. I wouldn't worry about one person's negative comment.

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on May 11, 2014:

Hi AliciaC - How are things in British Columbia, Canada? It's great to see you here. Thanks for finding my hub inspiring and for liking my suggestions for banishing negativity. It's my pleasure to share this advice and to help you live a happier life.

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on May 11, 2014:

Hello WillStarr - I like your new avatar. I'm so glad to see you here. This hub has certainly ruffled some feathers. Your are like a breath of fresh air. Your Dad and mine were both big on positive thinking. Thanks for the link to Norman Vincent Peal's "The Power of Positive Thinking." I allowed someone to borrow my copy. I will order another for me. You are the absolute best Will!

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on May 11, 2014:

carter06 - I'm very happy to hear that you liked my hub. And I love this - "learning to change your self talk is the key for sure and changes perceptions - and lifts the weight of negativity and cynicism." Excellent! I'm so glad you dropped by and hope you visit again real soon. And "Happy Mothers Day." - Audrey

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on May 11, 2014:

DeaverTex - Oh, my friend, it's achievable at any time. You've most likely been 'brain-washed' with negativity most of your life. It takes a strong desire, along with courage to begin changing our way of thinking. You are still young enough to begin an exciting path to positive thinking. I read a quote recently that I'd like to share with you. "Success is a little like wrestling a gorilla. You don't quit when you're tired - you quit when the gorilla is tired." This is kind of how we go about changing our thoughts.

I want to thank you for reading this hub Deaver. If I can help you in any way at any time just let me know. - Audrey

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on May 11, 2014:

mckbirdbks - Thanks so much for being here my friend. Your kind words warm my heart and make me smile. I learned to cultivate a positive attitude from my Daddy. He used to say "Nothing is good or bad, it's thinking that makes it so." The pay-off for being positive is attracting wonderful, positive friends like you!

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on May 10, 2014:

mckbirdbks - Thank you so much. Your kind comments warm my heart. I appreciate you.

Liz Rayen from California on May 10, 2014:

Woo hoo... I just won $5 bucks!.. thank you glynch1!

glynch1 on May 10, 2014:

Your perception of my conversation with Lady G is in error. I did not attack her (personally); I disagreed with her beliefs. She, on the other hand, denigrated the Scriptures and me.

I have no doubt that you believe your mother's hub was a "very positive thing." She included some helpful comments; however, the basis for her philosophy is very serious spiritual error. I do believe "this" is about truth. I believe in absolute truth; New Agers do not. If I read spiritual error, I must correct it with the truth of Scripture for the sakes of the author and of those who read it.

Liz Rayen from California on May 10, 2014:

glynch1,

I will not get in the same back and forth he said she said.. as for my comment.. I read my statement again and it should have said ...nature, OR that higher power that.. so that was my typo bad.. as for your back and forth comments to lady G. I perceived it as both of you attacking one another , again my perception as the conversation between you both did get heated. Either way, it was throwing a negativity light upon something that is a very positive thing. I have read and re-read your comments, however, this is not about what you, Lady G, myself, or anyone else believes, or whether anyone is right or wrong...this is about respect for the author and the those who do come to read the hub.

as for rereading hubs.. this hub needs to be reread as well. Have a great day my friend! ♥

glynch1 on May 10, 2014:

Rusticliving,

You wrote: "For the record, this hub has not touched anywhere on religion OR new age thinking at all. It is SIMPLY a positive way to help ourselves delete those "negative" thoughts that we as humans tend to get occasionally (Some more than others) and suggestions on how we can do this. Meditation is one way (by the way... meditation is very healthy for the mind & body, a great stress release and yes, a form of communicating with nature, that higher power of which you may believe in) . . .

Your comment says the hub has nothing to do with New Age philosophy at all; yet you call meditation "a form of communication with nature, that higher power . . . " First, seeking to communicate with nature is right out this philosophy/religion. Second, nature is not a "higher power" unless you equate nature with God. That belief amounts to pantheism. The true God created mankind to manage and rule over the rest of His creation. Third, the authors the hub cites (namely, Tolle and Dyer) are either New Age spirituality, self-help, self-actualization, or New Thought writers/speakers.

I did not personally attack Lady G; I only pointed out that following these New Age meditation methods will not obtain eternal salvation for her or anyone else who subscribes to them.

However, she did criticize Christianity, the Bible, and me; I was merely trying to convince her that she needed to acknowledge these attitudes. She also never sought to refute my argument that Christ is the only way to God; no method of positive thinking or meditation can deal with the issue of sin against a holy Creator.

My friend, you needed to read my comments more carefully.

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on May 10, 2014:

glynch1,

Thank you for your comment. God Bless you :)

Liz Rayen from California on May 10, 2014:

Enters.... the daughter to the rescue.....

First of all, let me say this to vocalcoach; Knowing you as I really do, you have written another wonderful insightful hub that I have no doubt will be a great inspiration to some who read and apply it. With that said and done, I need to reply to the conversation between glynch1 and Lady Guinevere.

I LOVE reading comments when people have so much passion in what they believe and stand for. Isn't it wonderful that we live in today's society where we can voice our own thoughts and opinions? The sad thing is that when it takes a very positive message and turns it into a negative experience to all the others who visit the page in hopes to read something inspirational.

The conversation between you both has sadden my mom greatly in so that I have encouraged her to delete the conversation just between the two of you, but not your original comments to her regarding the hub.

For the record, this hub has not touched anywhere on religion OR new age thinking at all. It is SIMPLY a positive way to help ourselves delete those "negative" thoughts that we as humans tend to get occasionally (Some more than others) and suggestions on how we can do this. Meditation is one way (by the way... meditation is very healthy for the mind & body, a great stress release and yes, a form of communicating with nature, that higher power of which you may believe in) singing is another way and other ways that have been duly noted in this hub.

