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How to Be Loyal to Yourself Without Feeling Guilty

Audrey's desire to understand human behavior led her to study psychology. Being loyal to yourself is the cornerstone of your character.

Do those things that make you happy and do them every day. Loyal people are happy people.

Do those things that make you happy and do them every day. Loyal people are happy people.

Loyalty and Lacking Initiative

When we think about loyalty, we mainly consider how we can be loyal to others. But first, we must be loyal to ourselves.

The Greek philosopher Socrates said, "To move the world, we must first move." To do this, we must have initiative.

Merriam-Webster defines initiative as an introductive step. If you do something on your initiative, you do it because you choose to, not because someone has told you to do it.

How We Sobatage Ourselves

We live from day to day, sabotaging our thoughts and actions in such a way that it is impossible to be loyal to ourselves.

  • We spend time with people who pull us in the wrong direction. If the people close to you are dragging you down, it may be time to make some changes.
  • If your friends are critical and negative, this isn't good for you, and it may be time to go out and find new friends.
  • Choose your friends wisely because that is the direction you are heading. Seek people that motivate you to be the best version of yourself.
  • Another way we sabotage our loyalty is with guilt. We begin to feel guilty when we want to say no.
  • We leave our door open, ready to give up our time until we are burnt out. We are dog-tired and no good to anyone, including ourselves. Still, we feel guilty.

Why Do We Lack Initiative?

Here are five reasons we lack initiative:

  1. We're in denial about the consequences of not taking the initiative and responsibility for ourselves.
  2. We wait until others motivate us instead of motivating ourselves.
  3. We are waiting for everything to be perfect before we act.
  4. We fantasize about tomorrow instead of focusing on today.
  5. There may be other issues that prevent us from taking action.

The key to being loyal to yourself is to know what makes you happy and to draw these things to yourself.


Being True to Yourself: The Cornerstone of Your Character

William Shakespeare gave us this great message in Hamlet:

This above all: to thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

How powerful this message is. You might even say it's the cornerstone of our character. It always catches up with us when we fail to be true to ourselves. So often ignore the "voice within," which is accompanied by our "gut feeling." We usually say, "oh, I wish I had listened to my gut feeling."

The path to living in peace and harmony is to permit yourself to be yourself. If you use your (own) initiative, you decide what to do instead of waiting to be told by someone else.

"To think self be true" means having the courage to be who you indeed are. To do this, we must know ourselves.

Check List of 20 Character Flaws

Your character can protect you as long as you keep it strong, which is a must for being loyal to yourself.

Please take a look at the following list of flaws and note the ones that need some work:

  1. Jealousy, the green-eyed monster
  2. Stealing
  3. Lying
  4. Blaming others
  5. Criticism
  6. Harshness
  7. Selfishness
  8. Arrogance
  9. Lack of self-discipline
  10. Gossip
  11. Negativity
  12. Lack of self-control
  13. Impatience
  14. Belittle others
  15. Provoke others
  16. Anger
  17. Entitlement
  18. Unable to forgive or let go of a grudge
  19. Demanding
  20. Irresponsible

When you start feeding peace, patience, kindness, gentleness, humility, and self-control, you will soon see these character traits developing in your life. They will become your habits, and they will significantly build your future.

My Dog Jeep Was a Brave Example of Loyalty

I was eight years old, living in "The All-American City" of Lynwood, California, when my family found a ragged half-starved little dog with big brown eyes. We couldn't resist this little fellow, brought him home, and he soon became the center of our family.

We named him 'Jeep,' though I'm not sure why. Jeep went everywhere with us and loved riding shotgun in the family car.

One beautiful, warm summer day, mama announced that we were going on a road trip to "Holy Jim Canyon." We loved to visit this beautiful mountain area, and Daddy drove the old car with mama sitting next to him. We three kids were piled in the back seat with Jeep.

