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Quick Emotional Intelligence Quiz

Mindy Aisling is a certified life coach & mediator, motivational speaker, author, entrepreneur, mountaineer, and 5-star shower-singer.

Emotional Intelligence is having the skill set to fill in the missing pieces.

Emotional Intelligence is having the skill set to fill in the missing pieces.

Simply put, emotional intelligence (known as EQ or EI) is having a full awareness of yourself, others, and the situation, and then having the ability to choose what thoughts, feelings, words, and actions are going to have the highest chance of success in getting the results you want.

People with high emotional intelligence are successful in their personal and professional relationships. They are able to connect easily with others, manage conflict, and achieve their goals with greater ease.

Below is a quiz with 10 high EQ statements—read them one by one, and rate yourself on how true each statement is for you.

Quiz

For each question, choose the best answer for you.

  1. I do not become defensive when criticized.
    • Not true at all
    • Rarely true
    • Sometimes true
    • Mostly true
    • Always true
  2. I am able to stay calm under pressure.
    • Not true at all
    • Rarely true
    • Sometimes true
    • Mostly true
    • Always true
  3. I am able to mange my anxiety, stress and fear
    • Not true at all
    • Rarely true
    • Sometimes true
    • Mostly true
    • Always true
  4. I handle setbacks and failure effectively
    • Not true at all
    • Rarely true
    • Sometimes true
    • Mostly true
    • Always true
  5. I recognize how my behavior affects others
    • Not true at all
    • Rarely true
    • Sometimes true
    • Mostly true
    • Always true
  6. I don’t blame others
    • Not true at all
    • Rarely true
    • Sometimes true
    • Mostly true
    • Always true
  7. I take 100% responsibility for my actions
    • Not true at all
    • Rarely true
    • Sometimes true
    • Mostly true
    • Always true
  8. I maintain a positive outlook and a sense of humor when under pressure
    • Not true at all
    • Rarely true
    • Sometimes true
    • Mostly true
    • Always true
  9. I don’t avoid conflict, and I’m confident in my ability to peacefully resolve conflicts as they arise
    • Not true at all
    • Rarely true
    • Sometimes true
    • Mostly true
    • Always true
  10. I am able to skillfully air my grievances
    • Not true at all
    • Rarely true
    • Sometimes true
    • Mostly true
    • Always true

Scoring

Use the scoring guide below to add up your total points based on your answers.

  1. I do not become defensive when criticized.
    • Not true at all: +1 point
    • Rarely true: +2 points
    • Sometimes true: +3 points
    • Mostly true: +4 points
    • Always true: +5 points
  2. I am able to stay calm under pressure.
    • Not true at all: +1 point
    • Rarely true: +2 points
    • Sometimes true: +3 points
    • Mostly true: +4 points
    • Always true: +5 points
  3. I am able to mange my anxiety, stress and fear
    • Not true at all: +1 point
    • Rarely true: +2 points
    • Sometimes true: +3 points
    • Mostly true: +4 points
    • Always true: +5 points
  4. I handle setbacks and failure effectively
    • Not true at all: +1 point
    • Rarely true: +2 points
    • Sometimes true: +3 points
    • Mostly true: +4 points
    • Always true: +5 points
  5. I recognize how my behavior affects others
    • Not true at all: +1 point
    • Rarely true: +2 points
    • Sometimes true: +3 points
    • Mostly true: +4 points
    • Always true: +5 points
  6. I don’t blame others
    • Not true at all: +1 point
    • Rarely true: +2 points
    • Sometimes true: +3 points
    • Mostly true: +4 points
    • Always true: +5 points
  7. I take 100% responsibility for my actions
    • Not true at all: +1 point
    • Rarely true: +2 points
    • Sometimes true: +3 points
    • Mostly true: +4 points
    • Always true: +5 points
  8. I maintain a positive outlook and a sense of humor when under pressure
    • Not true at all: +1 point
    • Rarely true: +2 points
    • Sometimes true: +3 points
    • Mostly true: +4 points
    • Always true: +5 points
  9. I don’t avoid conflict, and I’m confident in my ability to peacefully resolve conflicts as they arise
    • Not true at all: +1 point
    • Rarely true: +2 points
    • Sometimes true: +3 points
    • Mostly true: +4 points
    • Always true: +5 points
  10. I am able to skillfully air my grievances
    • Not true at all: +1 point
    • Rarely true: +2 points
    • Sometimes true: +3 points
    • Mostly true: +4 points
    • Always true: +5 points

Interpreting Your Score

A score between 10 and 22 means: You are at the beginning of a great journey! Emotional intelligence is a learned skill, if no one has ever taught you the skill-set, of course you don’t know! No big deal, now you can set out learn something new that will have a tremendously positive impact on your life. As you do the work to increase your level of emotional intelligence, get ready for your life to completely transform. Get your sunglasses on, you cool cat, your future so bright you've got to wear shades!

