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Hitting rock bottom does not signify that a person’s life is over. What it does indicate is that you are the one who has to take the initiative to take back your life. You are more than capable of succeeding, all you need to do is learn from your mistakes and take the opportunity to do it right the next time.
The life of many successful people starts after hitting rock bottom. The reason to hit rock bottom may vary from person to person. Moreover, there are countless people who tend to sabotage their own life.
There are people from all walks of life that have experienced the problems of hitting rock bottom. It is a time when the person feels like they have nothing else to lose and things cannot get worse for them.
Moreover, there are instances where many intelligent people get inclined to use drugs and alcohol. People start using drugs or alcohol for different reasons, but it has only one result for them which is to hit rock bottom.
The consequences are inevitable when one hits rock bottom. They may face the loss of job, family, friends, and health. It is very painful to see your loved ones taking a wrong path. We then start feeling that by getting proper guidance and help he/she may come out of this problem. Unfortunately, our love, support or help will not solve this problem if he/she does not want to reform.
When a loved one follows the path of self-destruction, no matter how much support you give to them with the hope that he/she will realize their mistake soon, it will always be useless if they refuse to change.
It is difficult to be faced with a choice and it’s tough to have to cut the cord, especially when it comes to a loved one. You will always go on caring for the person no matter what.
We sometimes even go on pleading with our loved one to change their lifestyle by getting some help. I feel at times when a person is on a path of self-destruction, they believe if they misplace their value and worth, a loved one will step in to take care of them—they will find a way to give them back their value and worth.
With this sort of thought, they will continue to sink lower and lower in life and ultimately be at a loss. At some point we realize we have to cut the cord and face reality: They have to want help before we can help.
We need to do this so that they will be able to stand on their own two feet one day and become self-sufficient; they will learn as well as knowing their value and worth.
Now the question is, is there any way to change their mindset? When we start moving out of their life they always know how to bring us back to their lives and again we want to give in.
We have the incorrect notion that expressing more and more love and never tough love can help a loved one to overcome self-destruction.
But is it right to give in, in this circumstance? Certainly not. We need to develop the mind frame that this situation happens to someone who is in the process of self-destruction.
At the outset, we need to realize that we can get caught in a trap. Then we have to put effort to bring a loved one out of their present state of life and let them be confident enough to start a life afresh.
Moreover, if you accept the present situation, they start getting more dependent on you. This will ultimately lead to a more self-destructing behavior.
Irrespective of the fact whether they accept help or chose to continue to fail, we must put the help out there with a mind frame they have hit rock bottom. We must know how to provide tough love to them and never forget the fact that they should be provided to help only when they seek the same.
At times, people who feel lonely, deprived of love and misunderstood by the world, often tend to take the path of self-destruction. We have the incorrect notion that expressing more and more love and never tough love can help a loved one to overcome this state. We should never lose hope on our loved ones who are going through such acute phase and have hit rock bottom.
Though at times you may feel while helping the person that you are being manipulated and risk a chance of losing yourself. But in reality, the majority of people are not aware of the fact that of how they are messing up their own lives.
You can bring a drastic change in their lives by not concentrating on their actions, but just by expressing love generously towards them. After all, hitting rock bottom does not signify that the person’s life is over. By providing ample love, you can assist a loved one to be the best.
Three years ago, I hit rock bottom and the only thing that helped me is that I realized I was headed for rock bottom and I started searching for a solution. The people I thought cared about me the most turn their back on me in my time of need. That instilled in me that if anything needs fixing, I am the one who has to do it.
What I learn from hitting rock bottom: Never trust the opinion of others, and don't listen to another person's views when you have to make an essential decision.
Bear in mind, the decision is being made concerning your life and you will have to live with the consequences of your decision so, make sure it's well thought out and it's your decision—not someone else's opinion.
It only takes making one major wrong decision to hit rock bottom. From my wrong decision, I suffered for days before I figured out any kind of solution. I did not have a lot to eat, but with limited food, I still manage to gain weight. I realize it was stress and I was heading into an unhealthy life. I concluded it was time for a change to my situation.