I believe that if two people have a strong opinion with each other which finds them attacking one another, it's best to address each other in private.

Lady Guinevere, I have loved your writings forever! and glynch1, I hope to learn more about you through your hubs.

Please let us all be mindful of our thoughts before we put them to paper... I know.... Let's SING!

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on May 10, 2014:

fpherj48 - When I read your comments Paula, I always feel a ray of sunshine on my shoulders. Your words add validity to what I've written which puts a big smile on my face.

Love what you've said about how interrupting negative thoughts takes practice - but does become easier in time. I find that relationships, whether family, friends or business, provides us with a daily opportunity to practice kicking negativity in the butt!

Thanks so much for being such a positive and good friend. I appreciate the generous votes too. Hugs, Audrey

Neil Sperling from Port Dover Ontario Canada on May 10, 2014:

The glass is twice as big as it needs to be based on the liquid therein. ;-)

Genna East from Massachusetts, USA on May 10, 2014:

Our choice…absolutely true! “What you perceive becomes your reality.” At times, it is challenging to rid ourselves of a little negativity on the really hard days, but we can overcome this with staying positive “in the moment.” This is a wonderful hub! Voted up and sharing. :-)

Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on May 08, 2014:

Nell Rose - I'm glad you like the idea of saying "stop." I use this word a lot to interrupt my thoughts (especially of the past.) It takes some practice but it does work. Thank you for voting up and sharing.

Hello dear Faith Reaper - It's always so nice to hear from you and to receive the blessings you send my way. Each day seems to bring a new challenge and therefore a new blessing. Thank you for adding to mine.

always exploring - Oh, I'm just thrilled that you have been putting this form of interruption into your thoughts. And it's working! Yeaaaah Ruby!

prasetio30 - Hello my friend. We have been hub friends for 4 years now. I have always known you to be very positive and most kind. Thank you so much!

Anamika S - Thank you for sharing your thoughts my friend. Yes, it is through our own thinking and actions that make our life what it is. A powerful lesson to learn. Thank you!

abbaelijah - Thank you for seeing the truth. And thank you even more for appreciating what you have learned here. My best to you!

rajan jolly - It took me time to realize that I could change my life through my perception. It is a powerful thing. I am not at all surprised that you live with this belief. You are an amazing person! Thank you for the kind votes.

Jennifer Kessner from Pennsylvania on May 08, 2014:

Aubrey, are you going to monitor these two commenters? I ask because the comments on here changed very quickly to negative with their purposeful goading. Now I don't want to visit this page again, when before I kept coming back to see how others' lives had been helped.

Linda Crampton from British Columbia, Canada on May 05, 2014:

This is a very inspiring hub, Audrey. I love your suggestions for banishing negativity! Thank you for sharing all the great advice.

WillStarr from Phoenix, Arizona on May 04, 2014:

Excellent, Audrey. Dad was always big on positive thinking, and this book was on our shelves:

http://books.google.com/books/about/The_Power_of_P...

Mary from Cronulla NSW on May 04, 2014:

This is fantastic vocalcoach..learning to change your self talk is the key for sure and changes perceptions.. and lifts the weight of negativity and cynicism..really helpful to include ways to go about this as well, good job..

Cheers

John Adams from Austin, TX on May 04, 2014:

Oh dear. I'm afraid that before I accomplish anything else I need to get rid of the one person in my life who is unfailingly the most negative, can't-do, you're-making-a-fool-of-yourself person I've ever known. That would be me, and I suspect that to be the case for many or even most of us. Getting rid of that person (relax -- I'm speaking metaphorically!) means changing so many of the things I've been taught and have learned in the last 63 years that it's a daunting task.

I'm not even certain it's achievable at this late date.

mckbirdbks from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas on May 04, 2014:

There is a reason that you are such a success in life and it is in part because of your right mental attitude. Great advice.

glynch1 on May 04, 2014:

Following your suggestions may help one in some temporal ways; however, they do not resolve the issue of sin against a holy Creator. New Age "thinking" will never give one peace because it is built on the wrong foundation.

Suzie from Carson City on May 04, 2014:

Audrey...This hub is a winner from beginning to end. I am always dealing with that infamous half-full/half-empty glass of joy when going through each ordinary day (Great image on which to focus)....

Chasing away any possible negatives and welcoming that which is "positive," becomes easier, the longer we practice. The rewards are worthwhile.

Love the common sense strategies to help halt negative thinking.....I have put a few of these into action ....they work. For me, just interrupting a negative thought by saying to myself, "For heaven's sake....stop thinking the worst and turn it around, right now!" We just have to hope that few people catch us talking to ourselves!! LOL

Eckhart Tolle is an interesting and brilliant author of enormously helpful b0oks. I watched his intriguing interview with Oprah.

I have had "The Power of NOW" since it first hit the book stores. Mine is highlighted and filled with book markers. Thank you for reminding me to pull this book down from the shelf and refresh!!..UP++ pinned & tweeted

Rajan Singh Jolly from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA. on May 03, 2014:

Excellent write, my friend. I have seen the power of perception and positive thinking and firmly believe perception is the first step to being positive.

Voted up, useful and awesome and sharing.

Have a wonderful weekend, Audrey!

elijagod from Abuja - Nigeria on May 03, 2014:

Thanks for the info.

It is worth reading and I've gain a lot .

Anamika S Jain from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India on May 03, 2014:

Awesome Hub! Thank you. My life has changed ever since I realized that only I can make a difference to my life and negativity can only pull me down from succeeding.

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