The minute we arrived at our destination, we all jumped out of the car, along with Jeep, and started up the familiar trail. About halfway through the hike, daddy called out for Jeep, but our little dog had disappeared and was nowhere to be found. My little brother, sister, and I cried all the way home, and so did our parents.

We prayed for our little friend at every meal, bedtime, and countless other times. We asked God to keep him safe and thanked Him for watching over Jeep." Please send Jeep home," we cried.

Weeks went by, followed by months, and we continued to pray for our little dog. We missed him so much, and each day without him was like an eternity.

Then, one afternoon, I heard the voice of my little brother shouting at the top of his lungs, "Jeep! Jeep! Hey everybody, Jeep is home!" We all hovered around our little dog, taking turns receiving kisses from him. He had returned, and it was indeed a miracle.

This story is an example of courage and loyalty. I will never know or even begin to comprehend what it took for this sweet and determined animal to find his way home.

Do you know how to find your way home even when insurmountable obstacles are before you?

What is the driving force behind living a loyal life, and do you consider yourself a loyal person? Is it possible to be loyal without first being dedicated to ourselves?

A picture of loyalty

A picture of loyalty

You Are Worthy of Self-Loyalty

To be 100% worthy, you must believe and know you are worth it. Live each day in such a way that you are being your best self. How much is your self-worth to you? I hope your answer is everything.

Marianne Williamson wrote a wonderful poem (used in Nelson Mandela's inaugural speech) that begins:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?

Very few of us fulfill our true potential in all areas of our life. One reason is we lack loyalty to ourselves.

The Size of Your Character

From John C. Maxwell's book, Talent Is Never Enough, I quote the following:

Character is the pedestal that determines how much weight a person can sustain. If your character is the size of a toothpick, you can only sustain a postage stamp. If your character is as thick as a column, you can sustain a roof.

Think about this. Meditate and pray about this. Then begin living in such a way that you too can "sustain a roof" because of your character and values.

Being loyal to yourself brings inner peace and happiness

Being loyal to yourself brings inner peace and happiness

Loyalty: The Best That Is in You

Don't you love this phrase, " The best that is in you"? What thoughts come up for you when you hear words like this? Perhaps you "paid it forward" recently or decided to be more optimistic about a tough time you're going through. Maybe you are practicing meditation for the first time or keeping a gratitude journal.

The best that is in you stems from your core values. These are principles that you live by every day. They define what we believe and how we live. These values should be a clear beacon we use daily to guide us. Being loyal to ourselves builds shelter against a rainy day.

It takes courage to stand for what you believe in. It takes integrity to be trustworthy. It takes character to weather life's storms. At the same time, adversity develops character.

Every time you face adversity and come through it with your core values affirmed and your integrity intact, your character becomes more robust.

Recognize the best that is in you, then be that way. Step out of your shadow and begin to shine.

Summing It Up

Learning to be loyal to yourself 100% of the time is a magnificent journey. I

s it an easy one? Can it be achieved? I think it can if we make it a priority and are willing to work hard. And even if we don't reach the 100% mark—even if we only improve by 10%—what an achievement it will be.

We've talked about the lack of initiative and how the lack of it affects loyalty. We sabotage ourselves from our dedication by choosing friends who pull us down. We say 'yes' when we want to say 'no.'

Begin now to live by Shakespeare's words, "To thine own self is true."

Your life will change for the better. Know that you are worthy of your loyalty. Work on your weaknesses and glorify your strengths. Be the best in you.

The greatest gift is right inside of you.

The greatest gift is right inside of you.

Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.

— Oscar Wilde

Talent Is Never Enough - John C. Maxwell p.196

A Return to Love - Marianne Williamson

William Shakespeare

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2013 Audrey Hunt


Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on January 10, 2015:


Good for you! You will be successful and happy. Thanks for being here.

Bongani Zwane from Pretoria, South Africa on January 09, 2015:

Thanks, I will always be true to myself.

Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on January 08, 2015:

Shyron E Shenko

Oh, how similar our dogs names are - Jip and Jeep! I couldn't live without my canine friends. I think you feel the same way. Thank you for the blessings and hugs and I'm sending these to you too.


Shyron E Shenko from Texas on January 07, 2015:

This is really beautiful, when we lived in Whittier, we had a black Cocker spaniel and his name was Jip. How neat that you pup was named Jeep, seems so similar.

Nothing is more loyal than our canine friends.

Blessings and hugs to you


Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on December 06, 2014:


Hello my beautiful friend. Hearing about your Rusty touched me so. How do these fur angels know the way home? They must be guided by their own guardian angels.

Bobbi, you are surrounded by love all the time. Tenderness is a feeling that comes straight from the heart. Many people have a difficult time expressing their feelings especially when it comes to love.

You and I are bound by tenderness. To be able to express sweet feelings is a gift. And speaking of gifts, you are a treasure to me.

Stay as sweet as you are and don't let a thing ever change you. (Line from an old song.)

Love and hugs,


Au fait

Thank you so very much for your lovely comments. Well said. Take care my friend. Audrey

C E Clark from North Texas on November 22, 2014:

A wonderful article to help people realize we can be, and should strive to be, more than we ever thought we could be.

Barbara Purvis Hunter from Florida on October 04, 2014:

Hi Audrey,

What a wonderful story about Jeep. I tear up when I read about animals being lost---if I don't just cry. My Rusty was lost from our farm when I was three and one day he came home.

My Grandmother Knight said an Angel brought him back to us. That is when I started loving Angels.

I think sometimes my tender heart belongs in another time, but then I read all the sweet feelings of others and then I know I am not alone in this world.

Have a great weekend.

Bobbi Purvis

Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on September 18, 2014:


As women, we are taught to take care of the kids, the house, cooking and on and on. Is it any wonder we rarely think about our own needs, let alone make them a priority. I do hope you will think about new paths for yourself. And you have made my day too, Audrey, for being here and for being you. Best of everything to you - Audrey

Audrey Selig from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma on September 16, 2014:

Hi Audrey - Loyalty to self is a statement I never thought about. Wow. This hub has such an impact and gives new meaning to taking care of self. Your ideas of loyalty and all the implications mean so much in our lives. Jeep's story of finding you so many miles from the vacation spot point out that we must never give up. You delve into so many areas of our lives that we would never write about, as it would not cross out minds. You are such a thinker. I will try to follow or think of new paths of my own. Sharing hub. You make my day. Blessings, Audrey

Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on March 25, 2014:

My apologies to the following for the long wait for my response. Go ahead - just slap me. Your comments are so appreciated and mean so much to me:


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Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on February 13, 2014:

Levertis Steele - You've no idea how much reading your comments means to me. You have shown a strong degree of loyalty to yourself. This isn't always easy. In fact it can be a tough challenge. Your strength of character is admirable my friend! ~ Audrey

Mhatter 99 - Are you pleased with your decision to become a Freemason at this level? That's what really matters. ~ Audrey

Dear Eiddwen - We both have much to contribute and I'm so happy we are connected through hubpages! My very best to you dear one. ~ Audrey

FlourishAnyway - A marvelous question to ponder. Loyalty to ourselves brings respect from others. Great thought. Thank you ~ Audrey

Bravewarrior - Thank you for being here. Oh, and I will record a CD of the music I composed for your poetry. I'm presently hobbling around in a knee brace with a torn miniscus. As soon as I'm off the pain medicine and can think clearly, I will send you a copy. ~ Audrey

Ken Kline from USA on February 06, 2014:

Truly beautiful! Voted up and pinned under peace. WE all could use more kindness. Great poll too! Thank you!

Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on November 23, 2013:

Faith Reaper - It's because of people like you that I try to do my best as I write. You have always inspired me, either through reading your hubs or comments. I'm thankful for the opportunity to write an article for perspectives. I apologize for the delay in commenting. ~ Hugs, Audrey

Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on November 21, 2013:

fpherj48 ~ It's amazing how the past creeps up as we write. I had almost forgotten about "Jeep" being lost and then finding his way home. For me, this story says so much about being loyal. Thank you for appreciating this.

Speaking of loyalty, you, Paula have been an example to me of a supportive and loyal person.

And as far as I'm concerned this is the ultimate compliment. There are so few of us left :)

Suzie from Carson City on November 21, 2013:

Fabulous reading. You are an excellent choice as guest writer with the "Perspectives Gang." I love this hub, Audrey. Your wisdom rocks...and the story about Jeep....well that actually brought tears to my eyes.

I responded to your polls and that was interesting to me......I had to really stop and THINK. Hmmmm, which one is the raw truth, Miss Paula?!

Thank you. I am always grateful to learn better and more intense ways to look at myself and my life......UP+++

Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on November 10, 2013:

mckbirdbks - Your words always mean so very much to me. You are, without a doubt, one of my favorite friends here in hubland. Sending you a basket full of wishes for your heart, Mike.

Thelma Alberts from Germany on October 04, 2013:

Awesome! What a wonderful story about your dog. I enjoyed reading it. I think I am always loyal to myself as to my friends and relatives. Thanks for sharing this insightful hub. Have a lovely weekend!

Samuel E. Richardson from Salt Lake City, Utah on September 17, 2013:

P.S: I'm also going to tutor her using some of your other articles. They look very full of wisdom and good ideas.

Samuel E. Richardson from Salt Lake City, Utah on September 17, 2013:

Excellent! I'm going to read (or summarize, or both) this to my 16-year-old granddaughter. Her mother is switching schools for her, because she is too overwhelmed by constant teasing from her peers, and a lack of attention from the boys. She really is attractive (I used her as the model for Mary in my hub "God's Wonders: How Was Jesus Conceived?"

Also, I tried to teach her how to handle teasing, in a way demonstrated in "Become Quick-witted overnight..." She doesn't seem to be able to remember those tricks, and dreads going to school.

Maybe I'll put up a question here on HubPages over that problem. I'm searching for anything that might help her.

I'm also giving her piano lessons, which she seems to be good at. Maybe at least her progress in this area will help to raise her self-esteem. Next Sunday, she will be joining me in the Church Choir.

Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on September 03, 2013:

Dear marcoujor,

I am indeed honored to be asked to write on this topic and join the ranks of Hubpages finest for the month. I attribute my small spurts of growth to writers like you and the cast of 'Perspectives.'

Your positive feedback is important to me and I thank you so much for what you have said.

Covey had been in my library for many years. He will be missed terribly, but lives on with Heavenly Wisdom through his writings.

Thank you, beautiful truth that you are. So much love and kindness lives within your tender heart. You are 'the glue' that holds us all together.

Much love and light to you always ~ Audrey

Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on September 03, 2013:

Athlyn Green - Absolutely! We've carried around enough guilt to last a lifetime. Let's dump it:)

Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on September 03, 2013:

denise.w.anderson - There really is a lot of 'meat' in this statement. I see the "I'm not good enough" routine as the biggest threat to women. It simply isn't true and we must work our way out of this way of thinking. We must love our way out. It's way past time to put ourselves first for a change. ~ Hugs Audrey

Patricia Scott from North Central Florida on August 31, 2013:

Well said. Taking time to reflect on these things is important. Holding ourselves accountable and taking a look at ourselves can only lead to a better US. And as you said, even if it is not 100% each tiny step forward is a good thing.

Thanks for sharing this....tucking away to use and reflect upon...

Angels are on the way...have a lovely day ps

Patricia Scott from North Central Florida on August 31, 2013:

Well said. Taking time to reflect on these things is important. Holding ourselves accountable and taking a look at ourselves can only lead to a better US. And as you said, even if it is not 100% each tiny step forward is a good thing.

