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Your Perception Is Your Reality

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Peg earned a BA Degree at UTD and a Master's Certificate in Project Mgmt. She managed multi-million dollar telecom projects across the U.S.

Sunset in Texas

Sunset in Texas

The Pursuit of Happiness

Reading books about successful people, one thing becomes clear from their shared experiences. Most of these people believe that happiness is not about not what happens to us but how we react to it that's important.The successful few have discovered a key principle: Our actions and reactions define who we are.

Consider the daily commute when traveling to and from work every day. Some drivers view this time as a battle against the other cars on the road. Many let this commute turn into frustration, anger, and sometimes even violence. This kind of thinking leads to higher blood pressure and mostly affects us more than anyone else.

Travel Delay

Travel Delay

Moving to the Slower Lane

When we moved from the city out to the country over twenty-seven years ago, we were amazed at the way things started to slow down around us. People seemed to take the time to look around at their surroundings. It was as if everyone had taken life down a notch or two.

Driving on the narrow roads peppered with potholes and curves, we often received a friendly four-fingered wave as our cars met on the narrow streets. Drivers, keeping a thumb on the steering wheel, would lift their remaining fingers in a friendly greeting. Soon, we became accustomed to the slower pace of our new neighbors that often pulled over to the shoulder to allow faster vehicles to go around them.

It was a total change of pace from when we lived in the city of Dallas.

Traffic jam

Traffic jam

If all you can think about is the bumper of the car ahead of you, that's probably where you'll end up.

— Doug Cox

Bumper Thoughts

I heard something at a motivational seminar decades ago that stayed with me over the years. The speaker, whose name was Doug Cox, told his audience, "If all you can think about is the bumper of the car ahead of you, that's probably where you'll end up." During my long commute to work for over a dozen years, this sage remark played over in my mind.

My daily trip into the city grew from forty to ninety minutes as the traffic got worse over the span of a dozen years. It occurred to me that I was spending ten hours a week being annoyed at other drivers. What a waste of my waking hours that was until I discovered a way to reduce this needless stress.

The fact dawned on me that day after day the same people are driving along in a trance like zombies on their cell phones, texting and generally, not paying attention when the light turns green. These people were destined to arrive at their jobs angry and wired up from the commute. But this didn't have to be my fate once I realized I could choose to see things from a different perspective.

Soaring to New Heights

The ten thousand foot view

The ten thousand foot view

"Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."

— Abraham Lincoln

Making Choices

Yogi Berra summed things up when he said, "You've got to be very careful if you don't know where you're going because you might not get there."

How do we find happiness? How does a person tune out the inevitable frustration, the daily disappointments, the distractions and decide to choose happiness?

To begin, Zig Ziglar says to perform a checkup from the neck up. Examine our attitude and state of mind. He recommends turning off the radio and listening to an uplifting piece of music; the kind of song that makes you sing along and feel happy.

Another way to reduce frustration is to use the time effectively. Turn the commute into a learning experience by listening to recorded motivational messages during your drive to work. Or direct that energy towards learning a new language as you spend your morning on the road. Make valuable use of the time spent in traffic.

There are a variety of ways to increase your overall happiness through your own creative choices. By putting the commute in the background it allows time to focus on more productive things.

3 Minutes of Good Advice

"Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Don't wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it's at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and savored."

— Earl Nightingale

Getting More From the Day

"Your mind is the most powerful tool in the universe."2

Many people hold on to the draining power of non-belief rather than opening their minds to the possibilities. From the minds of the most successful come simple observations:

Earl Nightingale says, "We become what we think about."3

If we begin to see ourselves as happy and productive then we'll start to become happier and more productive. In a powerful video called, Discovering Your Human Potential, Dr. Bernie Siegel says it like this, "If you wish to be more lovable, you must become more lovable."4

What does that mean? How does a person become more lovable? He tells us that by becoming more loving we will find the answer. Have you ever smiled at someone who was frowning? Most often, they return your smile. People generally respond in kind to how they're treated.

The way I see things now is different than it once was. My perception has changed. Though I still struggle with moments of unjustified anger and frustration, I'm a happier person than I used to be. It's an active choice.

