Skylar is a free-spirited, creative writer who loves music, nature, and cats. She lives in Toronto and enjoys drinking lemonade.
What Does "Resilient" Even Mean?
Resilient (definition): Being able to bounce back and adapt well to whatever situation that comes your way, no matter how difficult or trying.
Over the past year, I have moved 5 times, switched jobs 4 times, and have been through a few relationship breakups. It wasn't what I was originally hoping for. I obviously imagined and desired a stable place to live and a long-lasting job, not to mention a permanent boyfriend.
My circumstances weren't easy at all, but what the experiences taught me was so very valuable. I learned how to be resilient.
People who aren't resilient are always overstressed. They freak out whenever troubles happen. People who haven't learned resilience can get annoyed, become highly disturbed, and/or be downright angry when things don't go their way.
Resilient people, on the other hand, may still endure stress during troubled times, but they will not be overthrown by their circumstances. Resilient individuals accept the change in their lives in a more peaceful manner, and instead of freaking out, so they will adapt in a mentally healthy way.
Journeying Through Life, Learning Resilience.
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Based on my past experience going through hell and back, here is a list of things to keep in mind if you want to become a resilient person:
1) Start to see difficult circumstances as an opportunity to grow. Whatever you are facing, it isn't an obstacle blocking you from your goals. Instead, it is a hurdle you will eventually cross, a challenge that can help you learn. Think of it this way: once you overcome this obstacle, you will become a better person.
2) Prepare for the worst, but hope for the best. Those who get most stressed are those who never anticipated potential problems coming. Although it is unhealthy to be paranoid, it is also wise to prepare for emergencies. But hope for the best. If you prepare well, chances are, you'll get less hiccups.
Seeing Opportunity For Growth.
3) Always be thankful. If you make it a habit to count your blessings on rainy days as much as you do on sunny days, then even in the worst catastrophe you can find the silver lining in the dark cloud. Being thankful fosters a heart of gratitude instead of a spirit of despair or frustration.
4) Look up to tough role models. Terry Fox lost his leg to cancer but still ran halfway across Canada to fundraise for a good cause til his last breath. Joni Eareckson Tada was paralyzed from neck down from a diving accident, but became an inspiring world-renowned speaker and painted artistic masterpieces with her mouth. When you observe examples like these, you will be motivated to persevere.
Tough Role Models Help You Persevere.
5) Start to see the humor in your problems. This is hard to do, but worth trying. If you are in a bind, try laughing at the silliness of the situation. Maybe in five years you can look back and laugh anyway, so why not laugh at it now and relieve some stress? Turn your circumstance around!
6) Count your battle scars as milestones to be proud of. Have you ever looked back and wondered how you got through it all? Be proud of how far you've come, and the struggles you've survived. Because instead of being down about your past, you can start to see yourself as a seasoned warrior!
7) Instead of dwelling on the problem, think of your next step. Many people get sad over the problem and start to complain, instead of logically thinking through possible solutions. While evaluating the severity of the situation, begin also to think about what can help you get out of it.
These are just some beginner tips on how to become resilient. As you go through life problems of your own, you may discover your own helpful tips that may aid others in the future! With experience comes wisdom.
Developing resilience takes time, so don't lose hope if you aren't able to follow these 7 steps straight away. As everyone knows, it is only human to struggle and sometimes feel down. But don't stay down, get up and find the resilience in you!
Someone once quoted, "The definition of 'crazy' is doing the same thing over and over, while expecting different results." Now allow me to turn this quote around to describe this article's topic: "The definition of 'resilience' is facing different things over and over, while getting the best results."
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