A score between 23 and 34 means: You might have been introduced to some emotional intelligence skills, but there is a lot more to know. Emotional intelligence takes learning and practice. Just like when you start going to the gym, first you get a personal trainer to explain all the skills needed and then you practice and train until you get stronger and stronger. I would not expect you to do 100 push-ups unless you had trained to do so. In the same way, you will not be able to respond to tough situations with a high emotional intelligence unless you've practiced. The good news is that you have something wonderful to loo

A score between 35 and 42 means: It sounds like you’ve got some emotional intelligence skills under your belt, and now you have the opportunity to take it deeper for even better results in your life. There are 3 ways to “know” something, but unfortunately in our culture we only have one word to describe multiple experiences. This is harmful because often when a person has the first level of knowing something, they will say, "Oh yeah, I already know that." and thus, stop their learning of it. You are now at a place where you can encompass the deeper levels of knowing.

A score between 43 and 46 means: If you scored in this range, you’ve got a great comprehension of emotional intelligence, and now is the time to make it your default way of operating. It sounds like you have a mental and emotional grasp of the emotional intelligence tools. This is your opportunity to integrate it into your being so that it becomes your habit. This step takes practice and reflection. A person training to run a marathon must practice and set goals to run further each week. In much the same way, if you want to respond to difficult situations with a high level of emotional intelligence, you must set goals

A score between 47 and 50 means: When you are able to effortlessly operate from high emotional intelligence 100% of the time, and you are no longer triggered or reactive in any situation, then (poof!), you disappear because you’ve reached enlightenment. To be honest, I'm not sure if this is true, but I am making a joke because there is an erroneous and often ego-filled way of thinking that assumes that there is a point where you can know if all, and learning ceases. The truth is that all humans continually have new experiences and new challenges. The task of ever-expanding your emotional intelligence is never over, it only

This quiz gives you a quick assessment of your current level of emotional intelligence. Remember that what your score is today doesn’t matter. What you choose to do with this information is what will define you and dictate your future.

Whatever area of your life you'd like to see an improvement in (confidence, stress-relief, leadership, business, relationships), emotional intelligence training is the single fastest and easiest way to transform your reality.

Investment in raising your level of emotional intelligence is an investment that lasts a lifetime. After you have learned these skills, you never lose them, and they will continue to have a positive impact on your life for years to come.

Increase your Emotional Intelligence: Take a time out.  CC0 License

Increase your Emotional Intelligence: Take a time out. CC0 License

Here are two tools that you can do this week to improve your emotional intelligence (EI).

EI Tool #1: Take a timeout when you are emotional

When you are angry, defensive and reactionary, you are operating from your reptilian brain. Your reptilian brain is not designed to think clearly, be creative or see solutions. The reptilian brain is only about to do three things: fight, flight or freeze. Since these three things will not help to have a productive conversation, you need to get back into your cortex or thinking brain. You can do this by taking a time out and asking yourself some questions. Asking yourself questions helps to move you into your ‘smart’ brain, where you can more easily assess what is happening and make a choice that will move you in the direction that you want to go. Here are some great questions to ask yourself:

What do I want for myself in this situation?

What do I want for the other person in this situation?

What do I want my relationship with this other person to be like? (think big picture)

Not only will asking yourself these questions help you get into your cortex, they will also help you decide what your next action step needs to be so that you can create what you want.

One of the keys to high emotional intelligence is knowing how to move from your reactive (reptilian) brain into your thinking (cortex) brain. The more you do this, the easier and quicker it will become.

EI Tool #2: Get Curious

Curiosity is my favorite emotional intelligence tools. It is easy to use and has powerful results. The first step to growing your Emotional Intelligence is getting curious about yourself. As humans, we all tell ourselves “stories” about the data around us. However, usually, we are so sure our stories are true, we don’t even realize that they are made up by us and unique to us. Some of us have a hard time even recognizing the difference between data and story. Here are a few examples:

Data Vs. Story

Being able to recognize the difference between data and story helps with your assessment of the situation, and with your ability to communicate about it.

StoryData

You were really upset with me yesterday.

You walked out of the room and slammed the door.

You were very unprofessional and rude with the client.

You didn't look the client in the eye or shake his hand and you interrupted him twice.

You are doing such good work.

Your work has had no spelling or punctuation errors.

I am concerned that you are working way too much

I am concerned because you worked an average of 56 hours the past three weeks.

Sometimes, the story we tell ourselves about others can differ from the story we tell about ourselves—even if the data is the same.

All of us can control the stories we tell ourselves and change them as often as needed to create the life and relationships we desire.

SituationStory You Tell

One of your peers buys the boss a birthday card

It's because they are kissing-butt and trying to weasel their way in for a promotion

You buy your boss a birthday card

It's because you are warm and caring

Someone cuts you off while driving

They are rude, agressive and inconsiderate

You cut someone off while you are driving

It's because you are in a hurry and if you don't catch these lights you'll miss your appointment

Someone yells at the post office clerk

They are bad-tempered

You yell at the post office clerk

It's because you're tired and this is the 3rd time you've been here trying to resolve the problem and the post office keeps making the same mistake which is costing you money

To increase your level of emotional intelligence, you must understand the difference between data and story and be able to recognize it. In addition, you also can begin to be curious about yourself and your specific stories. When you judge someone or tell yourself a story about someone, that judgment and story say more about you than they do about the other person. This is a great tool to learn more about yourself.

You can learn more about increasing your emotional intelligence by reading some of the great books on the subject or hiring an emotional intelligence coach to work with you one-on-one.

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