Dawn in Texas


Getting From the Day

When we run across someone who is having a bad day and they're taking it out on us, it can help to consider their perspective. If we ask ourselves what might be troubling this person today, we put ourselves into their situation. Seeing others in a different light can open doors to understanding and acceptance.

Each morning when we wake up we're faced with an important decision. Will we choose to be happy with whatever life gives us that day or will we choose to be unhappy ? It is a conscious choice whether we benefit from the day or just "get through the day." 5

At the end of the night when we're trying to drift off to sleep, a review can be quite useful. That time of reflection is often a source of insomnia. We begin to think about the people we came into contact with during the day, our interactions with coworkers, the way we handled ourselves in traffic or at the grocery store, the words we chose to use with our children. We must ask ourselves two questions. Do we have regrets or are we pleased with the way we handled each situation?

Jim Rohn wrote that the answer to those questions could steer us in a new direction when the morning arrives and we begin a brand new day.

Carefree Highway - Gordon Lightfoot


  1. Doug Cox, The Challenges of Success
  2. Ed Foreman, How to Have a Good Day Everyday
  3. Mark Victor Hansen, Dare to Win
  4. Earl Nightingale, The Strangest Secret
  5. Bernie Siegel, M.D., Discovering Your Human Potential
  6. Jim Rohn, How to Have Your Best Year Ever

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2009 Peg Cole


Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on February 02, 2018:

Thanks, Robert. Nice to see you here today. I like Yogi Berra quotes, too.

Robert Sacchi on February 01, 2018:

Interesting read. I like the Yogi Berra quote. Those are some good ideas about what to do during the commute.

Dabby Lyric on January 08, 2018:

You are welcome and enjoy your day!

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on January 08, 2018:

Hi Dabby, You're right about shell shock. I understand after moving from the fast pace of the Dallas city area to the outskirts in our rural community. I love the slower pace and that people take time to be friendly.

Thanks so much for taking time to read this and to leave such a nice comment.

Dabby Lyric on January 08, 2018:

Hello Peg,

This was such an uplifting and beautiful article. I love the perspectives that you've presented here. I'm from California and I've been living in Missouri for about 7 years now. The slow-pacing of Missourians is completely different from the fast-paced living of Los Angelenos! It's been a challenge to adjust here but I think I've gotten over my shell shock lol. The videos and images were lovely additions.


Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on January 08, 2018:

Hi Christine. I'm glad you found it useful. Thanks for stopping in.

Christine Stuart on January 08, 2018:

Thank you for such a positive article.

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on January 05, 2018:

Dear Robie, Thank you for taking time to read this and for leaving such an important comment. Whenever I see a comment on an article it inspires me to reread the message I wrote and to review the text. Truly I needed to read this message today, too. Thank you.

Robie Benve from Ohio on January 04, 2018:

Great tips on how to make our life not only acceptable, but great. It's all in our head, and I am usually a very positive person, but I've been in a weird bad mood for the last three days (ask my husband... lol). I really needed to read this today, great reminder of how we are the makers of our own happiness.

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on April 12, 2015:

Hello Jo, I'm flattered that you added this one to your list to read more than once. I read it again when I need to remind myself of these things. It's easy to forget when we get wrapped up in the frustrations of daily life.

Thank you for revisiting and for sharing this! May God bless you today and always.

Jo_Goldsmith11 on April 11, 2015:

This article is excellent to read this second time. It was in my e-mail of listed articles to read often. How true this is with choosing to live our lives in a happy and calm mental state. Even when the storms come as they do. Being secure in knowing there is the rainbow just ahead, makes all the difference in getting through the tough times!

Shared and Up all the way, once again. Blessings dear lady! :-))

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on April 11, 2015:

Hi Tillsontitan, Mary, you're so right. Traffic can be so frustrating and it's tempting to lose our tempers and our patience. It really is aggravating as you've mentioned, but of no use to get all up tight. That does nothing to help the situation.

Thank you so much for the read today and for giving me reason to add some new pictures to this old hub.

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on April 11, 2015:

Hi Pstraubie48, Every moment is truly a gift as you've said. It seems such a shame to waste any of it in anger or frustration. I'm still working on that for myself. Thank you so much for reading this early hub and for inspiring me to look it over and revise a few things.

