How to Overcome Struggles: 7 Valuable Recommendations

Updated on December 25, 2018
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With a desire to help and inspire people around the world—Ashley currently blogs about life, psychology, purpose, spirituality, and more!

We all face struggles at some point in life. Although life has its own way of testing us, these "tests" are not meant to break us—they are meant to transform us into the strongest versions of ourselves.

When thing's in life go wrong, we tend to let ourselves slip into a negative mindset. When we hit rock bottom, we feel hopeless, confused, and trapped, almost as if there is no way out. As impossible as it may seem at times, there is hope, and any struggle that you endure in life is only temporary.

After encountering personal struggles of my own, I experienced all of the emotions. From questioning everything about my life to wanting to give up, the negativity was literally consuming me. I can truly say that it felt as if I was drowning in my own thoughts, and knew that something had to change before it was too late.

As a result of the struggles that I have faced, I learned many valuable lessons (each one serving a different purpose). I have spent endless hours reading stories on those who have struggled worse than I have but still overcame the hard times. Changing how I perceived everything in my life helped me get through difficult moments.

This article is not meant to cause my readers sorrow, it is meant to uplift those who may be having a difficult time overcoming struggle in their own lives. I want my readers to understand that hard times do not last forever and that everything will be okay.

If you are reading this now, I hope that you can apply these 7 valuable recommendations to your daily life and find a sense of comfort in my words.

1. Create a Mental Boundary

Change has to come from your mind and how you percieve things. When you are going through struggles in your life, it feels as if you are running in constant circles and making absolutely no progress. In a situation like that, it’s important to draw a line that signifies that things are going to get better eventually.

In life, there is a good chance that you will fail more than once, but there will be a time where you will finally learn from those failures and pick yourself back up. When things get overwhelming, it’s okay to hurt. It's okay to feel broken, to be upset. However, there will come a time where you will have to stand up tall and take a small step forward.

Establishing a mental boundary will help you see things from a different perspective, which will help you leave all of the anxiety, shame, guilt, and resentment that you have been feeling in the past. What's important is that you decide that you will keep a positive mindset and attitude through all of the curveballs that life throws at you. Your attitude is what will help you overcome the struggle.

2. Take Lessons From Others

You absolutely need to do this to take the heavy weight off your shoulders. Nobody in the world has achieved anything on their own. Everyone needs mentors, role models, idols, and inspiration that they look up to to help them reach their goals. One thing that has helped me personally, is reading stories of those who have overcome similar struggles that I have gone through. It is really helpful to learn from their mistakes, and use their strategies.

I have done a lot of research and learned that success is a result of following specific patterns which is why it is so important to study them. Want emotional strength? Live a healthy life and keep a journal to write in. Want happiness and fulfillment? Give back to the world and strengthen your relationships. Overcoming struggles will become a little bit easier once you adapt to these lifestyle changes.

3. Appreciate Everything

When you struggle, it is difficult to see thing's from a different perspective. Always be appreciative of what you do have in life. Whether it be a roof over your head, warm clothes to wear, a family that cares, a job to support you; there will always be people in life who aren't as fortunate and may be struggling a lot worse than you.

4. Never Give Up

When you realize that something isn’t working for you, let it go and try something else. Something new. Sometimes a quick Google search or even advice from your loved ones is enough to find the solutions to your problems that you need. Always keep in mind that it never hurts to try. As a matter of fact, sometimes what we never try can have tremendous impact on our life.

Overcoming struggles in your life doesn’t mean doing something fancy. You need to take care of the basics first, and in this case, this means taking care of yourself.

5. Let Go of Emotions

To truly move on from any aspect in your life, you have to let go of anger, guilt, and resentment. Learn to accept what is and forgive the ones who have caused you pain. Not for them, but because you know better. Harboring a negative feeling towards anything or anyone in life will only consume all of your energy.

Realize that we are all humans and we make mistakes. So it’s essential to let go of what others have done to you or what you couldn’t do in the past. Never be hard on yourself. You need to treat yourself like you are your own best friend. As silly as it sounds, it will make overcoming struggles somewhat easier.

6. Create a Solid Plan

Most of the time, people create the wrong plan in life. You might be wondering, what exactly does this mean? People often know what they need to do, but they get stuck in a cycle repeating the same constant mistakes.

So, why is it that we create the wrong plan? Simply because it is easy to let the weak version of yourself win. It’s easy to self-destruct, easy to distract yourself, it's easy to be lazy, it's easy to numb the pain. Once people see what it takes to become successful, they begin to give up on themselves and that's the worst thing you could possibly do.

The solution? Learn to do things even when you don’t feel like doing them. Life is very similar to going to the gym. Although you don’t truly want to work out, you feel amazing after you do. You have to approach life in a similar way because it is the same concept.

7. Change Your Mindset

You can do one of two thing's: you can either let your emotions overwhelm you, or you can create positive emotions with positive actions. All of your thoughts, feelings, and emotions are like clouds in the sky, they will always come and go. Don’t identify too much with them and learn to have control over your mind.

Always be aware of what you feed your mind. You can feed it with negativity by listening to the negative voice in your mind, or you can feed it with positive thoughts by working towards your goals, taking small steps when it gets overwhelming, and believing in yourself.

© 2018 Ashley Marie Riley


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    • MsDora profile image

      Dora Weithers 

      19 months ago from The Caribbean

      Good suggestions, indeed! Letting go of negative emotions is itself a big struggle, but I agree that "it will make overcoming struggles somewhat easier." Thanks.


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