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What I Learned From Hitting Rock Bottom

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Taking Back Your Life After Hitting Rock Bottom

Hitting rock bottom does not signify that a person’s life is over. What it indicates is that you are the one who has to take back your life. You are more than capable of succeeding; all you need to do is learn from your mistakes and do it right the next time.

The life of many successful people starts after hitting rock bottom. The reason for hitting rock bottom may vary from person to person. Countless people sabotage their own life.

There are people from all walks of life who have hit rock bottom. It is a time when the person feels like they have nothing else to lose and things cannot get worse for them.

Sometimes many intelligent people get inclined to use drugs and alcohol. People use drugs or alcohol for different reasons, but it has only one result for them, which is hitting rock bottom.

The consequences are inevitable when one hits rock bottom. They may face the loss of a job, family, friends, and health. It is painful to see your loved one taking the wrong path. Getting proper guidance and help means you can overcome the problem. Unfortunately, our love and support will not solve this problem if he/she does not want to reform.


When a Loved One Refuses to Change

When a loved one follows the path of self-destruction, no matter how much support you give them and how much you hope he/she will realize their mistake soon, it will always be useless if they refuse to change.

It is hard to face a choice, and it’s tough to cut the cord, especially for a loved one. You will always go on caring for the person no matter what.

We sometimes even go on pleading with our loved ones to change their lifestyle by getting some help. I feel when a person is on a path of self-destruction; they believe if they misplace their value and worth, a loved one will step in to take care of them—they will give them back their worth and sense of belonging.

With this sort of thought, they will continue to sink lower and lower in life and ultimately be at a loss. At some point, we realize we have to cut the cord and face reality: They have to want help before we can help.

We need to do this so they will stand on their own two feet one day and become self-sufficient; they will learn and know their value and worth.

Now the question is, is there any way to change their mindset? When we move out of their life, they always know how to bring us back to their lives, and again we want to give in.

We have the incorrect notion that expressing more and more love and never tough love can help a loved one overcome self-destruction.

But is it right to give in, in this circumstance? No. We need to develop the mind frame that this situation happens to someone who is in the process of self-destruction.

At the outset, we need to realize that we can get caught in a trap. Then we have to put effort to bring a loved one out of the present state of life and let them be confident enough to start life afresh.

If you accept the present situation, they get more dependent on you. It will ultimately lead to more self-destructing behavior.

Irrespective of the fact whether they accept help or continued to fail, we must help with the mind-frame they have hit rock bottom. We must know how to provide tough love to them and never forget the fact that it should give them help only when they seek the same.

People who feel lonely, deprived of love, and misunderstood by the world often take the path of self-destruction. We have the incorrect notion that expressing more and more love and never tough love can help a loved one overcome self-destruction. We should never lose hope in our loved ones who are going through such an acute phase and have hit rock bottom.

Though you may feel while helping the person you are being manipulated and risk a chance of losing yourself. But in reality, most people are not aware of the fact that of how they are messing up their own lives.


You can bring a drastic change in their lives by not concentrating on their actions, but just by expressing love generously towards them. After all, hitting rock bottom does not signify that the person’s life is over. By providing ample love, you can assist a loved one to be the best.

Three years ago, I hit rock bottom and the only thing that helped me is that I realized I was headed for rock bottom and I started searching for a solution. The people I thought cared about me the most turn their back on me in my time of need. That instilled in me that if anything needs fixing, I am the one who has to do it.

Bear in mind that the decision is being made concerning your life and you will have to live with the consequences of your decision so, make sure it's well thought out and it's your decision—not someone else's opinion.

It only takes making one major wrong decision to hit rock bottom. From my wrong decision, I suffered for days before I figured out any kind of solution. I did not have a lot to eat, but with limited food, I still managed to gain weight. I realized it was stress, and I was heading into an unhealthy life. I concluded it was time for a change in my situation.

Determination is the key to any situation, and getting up acting will get you back on the right track. At the bottom is where I realize just how essential it is to take control of my life. On that day, I did just that, and I want to share with the readers, regardless of how far off course you are, that you can turn things around just like I did. Even if you are dealing with the most challenging situation, you can still overcome and win. I did.

