Responsible Decision Making—Make Good Life Choices

Updated on December 4, 2017
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I work in a law firm by day, write at night, and used to make wedding cakes as a hobby.

How you choose to color your life is up to you.
How you choose to color your life is up to you.

There are so many situations in life delivering outcomes in which we are ultimately responsible. It begins in childhood when we’re taught to pick up our toys, and as we grow older, we’re taught to be responsible for our own decisions. What I heard a lot when I was growing up was that old adage, “If someone tells you to jump off a bridge, does that mean you’re going to do it?” There’s a lesson in that, so much so, it's no wonder people continue to repeat it over and over again because it teaches you to have your own mind and think about your choices as well as the consequential outcomes.

We are influenced by parents, caregivers, church instructors, school teachers, relatives, and friends. When we are children, we naturally cling to our parents or caregivers for most forms of support. Every difficult situation we encounter in life, whether we choose to believe it or not, has actually offered a lesson in life. It is our responsibility as individuals to know the lesson because that lesson will develop inner strength.

If we lean too much on others in the growing process, we become co-dependent. If our minds develop too many unnecessary reasons why we can’t make a decision, this will become a pattern through most of our adulthood. This pattern will enable us to carry fear every time we’re forced to make a decision about anything.

If we are capable of making our own choices, then why would we want someone else to render a decision for us based upon the knowledge and awareness that other person carries?
If we are capable of making our own choices, then why would we want someone else to render a decision for us based upon the knowledge and awareness that other person carries?

Face Problems Head-On

If we are more self-reliant, we will develop a level of perseverance to face what needs to be faced. Those who are indecisive and without courage will always turn to another to absorb some form of approval before actually finding the decision. Regardless of where the influence comes from when we make decisions, we have to own the decisions we make because we are rightfully responsible for the choices we choose.

Developing an inner strength is similar to facing a fear. When we refuse to be self-responsible, we’re suffocating our own possible efforts and we’re closing the gate on the possibility of increasing self-confidence. When we allow someone else to make a decision for us, we not only have to live with the effects of such a decision, we also make room to blame that other person for anything disagreeable that might follow.

What Happens When a Crisis Occurs?

People who have always been protected all their lives and have never experienced a crisis will ultimately lean on another person when a crisis occurs. When the crisis is over, they will return to their normal course of daily activities. If they can’t find a person to lean on, they might collapse because they have not learned to emotionally support themselves on their own. There are a lot of people like this in the world today.

The weak always gravitate to the strong. A person who is determined to complain every single day loses power if people stop listening. The complainer does not take responsibility for the state of unhappiness and the effects of the unhappiness are passed around like unwanted dessert.

Every human being is motivated to speak and act, and they are responsible for what motivates them to do so as well as the after effects to some extent. We are each responsible for our actions. To place blame on another person is an act of weakness. We are responsible for our choices once we have attained the ability to make responsible choices.

We are responsible for the lies and truths we tell. We are responsible for the jobs we are hired to perform. We are responsible for our types of behavior. We are responsible for all the language that comes out of our mouths and all the things we do with our hands.

It is not someone else’s responsibility to make us kind or happy, loving or thoughtful, those things come from within. It is not someone else’s responsibility to make sure we do the right thing. All these actions are a product of choice. It is our responsibility to make the right choice, the choice that is right for us as individuals, and the choice that has a positive effect.


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  • ytsenoh profile imageAUTHOR


    8 years ago from Louisiana, Idaho, Kauai, Nebraska, South Dakota, Missouri

    LoveLikeaSunset, thanks for your comment. Hope you have a great writing day today. Glad you enjoyed this piece.

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    8 years ago from Missouri

    In the midst of a confrontation right now, this is just what I needed. Thanks so much for this article. I will now hold my head a little higher and walk a little taller, no longer blaming others for the problems that occur. Well written, and thanks again.

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    8 years ago from Louisiana, Idaho, Kauai, Nebraska, South Dakota, Missouri

    brittanytodd, thank you so much for your comment.

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    Brittany Kennedy 

    8 years ago from Kailua-Kona, Hawaii

    What an amazing hub. Thank you for sharing this. I think we should all strive to be better people and make responsible choices. Great hub, voted up, etc.

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    8 years ago from Louisiana, Idaho, Kauai, Nebraska, South Dakota, Missouri

    Lastheart, thanks much for your comment. This is one of my favorite pieces and one of the most read ones. Keep teaching, keep writing. My daughter teaches autistic children, which is a powerful lesson to me daily.

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    Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill 

    8 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord

    Thanks, for the deep comment on my Hub: Acceptance Is Not A Choice. Now that I read this one, I understand why you wrote what you wrote.

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    9 years ago


    I like :)

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    9 years ago

    Well said. I plan to follow you. Please drop by and follow me as well. You make such valid points, and quite timely points for me as well! Keep writing.


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