Mary Craig from New York on April 11, 2015:

This is just as true and important now as it was five years ago. I know I am more mellow because I am older but I sometimes have to laugh at how frustrated people get in traffic. There's usually nothing you can do about it so why get all up tight? So many sayings tackling frustration like "go with the flow", "don't get your panties in a bunch" (can I say that on HP?)

Your quotations certainly hit the spot! Well done.

Voted up, useful, awesome, and interesting.

Patricia Scott from North Central Florida on April 10, 2015:

You have summed up so well how we can embrace each day with positivity---you have mirrored much of what I repeat again and again in my writings....every moment is a gift --getting most of each day, not allowing someone else to try to steal any part of any day makes our lives so much more fulfilled

Great hub Voted up++++ shared pinned g+ twitter

Angels are on the way to you this evening ps

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on July 07, 2014:

Au fait, You really understand the principles at work in choosing our individual state of emotions. Not everyone does. We are succeptible to developing bad habits which bring out the worst in us - and often I still slip into this mode. I have to work on myself everyday to remember that gratitude opens the doors to opportunity, while anger and cynicism closes the door. No, it is never easy, but you're so right about letting go.

C E Clark from North Texas on July 07, 2014:

You are correct in that we choose how we will let outside forces affect us. We can choose to stew and resent and hold grudges, or we can choose to move on and not let the bad taint the new and possibly the good things coming along. We really do have the ability to control our thoughts and out attitudes.

Anger and unpleasantness can become a bad habit so that even the smallest things bring out the worst in us because the anger and unpleasantness are on autopilot. We put them on that setting ourselves by not thinking things through.

Without thinking things through we are inclined to make trivial things into major negatives in our lives by dwelling on them and nursing our anger and frustration.

Sometimes all that is needed is for us to let go of the pain so that it stops hurting. If something you're touching burns, then stop touching it. Don't stand their with your hand on the hot object while you seethe with anger and frustration because it hurts. Let go and move on.

Not saying it's easy because often it is not, but it can be done with perseverance and determination. Cultivating the skill of letting go is a worthy undertaking.

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on June 19, 2013:

Hi Martie. That's funny. I was reading your Perspectives hub just last night. You and I agree on this topic for sure. I can tell you that the old anger and frustration comes back quickly when driving in this Dallas traffic. I'm so glad that my last few years in the corporate world were spent as a telecommuter. And I'm fortunate not to have to drive 2 hours a day to get to work. It shortens our lives in so many ways with the stress and the wasted time.

Thank you for posting the snip with my score on FB. You are so sweet to do that. I believe you deserve to be 100 every day. And thanks for your upbeat comments here on this one, too. Cheers!

Martie Coetser from South Africa on June 19, 2013:

I agreed all the way with you. To be happy or not to be happy is only a choice - we will find more than enough reasons to be either one or the other.

In my adult life - meaning as a driver in traffic - we have lived for 10 years in a large city, but for the past 30 years in a town with city status, as it has all the facilities of a city, although not as many. The traffic in cities is a helluva challenge, constantly testing our patience and ability to enjoy the environment and maintain a positive attitude. I will certainly go crazy when I ever have to face that again on a daily basis.

Great, inspiring hub!

Congratulations on your 100 score, Peg. Can't remember when last did I see a 100 on my profile.

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on September 07, 2012:

Thank you Phoebe Pike. And thanks for giving me a reason to read it again. I need it more than anyone.

Phoebe Pike on September 07, 2012:

A fascinating hub. Two thumbs way up.

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on September 07, 2012:

Thanks Docmo, You are wise to take that positive perception approach and it does produce better energy for ourselves and others. It took me a while to get there and I wish I had heard these truths a lot earlier in life. I wasted many years being angry and ungrateful. You are so right. Life is a precious gift that is to be enjoyed. So very glad you took the time to visit today. I will check out your poem "Look up!" It sounds beautiful.

Mohan Kumar from UK on September 07, 2012:

I love the positivity of this message and the sheer truths contained within. You are a wise one , Peg Cole. I always subscribe to this notion... It is so easy to become nondescript and get lost in trivialities and negativity- to me life is a precious gift that is to be enjoyed, to be happy about. Changing our 'mind filters' to a positive perception can produce so much better energy and spread goodwill. I love the quotes as well. Beautifully said. I wrote a poem about this very same message called 'Look up!' because I do this often and look at the night sky and the vastness of the universe. It helps me to understand I could both be very very trivial and very very important.

