Sally is a writer, speaker, and communications coach. She teaches her clients how to express themselves with power and impact.
What You Need to Know to Be Lucky In Life
Do you want to welcome more joy, abundance, and affluence into your life? Is it possible to change your luck, just by changing your mind? I sure hope so! If you want to be luckier in life, pay attention to what you think and feel when something positive happens in your life. Here are seven mentally and emotionally healthy habits of people who act and feel like the luckiest people in the world. Are you ready to join them?
Habit # 1: Start by believing that you deserve good things to happen to you!
If something good happens to you, do you give thanks for it, or do you dismiss it as something you don't deserve?
Here’s an example: When someone gives you a compliment, what do you do with it? Do you say, “Oh, my new haircut? Yeah, I don’t really like it”? Or do you say, “Thank you!”?
When you dismiss the gifts that others give you (i.e.; a compliment, a helping hand in a time of need, or some other kind gesture) because you don’t think you deserve them, you're conditioning the world around you to treat you as though you don’t deserve these things. That's no way to open yourself up to more good luck!
The truth is that everyone deserves a compliment now and then. Everyone deserves to be treated with kindness. Everyone deserves to have good things happen to them. And that includes you! If you want to be luckier in life, believe that you deserve to be luckier and see if things start to change for you.
Habit # 2: Never leave luck to chance--always have a plan
It may seem like a cliché but in many situations, our perceived good luck has nothing to do with coincidence and everything to do with our own efforts to get organized. The more prepared we are in advance, the more prepared we are to face new opportunities head on.
Have you ever noticed that the luckiest people at work -- the ones who get raises, timely recognition and coveted perks and bonuses -- are those people who always seem to be well organized? They plan ahead for business meetings. They’re ready to meet clients at the drop of a hat. They can swoop in to work on important projects at the last minute. It’s these positive work habits, not luck, that put them in front of golden opportunities time and time again.
Getting organized and de-cluttering your life is one of the best ways to be luckier in life. You’ll also feel less stressed when you are more organized.
Habit # 3: Focus on the things that you can actually control
Stop wasting time worrying about things that you cannot control. Dwelling on things beyond your reach is a form of stalling and procrastination. You’re only fooling yourself into thinking that your time spent worrying is actually productive and that it is somehow keeping you safe and sane. It’s not. It’s simply robbing you of the time you need to start creating your own luck, by doing, rather than wishing!
When you identify and focus on the things in life that you can take control of, you’ll instantly feel uplifted and the steps you need to take to reach your goals will become clearer.
Habit # 4: Give thanks for what you've already got
Counting your blessings is one of the fastest ways to be luckier in life!
If you want to welcome more prosperity into your home, heart, and work, you must deepen your appreciation for all the blessings in your life. Find a friendly support network. Connect with people who believe in you. Find ways to use your own natural talents and abilities to help other people who aren't as blessed as you are. Shift your focus away from your supposed “bad luck” and put your energy into doing the things that make you feel good about yourself.
When you start to view yourself as unlucky, that’s your cue that it’s time to look around and act on those things that are within your control. Be more assertive. Ask for a raise at work. Focus on some creative projects. Find a way to overcome your boredom. Look for ways to take action!
Habit # 5: Be kind and pleasant to others
There's really no other way to say it: The luckiest people in the world are also the nicest. Why? Because lucky people know how to connect with others in a way that fosters connections. And connections and common ground help create more opportunities for you and for others. Kind and pleasant people are also humble and grateful---they see and appreciate the positive things around them and they notice the best in others. That kind of mindset is a magnet for feeling luckier in life.
Habit # 6: Don't go it alone
Ask for help with what you need. Reaching out to others and building a circle of mutual support can help you achieve your goals in a much more productive and enjoyable way. You never know what great ideas and suggestions someone might have for a project you're working on.
Being around other people also opens us up to new perspectives and can help us break out of ruts. Have you ever noticed that he people who complain the loudest about being unlucky are also the ones who seem to make the same mistakes over and over again? Having a supportive team beside you can steer you away from bad habits and move you towards taking the kind of thoughtful risks that yield new innovations---innovations that feel like you just stumbled upon them.
Habit # 7: Re-define the meaning of bad luck
Don't think of episodes of bad luck or misfortune as something to always be avoided. Instead, get comfortable with the idea that no matter how many lucky habits you cultivate, unfortunate things are going to happen---that's just part of life. But the minute you re-frame your interpretation of an event as being unlucky and transform it into an opportunity, you've instantly rid yourself of the unlucky occurrence.
Give it a try! You've got nothing to lose!
© 2018 Sally Hayes
Readmikenow on April 07, 2018:
I read this and remembered what a very successful relative of mine said when another family member told him he was "lucky." He said "The only luck I've had is when my hard work and determination has met with opportunity." That's a quote from somewhere. You provide some good advice. I enjoyed reading it.
Eric Dierker from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on April 06, 2018:
Great stuff. All are good.
Mary Norton from Ontario, Canada on April 06, 2018:
These are really useful tips. What I like is to be grateful for what you've already got. Sometimes, we forget to do this.