I believe in living life as holistically as possible. The different parts of our experiences meld into one amazing whole.
The law of attraction states that like draws like. People around the world have used this principle to improve their lives. Although there are many different methods available, affirmations are extremely popular and just as effective when used properly.
What Are Affirmations?
At their core, affirmations are statements of belief. We may not realize it as it happens, but we’re bombarded with them every day of our lives. Our parents gave them to us in their expectations of who they wanted us to become, as well as who we are. Our friends did the same, as did teachers in their evaluations of us as students.
As we grow up, those repeated messages eventually wind their ways into our subconscious and become a part of our identities as adults. However, when we are old enough to have a more concrete sense of self, we can use them to draw what we want and need into our lives, be it money, health, happiness or love.
Affirmations on their own aren't quite as useful as when they're paired with action. During times of weakness, they're often just the right thing for reviving motivation and hope.
The best way to use them is to seek out personal growth, instead of trying to influence someone else's behavior. After all, we can only control what we do. However, when you change the way you act for the better, you will attract the type of relationships you've always wanted.
Some characteristics you can nurture with these affirmations are:
- Inner strength
There are countless other personality traits to be developed through effort and implementing powerful tools.
How Are Affirmations Written?
Although the web is crawling with pre-written affirmations, the best ones are the ones we write for ourselves.
This is because, through the process of writing a good affirmation, we examine what is truly setting us back within our own subconscious and what we need to do to fix it.
The very first step to writing a successful affirmation is to examine what you most often find yourself thinking. Write these self-destructive thoughts down as they occur. This way, you’ll be able to spot some of what’s blocking your desires from manifesting. From there, write positive statements to counter the negative.
There are a few things to keep in mind while you’re writing them.
- Keep them in the present tense. That will subliminally convince your mind to believe what you are convincing it of. If it doesn’t feel right to put them present tense, set a date by which to achieve the goal and add it to the affirmation.
- Keep them short. It’s easier to remember short affirmations. Short, strong statements are psychologically easier to incorporate into your subconscious as well.
- Keep them positive. Avoid use of words like “not” or “won’t." Keeping what you’re trying to overcome in the affirmation has a way of backfiring in your mind. For example, if you’re trying to get better grades, write something like “I am doing better and better in school every day”, instead of “I am not flunking out of class”.
- Use language you're comfortable with. The wording you choose is just as important as the content. Have you ever noticed how certain words can put you in a specific mood? Try to have fun when you're writing your affirmations, and do your best to word them in a way to induce the mood you'd like to be in when you seek out the affection you'd like to attract. Remember, they're for you and you alone.
Those three points are the most important things to keep in mind when writing your affirmations. There are those who say that incorporating your name helps make them more effective, but that’s a matter of opinion.
Personally, I prefer to stick with the simple “I” or “me." It feels strange to refer to myself by name when reciting these phrases.
How Do We Use Affirmations?
There are many ways to incorporate affirmations into your life, but I've found these three methods have been the easiest and most effective for in my personal experience.
- Repetition. You will need to repeat these new affirmations to yourself several times a day, especially when you feel doubt creeping up on you again. It’s best to start the day with these thoughts and end the day with them, if at all possible. Depending on how you write them, they could be repeated in the form of song or poetry.
- Write it out. Another effective method is to write the affirmation down and put it in obvious places. It can be set as a background for your computer or cell phone, kept in your check book or on a sticky note on your desk.
- Add them to home decoration. When something is pleasing to look at, it can have a stronger impact on your subconscious. Adding it to your home, perhaps as a sign hung on the wall or an embroidered pillow, gives you the opportunity to take note of it whenever you're relaxing.
I have what I call an inspiration board, which has a mixture of quotes, affirmations, and pictures of things that keep me going. It hangs on the wall in my office in a place that I can look at it every day. The act of writing affirmations in a nice script and then adding them to decorative elements that remind me of special things in my life has been a great way of cementing them in my psyche.
Lastly, try not to overwhelm yourself with too many affirmations. Focus on only two or three at the most for a month or so or until you start seeing results. Too many of them could make the few that you need to work on at that time less effective.
