When Life Throws You a Curveball
Being an Empath Isn't Always Easy
Being an empath can be tough. If you don't know how to protect yourself or you walk into something completely unexpected, you can be too overwhelmed with everything going on around you. It is also easier for empaths to get sick after taking on so much. You have to take care of yourself. Anyone needs to take care of themselves, but empaths, sensitives, etc., need to make sure they do as well. I know from personal experience that when you are in the habit of helping others, you can end up putting their needs before yours and end up exhausted. Guess where that gets you? It gets you in a position where you are unhealthy. What good are you to those people that need you?
Anxiety and Worry
Anxiety and worry have been a constant struggle in my life. Even as a young child I carried the weight of the world on my shoulders. I had a great childhood, and while I had struggles as a young adult going into adulthood, it could have been a lot worse.
So, what was there to worry about? I honestly had no clue sometimes. There were times that I would worry that there was nothing to worry about. At one point doctors wanted to diagnosis me with severe anxiety disorder and load me up on meds. I went this route for a while and then realized that it still wasn’t helping and I didn’t like how the meds made me feel. Finally, after going through about a 2 year period of loss and stress I realized that I was an empath and that my emotional problems were from feeling other peoples feelings in addition to my own. I also had to accept my abilities. I knew I had abilities, but I had been putting a damper on them. However, after the realization and acceptance of everything, I still struggled. I didn’t struggle as bad, but I struggled. I got to the point that I tried hiding my anxiety and worry because people thought I was overreacting. If people knew I was worried, then I was on the verge of a panic attack.
This past summer, I worked hard on finding my truth and working on the anxiety. My main focus was to let things go. I realized that I could not change things that had already happened, so why dwell on it? I still had issues with being assertive because I thought I was going to make someone mad and then I would worry and dwell on the words I said. I was still worried about things that I had no control over. Then one day, something clicked. I got an “I don’t give a ----” attitude. It worked. I had a situation come up where there was a lot of drama that led to people getting mad at me. I stood my ground, I defended people, I gave direct instruction to those under me and guess what? I survived it and it actually felt good. When I went home that night, it dawned on me that I wasn’t dwelling on it. I realized it was in the past and there was nothing I could do to change it, so why should I waste my time and energy worrying about it?
Tips for Coping
To get on a more personal level here, I have been going through a crazy rough time with my health for the last little bit. That is one reason I disappear for stretches of time. A while ago I was diagnosed with lupus. Not something you want to hear, but at least now there is a reason behind it all.
Sometimes, it is hard to stay on your path when you are feeling horrible. You know in your head that your path is what will help you, but physically or mentally you just can't do it at that moment. The first time this happened after I had started my journey I was afraid I had made my guides mad and they left me. That ended up not true; your guides are always there. They'll wait on you and sometimes, in the meantime, they'll send you subtle signs if you pay attention.
Here are just some simple ideas to help you stay calm and connected, or at least help you feel a bit better.
- epsom salt baths
- journaling (just get it all out)
- deep breathing
- walks in nature
So let's get into some more details!
This is what really helps me. I sit in a quiet room, usually with some music, and I just concentrate on my breathing. I relax and try to clear my mind. Let the stress and worries just roll off of you! I like to do this daily, however, that's not always possible, but doing it several times a week helps.
Hot Baths and Hot Tea
I love hot baths and hot tea. Now not necessarily always together, although they are quite nice together. Hot baths just help you relax. I love hot herbal tea, and will sometimes make my own mixes. There are herbs that are useful for different things, including teas. One that helps me relax is lavender tea. As far as hot baths go, throw in some Epsom salt and soak for a while. It really helps relax you and release tension. I get scented Epsom salts with lavender or eucalyptus in it.
Any kind of exercise is going to help relieve anxiety and stress. I have a friend who is an avid runner and when she's stressed she goes for a run. While running helps me as well, I am not an avid runner like she is. Therefore, I turn to yoga. The different movements that stretch your body and muscles feel good and release tension. Depending on the moves you do, you cannot help but feel either energized or relaxed once you are done.
Getting out in nature helps a lot. Even if you can't go on a full-blown nature walk at the time. Just go out, and stick your bare feet in the grass or go sit under a tree for a few minutes. I know it can be tough sometimes getting out in nature, especially if you live in the middle of a busy city. However, find a park to take a walk in. It doesn't have to be anything elaborate, just simple and quick. You will be able to tell the difference though and notice how calm you feel afterward.
I like to use essential oils instead of meds if I can (sometimes meds can't be replaced with oils). There are different blends you can find. I have a blend that I just rub on my wrists and sniff if I need to. You can also diffuse the oils. Lavender is a good oil to help calm you.
I have mentioned several ways to stay relaxed. For me, these have really helped me to learn to relax and to get to a calming place in my head quickly if the need arises. However, there are still instances that an attack can occur and hit full force preventing you from getting to that calm place. This is when I usually start taking deep breaths. I have two techniques I like to use.
One technique I use a lot, although not as much as I use to have to, is alternate breathing. This is where you would take your thumb and press against one nostril closing it off. Then inhale and exhale long and deep three times. After this is done, remove your thumb from your nose and take a finger from the same hand. I usually use my ring finger—it's easier to reach. Close off the other nostril and repeat on that side. If you still feel anxious, repeat both nostrils a couple more times each. The other method is box breathing.
- Get in a comfortable position
- Slowly breathe in through your nose for four counts
- hold for the count of four
- exhale to the count of four
- hold for the count of four
- Repeat as needed
Be sure to breathe slowly as you do this and do not rush through the counting.
Alternate Nostril Breathing
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