Determination is the key to any situation, and getting up acting will get you back on the right track. At the bottom is where I realize just how essential it is to take control of my life. On that day I did just that and I want to share with the readers, regardless how far off course you are, that you can turn things around just like I did. Even if you are dealing with the most challenging situation, you can still overcome and win. I did.
Hitting rock bottom sometimes brings suffering in public and shame, even online harassing. It can go as far as crippling a person with devastating anxiety and depression.
Never trust the opinion of others, and don't listen to another person's views when you have to make an essential decision.
What I Learned From Hitting Rock Bottom
There are ways to come back to life after hitting rock bottom. I know because after I hit rock bottom; it affected me dearly as I hit it hard. The thing that is so hard is that nobody can tell you how to cope or deal with such an extreme failure in life.
I was devastated and I had no idea what to do, where to start bouncing back, or how to begin getting my life back. I felt alone and my family tried to be there for me and they knew I needed help, but they couldn't do it for me and I knew nobody could pull me out of this tragedy, but me. I was the only one who could save me. I had to rescue myself.
I didn't change my circumstances until I decide to wake up and stop feeling sorry for myself. It did not happen overnight, but once I allowed all the painful membranes to clear that was affecting me, I was able to take back my life. Here are three ways I came back to life after hitting rock bottom.
- I learned how to deal with my pain and accept failure as part of my development. After the deep cut and the hard heartaches and pain I experienced, I was finally able to go out in public without feeling a shame and once I dealt with the pain I endured and accept failure is part of my growth. That was the beginning stage of me rebuilding my life.
- I started being grateful for all the little things and every good thing that comes to me. Also, I learn to love myself. After I allowed myself to heal and face the reality that I hit rock bottom—which causes me so much pain—I found the peace I was so in search of. That was the point in which I learn to love myself and be my own best supporter. After loving myself, I was able to begin truly living life.
- I took charge of my life and faced the responsibility for my own success. I came to realize the difficult years of my life and why I hit rock bottom was because I fail to take charge of my life and that I did not take on the responsibilities I needed to take in life. I spent too much time feeling sorry and allowing self-pity to assure me. Once I stopped feeling self-pity and took charge and responsibilities in my life, I now live a happy life and love it.
"Part of being a man is learning to take responsibility for your successes."
— Steve Jobs
The Benefit of Hitting Rock Bottom
Hitting rock bottom can bring about success because the only thing left is drive followed by a determination to climb out of a very difficult situation. There is a benefit to hitting rock bottom and what to remember after hitting rock bottom.
First, know and remember there is only one way to go and that is up. Next, you want to stop feeling so sorry for yourself. Take back your life to stand on solid ground.
Now, you want to develop a plan and create goals for self-discovery, to begin redefining yourself. Make sure they are objects that are measurable and reachable, then follow through and forget the past so you can succeed.
Learn from your downfall and create an approach which can bring about a change. The most beneficial thing about hitting rock bottom is you learn from your mistake and can take advantage of your failure and are in the position to try again.
Steve Jobs said it best, "Part of being a man is learning to take responsibility for your successes." Bear in mind, very successful people are the ones who have hit rock bottom and failed before.
Now that you have learned from your mistakes, you also need to discover what drives you to have the freedom to focus on ventures you fully enjoy. From these findings, you can build and solidify your foundation.
What I learned From Hitting Rock Bottom!
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© 2018 Pam Morris
Tim Truzy from U.S.A. on October 20, 2018:
Loved it, Pam. You spoke the truth and I recognized it completely in every word because I work with individuals who have done the same.
I like the solid, positive, insightful, powerful statements you make in this article. Particularly, you encourage people to continually ask: What do you want from your life, your relationships, your family, etc. You challenge people to examine reality and find the fallacies in their thinking. Again, well stated and clear for anybody to learn from.
I loved the fact that you reminded readers mistakes in life are truly the only things we can call our own and its up to us to turn those missteps into a legitimate marathon to success.
Thanks, you are a gifted and talented writer.
Much respect and admiration,
Robert Walker from Atlanta, GA. on October 18, 2018:
Amen & Amen.
Liz Westwood from UK on October 18, 2018:
Thanks for sharing your experience.