Thanks for sharing this....tucking away to use and reflect upon...

Angels are on the way...have a lovely day ps

Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on August 06, 2013:

rose-the-planner ~ Thank you for finding my hub inspiring. I'm glad you like the story of 'Jeep,' as it is very dear to me. Such a long time ago but seems like yesterday. ~ Audrey

Dear Martie ~ Great minds :) We may be clear across the world from each other but we sure think alike. And I read your hub twice on loyalty. I just love it! And love you too!! ~ Hugs Audrey

Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on August 06, 2013:

tillsontitan - Thanks so much my dear friend for all your kind words. Our canine friends are a prime example of loyalty.

And speaking of loyalty, you come to my mind. Your constant support of my hubs is something I never take for granted. You have been here for me from day one ( a long time .)

Hugs to you and beautiful thoughts ~ Audrey

Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on August 01, 2013:

Lord - Gee, thanks so very much. Love your kind comments and appreciate you're support.!

Joseph De Cross from New York on July 30, 2013:

Wow! Truly inspiring and uplifting! Loyalty to our own selves. Great hub for everyone!

Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on July 29, 2013:

always exploring - Thank you my dear friend for your loyalty to me through these past 3 years. It is friends like you who teach me to be loyal to myself and to work constantly to be better.

Glad that you liked the story of 'Jeep' my little dog. Hope you enjoy your week.~Hugs, Audrey~

Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on July 28, 2013:

Peggy - As you have said, we work on being the best that we can up to the time we take our last breath...which is why I hope to live another 100 years. :)

I'm glad you liked the story of 'Jeep' and thank you for the generous votes. Hugs ~ Audrey ~

Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on July 28, 2013:

Mekenzie - I have read your most beautiful comments three times now. You manage to write exactly what I need to hear most. I am now safely and gratefully back in my home and all is well.

This has been one more opportunity for more growth on my part. For this, I'm thankful.It's not the experience that matters as much as how we handle and learn from experiences. So much is determined by attitude - right?

You've added such a meaningful message to this hub with these words:

"Discouragement, guilt and tunnel vision disrupt loyalty to the God given gifts and abilities He has instilled within each one of us."

How powerful this is and I thank you dear friend. I always find inspiration in your beautiful comments.

Thank you for bringing so much are a treasure! ~ Love ~ Audrey

Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on July 26, 2013:

rajan rolly - Thank you for finding my hub valuable and helpful. Loving ourselves must come first as it releases the best within us. It takes one who lives this principle to recognize how true this is. You, my friend are one who lives this powerful and inspiring message. Through reading your hubs on nutrition and good health. we all are learning to love ourselves by taking care of our bodies. Thank you my friend. Blessings and love to you ~ Audrey

carolina muscle from Charlotte, North Carolina on July 26, 2013:

This is a lovely and inspirational post. My biggest flaw is impatience... I'd start chewing coffee grinds if my coffee maker took any longer to brew ! :) Cheers and have a great weekend. ~Chris.

OMGirdle on July 24, 2013:

I am sending this hub to my daughter. In a busy world where we are trying to be the best we can be, we forget to be the best we can be to ourselves before being the best we can be to our environment. Your hub rings true to how we need to view ourself. Very inspirational. Thank you, I needed that :). Voted up and pinned!

Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on July 22, 2013:

Jackie - Our precious animals risk their very own lives to find their way home to us. They are the prime example of unconditional love and supreme loyalty. Thank you Jackie for sharing your beautiful cat story.

Happyboomernurse - Hello my friend. How good it is to see you. I love the message you have added here about never being to old to work on perfecting our own character. With the huge Idyllwild fire and evacuation ( it's been a week now) this experience of leaving one's home and earthly possessions has given us an opportunity to face new obstacles and build our character even more. What a blessing!

