How Coming Out and Writing About Your Trauma Can Help You in the Long Run

Updated on July 23, 2018

As regular people, we sometimes encounter a moment in our lives when we sadly have to go through a traumatic event that will leave its mark on us. Going and asking for professional help or even trying to find a friend who might lend a hand might be harder for some people.

When everything fails, and you feel that there is no escape, then you might be interested in writing about it. Of course, writing about your trauma is an inclusive term that implies that there is an extensive list of ramifications involved. Today, I will try to offer more details on the different ways in which you can do this.

Before I move on to the next part of the article, I would like to mention that you are in no way obligated to voice your thoughts or talk about your trauma (even in writing) if you feel that you are not ready. This article is directed towards people that want to try an use writing as a coping mechanism but find it hard to start doing it.


Online vs. On paper

If you want to write about this topic, then you might ask yourself how and where to do it. The two main options are posting your story on a blog or writing about it on paper and having complete control over it. If you feel the need to have your story read by others, then you can post it online.

However, if you are uncomfortable about using your real name online then feel free to go under a pen name or use a username that hides your identity as much as you desire. If you decide to write online about what happened to you and how you dealt with it, or just how it made you feel, there are some secure website that you may want to look into. These websites are:

  • Tumblr – creating a blog is easy, and there are multiple templates that you can choose for your blog page. You can also get in touch with members from the community or people that have gone through something similar to yours (if you want to tell your story and not feel like you are the only one who has gone through this). This website gets bonus points since you can craft an online persona that is different from who you are in real life, giving you the privacy you need or want.
  • Wordpress – another creative blogging platform that is free. You can set up an account and use it to write about whatever you want, in this case, I am referring to the main topic of the article. This site also offers you the option to not use your real name as the name of the author. Overall, it might be a right place to start.
  • Wattpad – this platform is usually tailored for people who want to post short stories, novels, fanfiction and write stories, not so much for blogging. I decided to include this website since some people may feel comfortable to write about what happened in the form of a story. It allows them to feel detached and safe while also being a way to let out their concerns and their troubles.

If you do not feel comfortable writing online, then you can do it just as well on a piece of paper, in a journal or in a notebook that you have around. A large number of people is probably going to use this method. Why? You have the freedom to write at your own pace, not care about your wording style, what or how you voice your thoughts, only channeling your energy on letting your feeling come out from deep inside and laying them down on the piece of paper.


How does this help?

By now you may have asked yourself this question. Why does this help? Well, from my experience, writing about something traumatic that happened allows you to work out what happened, to lay out the events and express your feelings. It can be therapeutic if you decide to pursue this method. Not only will you feel like you took something off your chest but later on you can come back and read what you wrote.

You can do this to see how you were in the past and how much better you have gotten as time moved on. It can help by becoming a marker in your evolution process. You may look back at what you wrote, be it on a blog or in a notebook, and see that you have grown, that you have overcome that moment in time and that you are not much better from an emotional and psychological perspective.

Before I finish this article, I would like to mention that this step is a complementary step in your process towards moving on after you went through this particular traumatic event. I am not encouraging you to do this if you do not feel like you are not prepared, nor am I saying that if you choose not to do it, you will not get better. You will get better regardless of writing about it or not. Some people might find it useful to write about their events since it helps them vent and feel better in the end.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and does not substitute for diagnosis, prognosis, treatment, prescription, and/or dietary advice from a licensed health professional. Drugs, supplements, and natural remedies may have dangerous side effects. If pregnant or nursing, consult with a qualified provider on an individual basis. Seek immediate help if you are experiencing a medical emergency.


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