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Ways to Tell If You Are Happy or Unhappy

Rev. Margaret Minnicks is an ordained Bible teacher. She writes many articles that are Bible lessons.

Are these two happy or unhappy?

Are these two happy or unhappy?

You cannot look at a person and tell that he is happy. No one can look at you and be sure you are happy or unhappy. Are you happy?

What Is Happiness?

Happiness is defined as "a mental or emotional state of well-being characterized by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy."

Happiness is based on what is happening around you at a specific time. Therefore, a person can be happy at a party, at church, or at a celebration of any kind, but when he gets home, he becomes depressed because he is just not that happy.

If you have a friend or family member who you think might be unhappy, pay close attention and recognize the obvious signs. Also, notice the signs that indicate that you are not really as happy as you profess to be.

Signs of Unhappiness

There are some obvious signs that a person is happy or not happy. Take a look at the signs listed below that might be present in your own life as well as in the lives of those around you.

Unhappiness can keep you up at night

Unhappiness can keep you up at night

Sleepless Nights

If you spend several consecutive nights tossing and turning instead of sleeping, it might be a sure sign that you are unhappy during your waking hours.

Seven out of ten people have spent a night in bed without getting sufficient sleep because something kept them awake during the night. Besides work-related stress, not getting enough quality sleep is the top predictor of unhappiness among a lot of workers.

Getting a good night's sleep is a sign that things are going right in a person's life that makes them happy.

Disturbing Dream Patterns

Having sleepless nights is not the only sign that you are not happy. You might fall asleep, but you will have dreams so disturbing that you wish you hadn't fallen to sleep at all.

Your dreams indicate what you have been thinking about something subconsciously all day. Your dreams are God's way of communicating with you while you are still. If you are tormented and unhappy during the day, by no means should you expect to be happy when you go to sleep at night.

It is amazing that our dreams communicate to us if we are not happy, but we ignore the dreams.

Your dream will let you know that changes need to take place in your life.

Constant Pleasure Seeking

An unhappy person is never satisfied. As soon as he accomplishes one thing, he seeks pleasure from something or someone else.

If an unhappy person inherits millions of dollars, it will make him happy for a short period of time. As soon as he becomes accustomed to having a million dollars, he will feel an emptiness because the money no longer satisfies or makes him happy.

Some people think getting married will make them happy. It does make them happy, but it will not keep them happy if they married for the wrong reasons.

A happy person makes others happy instead of depending on others for their happiness.

Uncontrollable Stress

Everybody wants to be stress-free, but that is not always the case. Too many people are stressed out. The really bad news about this is that stressed-out people cause others to be stressed out.

If you really want to be happy, you need to rid yourself of stress. That is hard to do at first, so the next best thing to do is to manage stress and not let it overtake you.

If you are a stressed person, then you cannot be a happy person. To become happy, eliminate stress from your life as much as possible and as soon as possible.

Stress might be compelling you to work more efficiently and achieve greater goals; however, too much of it can adversely affect your long-term happiness.

Begin to think positive thoughts and sought things out as they happen rather than having things pile up in your mind.

Control your stress and be on your way to being happy.

Broken Relationships

A sure sign of being unhappy is having had several recent broken relationships. Unhappy people have a hard time resolving issues and getting along with people. They tend to want to have their own way to the detriment of being without friends. Every broken relationship just pushes an unhappy person into a state of more unhappiness.

Happy people love to spend time with others. Unhappy people would rather stay alone and soak in their own misery. That is a good thing because unhappy people make other people unhappy.

Watching excessive television might be a sign of sadness

Watching excessive television might be a sign of sadness

Watching Excessive Television

There is nothing wrong with watching television. Television offers us so much. We keep abreast of what's going on in the world by watching television. We learn from watching television. And we relax by watching television.

What is wrong with watching television is that we might be watching too much of it. For example, instead of going out and socializing with "real people" we would rather watch television. Instead of communicating with friends or family members on the telephone, you tell them you can't talk because you are watching your favorite television program.

When asked to volunteer to help out in your community, you say you can do it only if you can schedule it around a television program.

Researchers at the University of Chicago conducted the General Social Survey to evaluate the social climate in the United States. Regardless of education, income, marital status, or age, happier people surveyed watched about 30 percent less television each week than unhappier participants. On average, the happier respondents watched 19 hours of television, compared to 25 hours for the unhappy group.

If you want to be happy, do what happy people do. Use your leisure time to socialize with friends, or volunteer to do work in your church or community.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.


Margaret Minnicks (author) from Richmond, VA on July 05, 2012:

Daisydayz, I am glad to know you are a happy person. Continue to experience happiness.

Margaret Minnicks (author) from Richmond, VA on July 05, 2012:

Thanks dotty1 for reading and for your comment.

Margaret Minnicks (author) from Richmond, VA on July 05, 2012:

Rosie2010, I can tell from that beautiful smile on your face that you are a happy person. Thanks for your comment.

Margaret Minnicks (author) from Richmond, VA on April 21, 2012:

Joan Jett, I am glad you are a happy person! Keep being happy.