We will be returning to our beautiful mountain sometime this week with grateful hearts that our home is still standing.

I welcome any and all opportunity to work on my own character especially at my age. I want more than anything to be worthy of joining my precious son when I, too am called home to Our Father In Heaven.

You, Gail, are a woman of strong loyalty and a beautiful example of goodness and amazing empathy and love for others.

You make me want to be a better woman.

Thank you and sending you warm hugs and beautiful blessings. ~ Audrey

Shauna L Bowling from Central Florida on July 22, 2013:

Bless you, Audrey. Thank you.

Eiddwen from Wales on July 22, 2013:

Totally wonderful Audrey; loved this gem and here's to so many more for us both to share on here.

Voted up and shared. Lots of love from Wales.


Susan Ream from Michigan on July 22, 2013:

Audrey, first of all I pray you find peace in the midst of the 'fire.' To thine own self be true is firmly instilled in you and you will come out of this with a deeper message.

I am so deeply moved by your writing. The clarity and passion with which you write is nothing short of a gift and talent which you have faithfully developed and were true to thine ownself in doing so. :)

I personally needed to see this today. Discouragement, guilt and tunnel vision disrupt loyalty to the God given gifts and abilities He has instilled within each one of us.

You dearone are a shining example of one who invests in loyalty to self in order to enrich the lives of many. Bless you and thank you! Voted Up, Shared and featured on FB page Mekenzie's World +++


Rajan Singh Jolly from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA. on July 22, 2013:

A very valuable and immensely helpful hub. Loving oneself is of paramount importance to be loyal to oneself and then others. I like the list of character shortcomings that we need to eliminate to be able to love ourselves and others in turn.

Fantastic hub, Audrey!

Voted up, useful and awesome. Shared it ahead!

Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on July 22, 2013:

Bill - I doubt that you had much stretching to do - you, of course, are my hero!

Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on July 21, 2013:

ChitrangadaSharan - Thank you for reading my hub and writing such inspirational comments. It means so much! Have a beautiful day and will see you soon. - Audrey

manatita44 - Thanks so much. Appreciate your comments. Peace to you!

Ebonny - What a great point you've made. Thanks for reminding us of this very good example. Take care.

dahoglund - Your older brother contributed so much by helping so many others. Even though he became bitter later in life, he was a good man for having the desire to put others first. Thank you for sharing this. - Audrey

Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on July 21, 2013:

My dear sweet Shauna, my heart is so full after reading your sweet and heartfelt apology. We all go through many challenges in our life and once in a while we can take it out on the one's we care about the most. Please know that you personify your name "Bravewarrior" to the fullest with the upmost integrity and love. I am safe and hopefully will be returning soon to my home, and please know that in no way have you discouraged me from writing for Perspectives in the future. Sending hugs and love your way and we shall move on with a continuing friendship that I cherish. XOXOX Audrey

Shauna L Bowling from Central Florida on July 21, 2013:

Audrey, I need to beg your forgiveness. I've just re-read my initial comment and I am ashamed of myself. It was cold and uncaring and for that I apologize. I'm afraid I'm guilty of the very thing I detest in others and that is jumping to conclusions without bothering to gather the facts.

The fact that you even posted with all you have going on says volumes about your character. I hope I haven't frightened you away and you will consider a Perspectives guest post in the future.

I pray you are safe and well. Please accept my heartfelt apology.

Dim Flaxenwick from Great Britain on July 21, 2013:

Amazing hub. I think many people could be helped by reading this. (including me.)

Thank you for great work here.

Shauna L Bowling from Central Florida on July 20, 2013:

Audrey, I'm so sorry to hear of your evacuation. You must be beside yourself! Is all OK?

Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on July 20, 2013:

Hello my friends -

Due to the Idyll wild California Forest fire, I have been evacuated from my home On short notice. It has been 4 days now and the fire is still raging out of control. I have little use of a computer. Please forgive me for not replying.