Hitting rock bottom sometimes brings suffering in public and shame, even online harassment. It can go as far as crippling a person with devastating anxiety and depression.

Making a Comeback

There are ways to come back to life after hitting rock bottom. I know because after I hit rock bottom, it affected me dearly as I hit it hard. The thing that is so hard is that nobody can tell you how to cope or deal with such an extreme failure in life.

I was devastated, and I had no idea what to do, where to start bouncing back, or how to begin getting my life back. I felt alone, and my family tried to be there for me. They knew I needed help, but they couldn't do it for me, and I knew nobody could pull me out of this tragedy but me. I was the only one who could save me. I had to rescue myself.

I didn't change my circumstances until I decided to wake up and stop feeling sorry for myself. It did not happen overnight, but once I allowed all the painful membranes to clear that were affecting me, I was able to take back my life. Here are three ways I came back to life after hitting rock bottom.

  1. I learned how to deal with my pain and accept failure as part of my development. After the deep cut and the hard heartaches and pain I experienced, I was finally able to go out in public without feeling shame, and once I dealt with the pain, I endured and accepted failure as part of my growth. That was the beginning stage of rebuilding my life.
  2. I started being grateful for all the little things and every good thing that comes to me. Also, I learn to love myself. After I allowed myself to heal and face the reality that I hit rock bottom—which causes me so much pain—I found the peace I was so in search of. That was the point at which I learned to love myself and be my own best supporter. After loving myself, I was able to begin truly living life.
  3. I took charge of my life and faced the responsibility for my own success. I came to realize the difficult years of my life and that the reason why I hit rock bottom was because I failed to take charge of my life and that I did not take on the responsibilities I needed to take in life. I spent too much time feeling sorry and allowing self-pity to assure me. Once I stopped feeling self-pity and took charge and responsibilities in my life, I now live a happy life and love it.
Yes, it is necessary, and it has shaped many successful people.

Yes, it is necessary, and it has shaped many successful people.

Part of being a man is learning to take responsibility for your successes.

— Steve Jobs

The Benefit of Hitting Rock Bottom

Hitting rock bottom can bring about success because the only thing left is drive followed by a determination to climb out of a very difficult situation. There is a benefit to hitting rock bottom and what to remember after hitting rock bottom.

First, know and remember there is only one way to go, and that is up. Next, you want to stop feeling so sorry for yourself. Take back your life to stand on solid ground.

Now, you want to develop a plan and create goals for self-discovery, to begin redefining yourself. Make sure they are objects that are measurable and reachable, then follow through and forget the past so you can succeed.

Learn from your downfall and create an approach that can bring about a change. The most beneficial thing about hitting rock bottom is you learn from your mistakes and can take advantage of your failure, and you're in the position to try again.

Steve Jobs said it best: "Part of being a man is learning to take responsibility for your successes." Bear in mind that very successful people are the ones who have hit rock bottom and failed before.

Now that you have learned from your mistakes, you also need to discover what drives you to have the freedom to focus on ventures you fully enjoy. From these findings, you can build and solidify your foundation.

© 2018 Pam Morris


Tim Truzy from U.S.A. on October 20, 2018:

Loved it, Pam. You spoke the truth and I recognized it completely in every word because I work with individuals who have done the same.

I like the solid, positive, insightful, powerful statements you make in this article. Particularly, you encourage people to continually ask: What do you want from your life, your relationships, your family, etc. You challenge people to examine reality and find the fallacies in their thinking. Again, well stated and clear for anybody to learn from.

I loved the fact that you reminded readers mistakes in life are truly the only things we can call our own and its up to us to turn those missteps into a legitimate marathon to success.

Thanks, you are a gifted and talented writer.

Much respect and admiration,


Robert Walker from Los Angeles, CA. on October 18, 2018:

Amen & Amen.

Liz Westwood from UK on October 18, 2018:

Thanks for sharing your experience.