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on September 05, 2012:

Hello Sunnie. Thanks for sharing your story about your commute as a nurse and how you overcame the stress of the job and the driving. You always have a good attitude and serve as such a great example to others. I can't wait to get your book Delilah and snuggle up with a hot cup of coffee to read it! Eagerly waiting. Peg

Sunnie Day on September 04, 2012:

Hi Peg, so happy this was shared once more...I too used to commute an hour to work but my job as a community nurse took me to so many countries with driving all day. I found some great stations that passed the time for me, uplifting me, offering sound advice and teaching. I found by the time I got home, I may be tired but my frame of mind was in a good place..Loved this hub..

PS the books were shipped on shouldn't be long my friend..and thank you again.

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on September 01, 2012:

Hi James. So good to see you here today. Hope you are doing well. I appreciate your kind remarks and the opportunity to go back and read this over again. I often need to remind myself. Smiles. :)

James A Watkins from Chicago on August 31, 2012:

This Hub is really cool and I got a lot out of it. Thank you for this uplifting piece. It is very good. :-)

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on August 31, 2012:

Thank you Ruchira, for dropping by to read and for the great comment. And true, how we graduate from a situation is what matters. Nice to have you here today.

Ruchira from United States on August 31, 2012:

Such a upbeat and peppy hub. Loved it!

I agree what we do in a situation matters rather than the situation. Every soul comes across a similar situation in their lives, but how we graduate from it...matters!!

voted up as useful and interesting

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on August 19, 2012:

To know, hello. "Life is but a dream" - we sang that as kids. Life is an illusion. I like that saying from the Strangest Secret, I think it was Earl Nightengale who said "We become what we think about."

Thanks for stopping in and for your insightful comments.


toknowinfo on August 19, 2012:

Very well written and interesting hub. Perception is everything and life is an illusion. We believe what we think and act on our thoughts. So why not choose to be more positive. Very inspirational. Voted up and awesome.

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on August 18, 2012:

Thank you IntegrityYes. See you soon. Peg

IntegrityYes on August 17, 2012:

That is so uplifting, Peggy.

UltimateMovieRankings from Virginia on August 13, 2012:

I found this hub on your new profile page....under your featured hubs....and I can easily see why it is listed there as this is an awesome hub.

Lots of great quotes sprinkled throughout the hub...I think my favorite is the Yogi Berra one....the man has a way with words. I have to admit that I consider driving to be a series of conflicts....battling the red lights, battling the other drivers and battling the clock....I envy those that can just enjoy the ride.

I like to think I wake up each day....glad to be having another day and always looking forward to that day. Voted up and across the board...reading your hub was truly a pleasure.

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on April 22, 2012:

Thank you Pro. I heard this at a seminar years ago and it stuck with me. Sort of like that Abe Lincoln quote, "“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Smiles your way.

procreate-light from Charlotte NC on April 21, 2012:

I really enjoyed reading your Hub.

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on February 12, 2012:

Thank you Moonfish and I appreciate the backlinks.

moonfish on February 11, 2012:

I like this article and will be including it in my Squidoo lens Attitude, Perceptions and Understanding Yourself.

Well done

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on September 27, 2011:

Albus Dumbledore said "It is not our abilities that show us what we are, it is our choices."

Thanks, Naturalsolutions, for dropping by to comment.

naturalsolutions on September 26, 2011:

Every little thing that we do I mean we act reflects what kind of person we are. And even handling a small problem could test your personality. Just think of the solution and the problem.

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on September 26, 2011:

Hello naturalsolutions

Absolutely! How we handle things is a key indicator of what kind of person we are. Thanks for your nice comment.

naturalsolutions on September 20, 2011:

The very first line was true, it is not what happens it is a matter of solution on how can we handle it.

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on August 15, 2011:

Thank you Frank. Nice of you to leave such a thoughtful comment. I love Yogi quotes!

Frank Atanacio from Shelton on August 15, 2011:

Two words " Profoundly Intelligent " and the usage of that Yogism was an added plus!

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on May 31, 2011:

Jo_Goldsmith, Thanks- you too! And I like that quote too. Was it Zig Ziglar? One of the reasons I followed you was your profile and philosophy about life. Thanks for dropping in here to read and comment.

