5 Steps to Rebound From Disappointments in Your Life
According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, disappointment is the unhappiness that comes from the lack of success of something hoped for or expected to happen. We all face disappointments when things don't turn out as expected. Dealing with disappointments is never easy. We can find the strength, however, to take steps to ease your disappointments and move forward with your life.
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This article describes five steps that will help you to become more self-aware, re-evaluate your expectations, and learn from your disappointing experience in order to successfully chart your course forward.
1. Acknowledge Your Emotions
As you grapple with dealing with your setback, don’t push away your feelings of disappointment. You need to keep in touch with your feelings as they form a part of who you are. You not only need to be aware of your emotions, but you must also be able to manage them at this time.
Psychologist Daniel Goleman developed five basic elements that define emotional intelligence. This can help you during your time of disappointment, and promote your well being. These elements include self-awareness, which is knowing your emotions, and self-regulation, which indicates your ability able to manage these emotions. In addition, empathy helps you to recognize and understand other people’s emotions.
As you move through the challenging situation, practice keeping touch with your emotions and managing them in your daily life. As you do, you will find that you are better able to deal with the important issues at hand, and handle your disappointments.
2. Be Open to New Perspectives
Another important step is to increase your awareness by acknowledging the role you play in the disappointing situation. By doing so, you are able to put things in a new perspective and learn from your experiences.
You might also need to forgive those who might have hurt you and even forgive yourself. This will make way for you to develop coping strategies and the necessary resilience to overcome the challenges you are experiencing.
Strive for a healthy balance in the way you assess your situation. You might ask yourself, “Were my expectations realistic?" If your answer is yes, you might need to consider what you could do differently as you move to find solutions.
Why not consider a life coach to help you to bridge the gap, and get to where you want to be? Similarly, in all of this, it is helpful to remind yourself that your disappointments will pass and that they won't last forever.
The secret of success in life is for a man to be ready for his opportunity when it comes.— Earl of Beaconsfield
3. Rebuild Your Self-Image and Confidence
How you see yourself will determine the way you handle your disappointments. It is likely that because of what happened, you might feel badly about yourself, and this can this can prevent you from working towards personal goals. Begin by taking good care of yourself through eating healthy meals and regular exercise. Furthermore, despite your setback, maximize your talents and abilities by intentionally making the most of your strengths.
Do things to help you to feel better about yourself. For example, change your negative thought patterns to more positive ones. You might be repeating negative messages to yourself like, “I’m a loser.” As you pay attention to these negative thought patterns, develop positive statements to replace these and repeat them over and over to yourself.
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4. Keep Hope Alive in the Face of the Challenge
As things change and your situation becomes more challenging, you could become paralyzed with despair and hopelessness. Instead, use this as a cue to draw from your inner strength and keep hope alive.
According to Dictionary.com, "hope is the feeling that what is wanted can be had or that events will turn out for the best." Despite the uncertainties, believe again and keep your hope alive. This might mean that you exercise caution in your interactions with nay sayers who feel you won't make it. Be intentional and take practical steps to stir up hope; tough times won't last forever and you can rebound from your disappointments.
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5. Build Relationships and Ask for Help
You will find that you are not able to handle the disappointment you experience all on your own. Why not ask God for help? He is ready and waiting to help you in your times of distress. He will help you to keep your hope alive.
You will also need to develop a caring network of people who will support you as you deal with your setback. Similarly, take time to build healthy relationships, and find time for conversations and activities you enjoy. Why not help someone in need? Involvement in various activities takes your mind off of your situation and also encourages you and gives you a sense of purpose.
Summary of Steps to Handle Disappointments
Steps to deal with Disappointment
Points to Remember
Why is this Helpful?
Acknowledge your feelings
Your emotions are a part of you.
Helps you to keep in touch with your feeling.
Be open to new perspectives
Your expectation may not been realistic
You can learn from your experience
Rebuild your self-image and confidence
Despite your setbacks you have abilities and gifts you can maximize
Building on your strengths prepares you to move forward
Draw on your inner reources to rebound
As you face feelings of inadequacy ask God for help
God's resources are available to you.
Keep hope alive
Don't give up despite how difficult things get
Your disappointment won't last forever
Get involved in various activities
Use these opportunities reach out and help others
You gain a sense of satisfaction that encourages you
Develop a caring network
Gain support and encouragement from family and friends
Inspire you to bounce back from your disappointment
Rebound and Move Ahead
Taking the steps suggested will help you to become more self-aware, that is, understanding your own feelings, thoughts, and motives. As you do, you develop the confidence, skills, and commitment to overcome your disappointment.
This confidence will serve as a springboard for you to move ahead to achieve the goals you set for your personal, family, and professional life. Moving on after disappointments is not a sprint but an endurance race.
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© 2013 Yvette Stupart PhD