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Heal Past Traumas: Working With Our Inner Child

Misbah has been practicing her spiritual awakening journey for the last two years. She enjoys sharing her experience.

Silhouette of Person Raising Its Hand

Silhouette of Person Raising Its Hand

The Path to Spiritual Awakening

For the last two years, I have been working on my spiritual awakening path. It is, in my opinion, crucial. The question that always came to mind was, "Why is working with your inner child necessary on the path to spiritual awakening?"

The answer is that our inner child carries our deepest wounds. These injuries cause tension, blockages, or points of tension in our hearts, minds, souls, and bodies. When we are tense, we become trapped in a separate, closely related self, which is also known as the ego.

To begin with, learning to work with our inner child is not to become a child again, but to reconnect with our child's side. In other words, there is a big difference between being a child and being connected to our inner child. Being a child can be seen as immature or naive behavior. On the other hand, being connected can be seen as a state of purity and innocence.

“When we listen to the Inner Voice, our outer life becomes full of peace.”

— — Sri Chinmoy

We all have the ability to reconnect to our original innocence; that period of our life when we saw the world with tolerance, openness, and wonder.

To eliminate the guilt, shame, fear, hatred, self-loathing, and anger that we carry within us, we have to take care of the child in us and try to heal it. To do this, we must earn the trust of our inner child through love and personal growth.

Here are 5 of the most powerful ways to work with our inner child:

1. Talk to your inner child

We should recognize our inner child and let him know that we are there for him. Treat him with kindness and respect.

Some things we might say to our inner child includes, for example:

  • I love you.
  • I'm here for you.
  • I am sorry.
  • Thank you.
  • I forgive you.

We should make a habit of talking to our inner child. We can also communicate by writing and asking our inner child a question, then jotting down the answer.

Finding and talking with your inner child

Finding and talking with your inner child

2. Practice the technique of looking in the mirror

Also known as mirror work, the mirror gazes technique is a simple yet powerful way to reconnect with our inner child. This is a great healing path to follow alongside the previous point (that is talking to our inner child) as it allows us to open our hearts in a very direct way.

To try this practice, privacy is the primary element. We need a fairly neutral mindset (don't try this when you are anxious, depressed, or stressed). How to do it?

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It's simple: find a mirror, place a gentle hand on your heart, and gently examine yourself. Perform this task for at least 5 minutes. At first, you may notice that unexpected thoughts and even emotions arise. Allow them to dissipate. Do not become attached to them. Consider them as they are just clouds in the sky. Also, remember that it's okay to cry, especially if you're feeling sad. Then, when you're ready, call your inner child. This can be accomplished by speaking aloud or quietly in our hearts.

When you notice the presence of your inner child in your eyes, say something loving and kind to that vulnerable part of yourself. . For example, you could say something like, "I see you," "I am so proud of you," "I think you are brave and strong," or whatever feels appropriate to you. Take note of any emotions that arise within you. Most importantly, take advantage of the opportunity to practice self-love and compassion, especially if difficult or intense emotions arise.

To complete this practice, give yourself a hug and let your inner child know everything that goes through your heart and mind.

Rediscover that child

Rediscover that child

3. Look at pictures of you as a child

Looking through old photo albums to rediscover the person we were as children can be very beneficial in keeping our inner child alive. I used to do it quite frequently. How to do It:

  • See some old photos of your childhood.
  • Keep those images in mind because they will come in handy when working with your inner child.
  • You might even want to keep pictures of yourself on your nightstand, in your wallet, on the fridge, or around your house to remind yourself of your inner child.

This technique can help us remember who we were like before. We should never let ourselves forget about our inner child, I believe.

4. Recreate what you enjoyed doing as a child.

Take a seat and consider what you enjoyed doing as a child. Perhaps you enjoy climbing trees, soccer, jumping rope, playing with dolls, cuddling teddy bears, or drinking hot chocolate. Take the effort to incorporate whatever activities you enjoyed as a child into your current life.

By reconnecting with my inner child, I was able to reconnect with aspects of myself that I had forgotten about as an adult. This breakthrough has the potential to completely change our lives. It is critical that we become accustomed to this "time to play" and accept any embarrassment or silliness that may result. It's normal to feel silly at first, but keeping an open mind is vital.

5. Take an inner journey

An inner trip is one of the most powerful methods to reconnect with our inner child and heal childhood trauma. For beginners, there are two types of inner journeys:

  • Through meditation
  • Through visualization.

Before embarking on this inner trip, we must first gain the confidence of our inner child through earlier actions. Once we've developed a strong relationship with our inner child, we may ask him to share the events that caused the trauma we're experiencing right now.

How to take a meditation trip:

Meditation is a passive technique for connecting with your inner child: simply take deep breaths, calm, allow yourself to observe your thoughts, and ask questions.