Bravewarrier... I will follow your instructions ASAP . Just give me alittlemore time. Thank you.

drbj and sherry from south Florida on July 18, 2013:

Hi, Audrey - your sweet story about your loyal doggie, Jeep, was the perfect way to lead us, your readers, into the subject of loyalty and the importance of being loyal, or true, to oneself.

What an amazing little dog. What an amazing story-teller you are. Thank you for sharing both the story and your thoughts. Voted up, of course.

FlourishAnyway from USA on July 17, 2013:

I love Jeep's happy ending and hope he lived a long and happy life. He knew where love was. If you cannot be loyal to oneself, how can we ever expect others to treat us well? Good setiments.

Eiddwen from Wales on July 17, 2013:

Another great gem by you Audrey. As always voted up and shared. Here's to so many more for us both to share on here.


Martin Kloess from San Francisco on July 16, 2013:

Thank you for this. Surprisingly becoming a big-shot Freemason called for many compromises.

Levertis Steele from Southern Clime on July 16, 2013:

To thine own self be true." Yes!


I am learning not to be too helpful to people who ask often but are slow to do anything to help themselves. I sympathize quickly, spend my money, and once was quick to loan money that was mostly repaid late or not at all.

I agreed to let a friend experiencing difficulty stay with me for a few weeks that turned into months. Sometimes there is a thin line between being helpful and being a fool. I have taken the first step toward waking up. I have already given an eviction notice so that my life can find normalcy and more privacy. I do love, but I am tired. I feel better that I have made this step, but I get a tinge of guilt sometimes. Nevertheless, I am sticking with my decision.

Thanks for the reassurance I found in this hub! It seemed like a message just for me, and you really landed some prominent weak character traits.

Faith Reaper from southern USA on July 16, 2013:


This is such a beautiful and insightful piece here. Yes, we must be loyal and true to ourselves first and foremost no doubt! Really loved your dog story!

You contributed much to this subject of Loyalty this month as a guest writer on The Perspectives Team!

It is evident you have done much work here in this hub and it provides much to help all who read it.

Voted up ++++ and sharing

Hugs and blessings, Faith Reaper

mckbirdbks from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas on July 16, 2013:

Hello Audrey it is so apparent that you have given this subject a lot of thought. Your hub is full of valuable insights. I don't know this Will Shakespeare fellow and his, "To thine own self be true." I heard similar advice from a Lifer Marine. "Go shine my shoes." I heard it all the time. Groan.

Maria Jordan from Jeffersonville PA on July 16, 2013:

Dear Audrey,

It is amazing to read our different views on the subject, yet in the end, all have the core of loyalty to self being key.

You have done a great job of making the topic a means of self awareness and insight, with your well formulated polls.

Covey is an awesome writer, and I will look forward to returning and listening to the YouTube.

You are a teacher all the way with helpful strategies as well. Great job and glad you were able to join us this month, despite computer issues.

Athlyn Green from West Kootenays on July 16, 2013:

Yes, we must give ourselves permission and let go of the old programming that would have us feeling guilty or lazy for taking care of ourselves.

Denise W Anderson from Bismarck, North Dakota on July 16, 2013:

I love that phrase, "you are worthy of your own loyalty." It speaks volumes! So often, I get stuck in the "I'm not good enough" routine, when something doesn't go right and I get down on myself. I have to tell myself to "put away the sword" and let myself get over it. Adopting this statement would be helpful to me.

Martie Coetser from South Africa on July 16, 2013:

Audrey, I am speechless. You and I was on the same brain wave - Loyalty begins at Self - and we are living thousands of miles from each other and did not even discuss this topic via email. Of course, I agree all the way with you :)

Voted up and very well stressed :)

rose-the planner from Toronto, Ontario-Canada on July 16, 2013:

A very wonderful and inspirational hub. I really thought the story about Jeep was certainly amazing. Thank you for sharing. (Voted Up) -Rose

Mary Craig from New York on July 16, 2013:

Being loyal to oneself is where it all begins. Your recounting about Jeep just shows how loving and loyal a dog can be, of course with no questions asked. We would do well to follow the Dog's example!