Jo_Goldsmith11 on May 25, 2011:

You are so right! It really is all about one's attitude. I love the quote "Attitude - not aptitude - determines your altitude." Unknown. I really enjoyed this hub! And I like your attitude. take care! :-)

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on May 09, 2011:

Thank you celeBritys4africA! Nice of you to stop in.

celeBritys4africA from Las Vegas, NV on May 07, 2011:

A very positive note and a very informative hub. Thanks. Awesome!

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on March 05, 2011:

Mrs. J.B., I still have my moments where I backslide but I'm working on myself everyday. Thanks for your nice comments.

Mrs. J. B. from Southern California on March 04, 2011:

This was a great hub. I enjoyed reading it. It will make me think before I react the next time.

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on July 30, 2010:

paradigmsearch, Hi. So nice to have you comment on this article. Thank you for the positive words. Glad to hear this is how you feel too.

I heard Mark V. Hansen say this (the title) at a seminar in 1995, and once it sank in I realized how true it is. We all see things from our own point of view, whether that's good or not so good. We make our own happiness or not. Thanks again for stopping by.

x on July 29, 2010:

"Your Perception is Your Reality" was a truly excellent choice for the title. I also happen to 100 percent agree with it. This is the kind of hub that helps people.

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on April 08, 2010:

skye2day - - What a great way to start the day! I love it. Our lives in service. How beautiful. Thanks for sharing your technique for daily inspiration. Yes, taking us away from self, worries and cares.

I've recently spent some time visiting at a Skilled Nursing Facility where a family member is recovering. One visit there and most folks will walk away feeling grateful and blessed on their own behalf. It is a reality check.

skye2day from Rocky Mountains on April 07, 2010:

PegCole Fantastic Hub sister. This is a great reminder of what I aspire to be each day. You are so right our thoughts and attitude can make or break our day and situation. Keep looking up. After every storm is a calm. I keep my eyes on the creator. He is light and love. Wonderful writing.

I like to ask in the morning. 'What can I give today'? For me that works. Nothing takes me from self, worries and cares more then helping someone else. It is a choice.

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on February 17, 2010:

uliveulearn, It does boil down to attitude. And with maturity we begin to appreciate the small moments rather than waste them. Every day the sun comes up for us is a blessing, whether it shines or not. You live, you learn, thank you.

uliveulearn from Canada on February 16, 2010:

I so agree - attitude, attitude, attitude. I too am at that stage in my life where I appreciate the value of time so much more. I am trying to be grateful for the special little moments that tend go unnoticed throughout the day. It looks like you have had many nice clear sunny days while driving. Good hub with good attitude.

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on December 21, 2009:

Pastella 13, You have such a kind understanding of the human side of things. Thank you so much for sharing the story about your experience and how you managed to turn a situation around through empathy. I'm so blessed to have met you here on HubPages. Your comments are much appreciated.

pastella13 on December 21, 2009:

You're so very right. It's good to be able to put yourself in someone else's shoes and understand that they must be going through something bad to snap.

I once had a customer rip me to shreds on the phone, and make me feel so small, but I could tell she was elderly, upset and after she put the phone down, I realised she must have been in pain.

I was right, that poor lady was just so fed up with her world, that she just had to let it loose, and it just happened to be me. When she came in the showroom one day, we discovered we both loved dogs, and from then on we always talked about them and it cheered her up.

It is hard sometimes to look on the bright side of things especially when they keep going wrong, but I always find that humour gets us through. We always try to see a funny side to things and that helps.

Thanks for the lovely comments you wrote on my page.

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on December 12, 2009:

Hello Crickette_w, I love the way you described your commute. The hostility is inexcusable! Where is the love? Aren't these folks our "neighbors" even as fellow commuters?

I heard a story at a seminar about the job applicant who was circling the multi-level parking garage, seeking a spot to park so he could make it to his interview on time. He drives round and round, tires squealing on the cement when he finally spots a place. From the opposite direction a car is approaching. The guy gasses the car and slides into the vacant spot ahead of the other driver and flips him off for good measure. Arriving just in the nick of time for his appointment, he enters the office suite only to meet his parking lot adversary who, you guessed it, happens to be the hiring manager he is supposed to meet.