For instance, you could ask, "My beloved inner child, when was the very first time I suffered trauma in my life?" Ask these questions with love and care.

Let yourself be a witness to the thoughts that come to mind. Your inner child has the option of telling you the solution or not. Keep in mind to be patient, kind, and accepting. It's okay if your inner child is unwilling to share it at the moment. It's important that your inner child feels secure, understood, and prepared.

“Be sincere in your thoughts, be pure in your feelings. You will not have to run after happiness. Happiness will run after you.”

— — Sri Chinmoy

You can repeat your question several times if nothing important pops up in your mind. This process can take from a few minutes to an hour or more.

Quick Tips - To be successful in the Inner Child's meditation journey, we must have some meditation experience. It can take a lot of practice to learn to witness our thoughts, so if you aren't used to meditating, you might struggle with this method. However, practice will undoubtedly help.

How to take a viewing trip:

A more accessible way to connect with our inner child, and life's past traumas, is through visualization.

To connect with our inner child through visualization, we must first create a "place of power" or a "safe place." To do this, imagine a beautiful garden or a place where we feel safe, serene, and peaceful. We can then invite our inner child to speak with us after we have entered our place of power.

Here are some steps:

  • Close your eyes and take some really deep breaths.
  • Imagine going down a flight of steps.
  • Your safe haven is located at the bottom of the stairs.
  • You feel powerful, safe, and supported in this place.
  • Spend some time in your place of power.
  • Look at it, explore it. What does it look like, how is it?
  • After you have become acquainted with your seat of power, envision your younger self entering via a door or a waterfall.
  • Kiss your younger self and make it comfortable.
  • When you're ready, pose your question to your inner child, such as, "When was the first time I felt upset or scared?" Maybe you could rephrase the query in a more childish tone.
  • Wait for him to respond.
  • Make sure you give him a big hug, thank him, and let him know how much he means to you.
  • Say goodbye to him.
  • Leave your place of power and go up the stairs.
  • Return to normal life.

These are simple steps, but they will give you a good overview of how to go on a journey of visualizing the inner child.

What is Inner Child Work and Why is it so Important?

Last Thoughts

I won't say that it's an easy journey because it's not, but it is rewarding. I've been doing all of these things for a long time and I believe I have now identified my inner kid. I'm aware of what makes her happy and unhappy. She now informs me about the things that used to bother her. She informs me about her trials and tribulations. She has grown into a terrific friend.

There may be times when you doubt whether it is worthwhile to continue practicing but do so anyway. I am confident that you will eventually be able to connect with your inner child. Make him a friend, love him, care for him, and hug him. Don't rush; instead, wait for his response. Nothing can be done before God's appointed time. I wish you all the best on your spiritual awakening journey. May God grant you the ability to form a strong bond with your inner child. Remember not to let go of his hand once you get connected with him.

“Watching the wonder of a dewdrop clinging on a tree leaf in the early morning sunlight can give us an ethereal thrill and at one time awaken the elapsed compass of our inner child. ("Why step out of nature")

— ― Erik Pevernagie

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This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2021 Misbah Sheikh


Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on October 23, 2021:

Flourish, thank you so much for your thoughtful and nice comment. Yes, it's fascinating that what we seek in the entire world can only be found within. I'm glad you enjoyed it. Take care, and have a wonderful weekend.

Blessings and love to you!

FlourishAnyway from USA on October 22, 2021:

So many people were wounded during formulative years in sad ways, and you provide important insight on the healing process. Ultimately, we are our own best friend and advocate, the one who probably wasn't there for us.

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on October 20, 2021:

Bredz, thank you very much for your sweet words. I'm pleased you found this one intriguing. Love you heaps!

Take good care of yourself and stay healthy.

Blessings always!!

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on October 20, 2021:

Linda, thank you so much for your lovely words of appreciation. I am glad you found it thought-provoking.

Stay blessed and take care

Love as always!

BRENDA ARLEDGE from Washington Court House on October 19, 2021:


This article is one of your best Pieces.

You clearly show me how to get in touch with my inner child and ask for guidance.

I've never done this, but it sounds like sound advice.

It seems to build a unique connection to deeper understanding of one's world.

Great write.

Linda Crampton from British Columbia, Canada on October 19, 2021:

This is a very interesting article, Misbah. Thank you for sharing the techniques. Your ideas are thought provoking.

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on October 19, 2021:

Amara, I'm delighted to hear you found this helpful. If even one person benefits from this article, I will consider my efforts to have been fruitful. Thank you so much for your lovely response. I truly appreciate that.

Blessings and Love to you, dear sister.

Amara from Pakistan on October 19, 2021:

These are somehow unique and interesting ways to connect to your inner self. It can be helpful for many.