Loyalty to oneself and trusting our instincts goes a long way toward loyalty to others. You have stated it well Audrey.

P.S. Love your pictures.

Voted up, useful, awesome, and interesting.

Ruby Jean Richert from Southern Illinois on July 16, 2013:

Hello Audrey. I loved the story about Jeep and the fact that your parents were so wonderful. This hub is very inspiritional, teaching us to be all we can be and most importantly to love ourselves. Thank you for sharing. I will share also. Hugs...

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on July 16, 2013:

This is a wonderful post starting out with that touching story about your dog Jeep. These are great tips of how to lead our lives successfully. They are always a work in progress until we take our last breath. Up votes and will definitely share this.

Gail Sobotkin from South Carolina on July 16, 2013:

Hi Audrey,

As soon as I saw the title of this hub I knew I had to read it because I know how entertaining, inspirational and wise your philosophical articles are.

You instantly grabbed my attention with the tale about your beloved dog, Jeep, and kept it throughout the rest of the hub.

I agree with all you've said here, and would add that no matter what age we are it's never too late to work on perfecting our own character by recognizing and trying to improve on our character flaws or weaknesses.

Thanks for sharing this article.

Am voting it up across the board except for funny and sharing it with followers.

Sending you Hub Hugs,


BTW: I love the last photo of the light shining on your happy face!

Jackie Lynnley from the beautiful south on July 16, 2013:

I loved this and agree, we do have to be loyal to ourselves or how can we be to anyone else, which includes truth. Loved your dog story, I had a mama cat I gave to woman who lived about 30 miles away and although I cared for her I had gotten her as an adult cat which I think makes this story odder. Crossing many busy highways that cat got home within 24 hours.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on July 16, 2013:

A very interesting and true hub. The polls were hard to take and required a bit of honesty. Hard to reflect that hard at seven a.m. LOL

Very enjoyable read, Audrey. Thanks for making me stretch this morning.



Don A. Hoglund from Wisconsin Rapids on July 16, 2013:

I agree with most of what you have to say here. we have always been taught to help others and sometime it is considered bad to be concerned about yourself. My oldest brother (who died many years ago) was very talented, an engineer, artist and musician. He donated a lot of time and energy to the parish by making posters and such, he gave much time to the University band by not only playing in it but designing band formations and such for the football games. He also did art work for the Newman center. The more stuff he did, the more he was asked to do. Organizations even sent him projects to do after he moved to another state. Later in life he became bitter. I think it is because he was overwhelmed with doing for others but did not look out for his own needs.

Ebonny from UK on July 16, 2013:

This is a great reminder that we start with ourselves - it brings to mind the advice to mothers on earoplanes about putting on their own oxygen mask first before helping the children.

Voted up.

Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on July 16, 2013:

Rusticliving - Hahahaha! I love it. The 'artificial light' had to go to ignite the light inside. Love you the same and thanks for the generous ratings and sharing.

manatita44 from london on July 16, 2013:

Extremely well written but more importantly meaningful and applicable in today's modern age. May we all learn from this.

The dog story is a beautiful one and it is my favourite pet for loyalty and devotion.

Chitrangada Sharan from New Delhi, India on July 16, 2013:

Wonderful hub, very inspirational!

I loved your story as well. You have made some very important points, which will definitely inspire and motivate people to rework to refine themselves.

Thanks for sharing!

Voted up!

Liz Rayen from California on July 16, 2013:

WOW! What a wonderful hub. It really pays to "Turn off the light", doesn't it? *L* You hit it right on the head. Love you with all my heart! ♥

UP+I/B/A/U and shared!