Overcome Obstacles Using 3 Easy Techniques
Overcoming Obstacles Starts From Within
Everyone experiences roadblocks, setbacks or obstacles. That is just part of life, and unfortunately, many of our roadblocks come from within. More often than not, we are quick to talk ourselves out of something at the slightest hint of trouble. It may be natural to take the path of least resistance, but if you want to succeed at anything, you'll have to start seeing obstacles as opportunities. A little creativity and plenty of elbow grease will serve you much better than a victim mindset.
To help you along your way, here's a quick guide to getting past life's roadblocks and getting back on the path to your success.
Overcoming Obstacles by Having Clearer Goals
First, make sure your goals are crystal clear and at the forefront of your mind. If you don't have goals, set some. Long term, mid-term and short term. Then post them somewhere where you will see them frequently. Take a minute to write them out from time to time as well, since this action will help you focus on them better. When you encounter a setback, you can always refer to the goals you've set and adjust your approach to ensure you still end up where you want to be.
To clarify your goals, try writing them out like this:
I am working diligently so I can ______________
You can do this for each goal, and for your overarching "big" goal.
For instance, "I am working diligently so I can retire on 10 million dollars." This goal is easy because there is a number attached. There is also a time frame. So say you are 25 years old, and you want to retire early at age 50. This would give you 25 years to put together that $10 million. Now you can set your mid-term goal at $5 million by age 37, and your shorter term goals at $400,000 per year.
Now you just need a method and daily activity to get you there.
To Overcome Obstacles, Focus on Achievement
Second, quit complaining and making excuses. There is a difference between identifying problems so you can find solutions and complaining. Complaints and excuses are what you hear out of a child at the thought of taking a two block hike to the corner store. "It's too far!" "I can't find my shoes."
There will always be some level of difficulty in problem-solving, so put on your positive pants and deal with it. If you hear yourself using the word 'because' a lot when it comes to why things aren't getting done, check to make sure you are not making excuses for a failure to take action.
The last thing you want to do to yourself is to adopt a victim mentality. Bad things do happen to good people every day, and so do good things. Whatever your beef is with society, your past, other people, or circumstances, you just need to find a way to fix it or let go and move on. That in itself may take some work, but if that is the case, write out a goal for solving the problem, and start that work today.
Do you have a victim mentality? Here's an exercise that will help you find out:
Put your problem into this sentence: "Oh poor me! I can't ____________ because _________.
For example, "Oh poor me, I can't focus on my goals because my family is driving me crazy!" You just made yourself the victim of your family. Have you given serious consideration to ways that you could fix the problem? Is there something you need to fix? Something you need to let go of? A boundary you need to establish? Have you set a goal for that?
Every problem has a solution, so start focusing on your goals and get creative about problem-solving.
Overcoming Obstacles With Determination
Third, you have to get determined. Every year, I choose a theme song. Last year, It was "Just Dance" by Lady Gaga. I decided that no matter what happened, I was just going to keep dancing or keep moving in the direction of my goals. Anytime I would run into a problem, I would listen to that song. "Just dance, it's gonna be alright, da da do do, just dance."
This year, my song is Queen's "Don't Stop Me Now!" My favorite part is in the chorus where they sing, "Don't stop me now, I'm havin' such a good time, I'm havin' a ball!" Sometimes I think of that when I'm in the midst of a problem, and it makes me smile. Even though there are problems each and every day, why shouldn't we have a good time, have a ball? There are plenty of good things in life we can focus on, and plenty of ways to enjoy the little moments of our days. Why let a problem get in the way?
I listen to my song every morning and every day I take time to think of ways to solve my problems, whatever they are. Without this kind of determination, you will accomplish nothing, because your heart is not set on it. Try this exercise to learn determination:
Put your goals and problems into this sentence:
My goal is ___________ and nothing is going to stop me from achieving that, not even ____________ because I will do __________ to overcome that.
I had to do this years ago when I was trying to finish my bachelor's degree at home. My family members, bless their hearts, kept interrupting me with their demands or arguments or minor problems when I was studying. These were not things that couldn't wait, it was just that there I was, just sitting there at the computer or with a book, so they must have thought I wasn't doing anything important. I finally had to make rules about when they were or weren't allowed to talk to me unless there was bloodshed.
When you make the decision to go about achieving your goals like you mean it, you will be surprised at how many doors start to open!
Take Charge and Overcome Any Obstacle
Remember that climbing a mountain will not wear you down nearly as much as a pebble in your shoe will. Inventory your thought life and attitudes, and become aware of any self-imposed hindrances to your success, whether it is because your goals are not crystal clear, you have a victim mentality, or you are not determined enough. When you take charge of your success, you will start to see better results.
Do you have more ideas on how to create more success in your life? Please share any tips and tricks you've used to overcome obstacles, especially the ones that come from within.
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