How Does This Relate to the Law of Attraction?
As stated earlier, the law of attraction works by incorporating something that represents what it is you desire into your life, which then draws your desire to you.
Affirmations are a way of doing just that. Once our subconscious ideas about ourselves change accordingly, we start seeing the desired changes in our life. On a metaphysical level, that's because we're willfully changing the energy we generate.
On a practical level, we're gradually changing our own behavior patterns. As that happens, other people notice the change. If done correctly, those people are the ones who you're trying to draw into your life.
If you have specific people in mind, however, there's no telling if they're the ones who will seek relationships with you. We can't control their behavior, remember. While this fact may be frustrating, it's one that must eventually be accepted.
The good news is that you could develop even better relationships with those already in your life or make new friends with unexpected parties. Life may be unpredictable, but that's not necessarily a bad thing.
The law of attraction and affirmations are great tools, but they must be used in conjunction with active efforts to seek the changes you want in your life.
Emilie S Peck (author) from Minneapolis, MN on February 17, 2013:
Really, in the end, we're the ones who need to learn those lessons from past lives and make our present lives better. Sounds like the healer set you on the right path. :)
Dr. Eve Riser-Roberts from Santa Fe, NM on February 17, 2013:
This Hub was informative and echos what I am going through now :-) I just visited a Psychic Healer and discovered I've had over 18,000 lives and somewhere around the 10,000th life, something bad happened and evidently stayed with me ever since. The healer 'removed' it from me forever. I had been living with the 'anger/frustration/disappointment' in this life, too. But I feel different now. The two affirmations she gave with her readings are just what I need. One is to be satisfied and content with all that is before me. I am at peace. The other is that I am calm and empowered as I lead a purposeful life. In other words, they prepare me for any crap that may be coming my way and give me the strength to deal with it. Then within that context I can create my own affirmations, as needed. Good Hub!
Bobby Isenhower from Crothersville, IN on September 30, 2012:
That's what it stats in the movie, it says you have to keep going toward, you can't just sit around and expect it to come. It tells you that you have to pursue your dreams at the same time.
HudsonMohawkPress from Latham, NY on September 30, 2012:
The movie “The Secret” was a good introduction to the basics of the Law of Attraction but it downplayed the hard work that is needed to make things happen. Thinking or affirming things into being is not really how it works, but change is possible if the Law of Attraction is combined with action, focus and persistence. The messages of the “New Thought” teachers of the last 100 years are still relevant today. Go back to William Walker Atkinson’s book “Thought Vibration or the Law of Attraction in the Thought World” for an explanation of how the Law of Attraction really works. Check out the new updated gender neutral edition at http://www.hudsonmohawkpress.com
Bobby Isenhower from Crothersville, IN on September 20, 2012:
Law of attraction is awesome, one of my fav books "the secret" is so good for teaching you to get your mindset right...
Emilie S Peck (author) from Minneapolis, MN on September 20, 2012:
Thank you very much! I really is a remarkable principle.
annerivendell from Dublin, Ireland on September 20, 2012:
Great Hub. I am very much a believer in law of attraction and have evidence of it in my life almost every day. Voted up.
Emilie S Peck (author) from Minneapolis, MN on September 19, 2012:
Thank you all so much! I'm so happy you liked it!
tipstoretireearly from New York on September 19, 2012:
Short and positive affirmations repeated daily can have a huge impact. Nicely written!
Deborah from Las Vegas on September 19, 2012:
I use positive affirmations because I have so many negative ones running around in my head. Thank you for an inspirational hub that I really needed today. Voted up and well-done!
Bobby Isenhower from Crothersville, IN on September 19, 2012:
My hub of You are your own success goes right along with your hub here :) love it. Great Writing :)
Emilie S Peck (author) from Minneapolis, MN on September 19, 2012:
No problem, Eric!
It's funny, but I had the same sort of experience with martial arts. I just hadn't made the connection until after I had to stop practicing.
Eric Dierker from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on September 19, 2012:
I grew up playing all sports on many teams. I think this was just engrained into me. But that does not mean I practice it all the time. Thanks for a good reminder and lesson.