Blessings to you always sis.

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on October 19, 2021:

@Devika: I am glad you found this piece to be useful and interesting. I only hope that this will be of help to someone, somewhere in the world. I appreciate you for taking the time to read and leaving lovely feedback. Have a great day!

Blessings and Love as always!!

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on October 19, 2021:

@Peggy: Yes, Peggy, I agree. We all have one, and these steps are simple enough for anyone to follow. I'm happy you enjoyed it. Have a great day.

Sending you lots of love and bright blessings for a beautiful and peaceful day.

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on October 19, 2021:

@Eman: I am glad you found this article to be informative and helpful. Thank you so much for all your love and support, dear sister. Much Love!

Blessings Of Allah On You!

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on October 19, 2021:

@John: you are always so kind and supportive, my dear friend. I am glad you found it helpful. Thank you for reading and your wonderful comment. Gratitude! I hope you are doing well after the surgery. Good wishes!!

God bless you and your family.

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on October 19, 2021:

@Mary: Thank you so much for showing so much love and acceptance, dear friend. I truly appreciate your kindness. I am glad to have a companion like you on this spiritual journey. Stay safe and healthy.

Sending many blessings to you!!

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on October 19, 2021:

@Farah: so sweet of you, dear friend. You are always welcome! These are so easy techniques that anyone can practice them. I am glad you found it useful. Your kindness is very much appreciated.

Stay safe and happy.

Blessings and love as always!!

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on October 19, 2021:

@Pamela: you are so kind, my dear friend. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and thoughts with me on this. I greatly appreciate your kindness and support. Take care and stay safe.

Lots of love and Blessings to you!!!

Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 19, 2021:

Misbah786 This hub is perfect for us all and encourages us to work our way through past traumas. Your hub is useful and most interesting in many ways to heal.

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on October 19, 2021:

@Mr. Bill: when you say 'outstansing,' it truly means something excellent. Thank you so much for your wonderful words of encouragement and support. A big thank you for sharing your experience with me. Sir, have a blessed spiritual journey. Don't forget to smile. :)

Blessings and Love to you and your family!!!

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on October 19, 2021:

Aww.. thank you so much for making my day, Rosina. I am glad you liked it. Stay well and happy.

Blessings and love as always!!

Misbah Sheikh (author) from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on October 19, 2021:

Thank you so much for your kind and generous comment, Maryam. Greatly appreciated!!

Blessings and love to you, dear sister

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on October 19, 2021:

It sounds like you have been on quite a journey, and thanks for showing the steps to take to connect with our inner child. We all have one!

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on October 19, 2021:

It sounds like you have been on quite a journey, and thanks for showing the steps to take to connect with our inner child. We all have one!

Nian from Pakistan on October 19, 2021:

Very informative and helpful article. I hope this article will help those who are suffering.

Many Love and Blessings to you dear sister.

And thankyou for sharing this positive hub with us!

John Hansen from Gondwana Land on October 19, 2021:

This is a very helpful article, Misbah, and so offer wonderful advice on working with our inner child. Thank you and blessings.

Mary Norton from Ontario, Canada on October 19, 2021:

It's wonderful to read your story of your own awakening. I feel like having a companion in the journey. I had been healing myself for sometime now and I feel much better and happier. Im so happy you shared this here.

Farah N Huq from Dhaka, Bangladesh on October 19, 2021:

Wow! If I ever need a therapist, I would be running to you, Misbah! Those were some wonderful ways to seek balance with your subconscious mind or inner child as you call it. This was surely a wonderful and useful read for everyone looking for a balance in life. Thank you very much for sharing!

Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on October 19, 2021:

This is an excellent article for inner healing. I went through somewhat similar steps many years ago, and the reward was so worthwhile. It sounds like you are on a great path for inner healing. I like the way you described the steps, and I think this article will help others. Thank you for sharing this information.

Love and Blessings!!

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on October 19, 2021:

Outstanding information and suggestions. This is such an important topic. There are so many people out there suffering silently, and they do not know how to end the suffering, when the answer is inside of them all along. So sad!

It took me decades to learn these lessons. I am impressed that you are on this journey at such a young age. Bravo to you!

Well-done, my young friend. Hugs and blessings are heading your way on the wings of angels.

Rosina S Khan on October 19, 2021:

This is a lovely, well-crafted article showing us how we can connect with our inner child. In the process, we can communicate with her and get past traumas. This was very interesting to know indeed. Thank you, Misbah, for a great, spellbinding article. Blessings to you.

Maryam Fatima from Pakistan on October 19, 2021:

You beautifuly explain all the ways of reconnection to our inner child,dear sister.Thanks for sharing.

Helpful article.

Stay healthy.

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