Thanks for your great comments and descriptive tale. I wish you the best of luck on that dangerous stretch of road.

crickette_w on December 11, 2009:

This is so fantastic, wow, wow, wow. I have to turn out onto one of the most dangerous crossing I have ever seen in the country. Every morning, even though the road is clear someone will inevitably come outta no where doing 70 in a fifty, even though they see me they insist for some reason on screeching up and honking for a prolonged period of time. Now, this is such hostile behavior. I don't ever get it. If I wasn't the suspecting driver that I am, if I was the elderly lady, it might not work out so well. Then they insist on getting the first opening and tearing around me. Mind you by this time I am up to speed. As they go around me I get to start my day with some very colorful comments, gestures and etc. Now, as they tear around me, roll their window down and yes, slow down to look at me and yell guess what happens. Yes, you guessed it, they have slowed someone behind them down, so now they have someone honking and yelling at them. I just naturally just smile and wave. Now, I only travel 1.5 miles before I turn off of this temper inducing road. But, I can say I witness this go on about 5 times in that short distance. Thanks for your uplifing take on a different attitude. I do hope some of the people who travel through Washoe Valley, NV read your hub. TY,TY!!!!!

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on November 13, 2009:

lmmartin, That's a good way to think of commute time: as a gift. Thanks for that insight. It does present a chunk of time where we're often alone and we can learn or ponder. Lots of time.

lmmartin from Alberta and Florida on November 11, 2009:

What an inspiring way to look at things. And how self-centered we can become -- why is that driver in MY way, as though it is done deliberately. Yes, why not look at that commute time as a gift -- a time to enjoy, to think, to pass pleasantly. Thank you for showing us another way.

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on October 29, 2009:

Thank you kartika damon. You're absolutely right. I have to work on myself every day, all day. It's so easy to fall into non productive thought patterns. One of my mentors says to work harder on yourself than you do on your job. fastfreta has the secret though. I'm terrific too. lol!

kartika damon from Fairfield, Iowa on October 29, 2009:

Very profound and well written hub! And, once we get this, we have to keep reminding ourselves of it over and over!

I am taking fastfreta's advice and saying, "I'm doing great" all the time - love it! lol!

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on October 27, 2009:

Thank you Rebecca E. That is high praise coming from someone with your obvious talent! Much appreciated and encouraging. pc17

Rebecca E. from Canada on October 26, 2009:

Excellent hub, brillant writing and very informative. I am a positive person by nature amd you have a gift of writing, keep up the good work with these lovely hubs.

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on October 20, 2009:


How true and so uplifting to hear. So is being around someone who's in a good mood. Thanks for mentioning the endorphins for a natural lift. Also for stopping in to comment. I like positive people who treat each day as a gift.

Alfreta Sailor from Southern California on October 19, 2009:

It's amazing how our perceptions change as we get older. Whenever someone asks me how am I doing, I always say greaaat. I read somewhere that if you say that, your release endorphins that actually make you feel that way, and it works. So no matter what is going on in my life that's the way I respond and that's the way that I feel. Very good hub.

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on October 15, 2009:

Catherine, yes, going with the flow becomes easier when we reach a certain age where, hopefully, patience kicks in. We noticed this when we moved out to the country. People regard each other differently here, they wave to their neighbors and drive slower out of consideration to each other. What a pleasure that is, to enjoy rather than be aggravated. Thanks for your comment!

Catherine R from Melbourne, Australia on October 10, 2009:

Great advice. Life is so much nicer when we decide to just go with the flow.

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on October 01, 2009:

How strange that we didn't meet at a rest stop along the way. I spent many long hours on the KY-TN highway too! I would fly into Lexington, drive to Chattanooga then drive to Nashville for weekly bi-meetings. We saw much of the same beautiful scenery! Learning to sit back and relax is an acquired process. Guess that's part of the aging thing too. Patience.

More than once I sat in a traffic jam due to a terrible accident where it took hours to clear the road. Missed flights, meetings, etc.. Still came out ahead of whoever was in the accident.

Thanks for commenting on these thoughts.

Christine Mulberry on October 01, 2009:

Yes, we can choose our own attitude! It was when I was driving long hours on highways through curving/rolling Tennesse behind slow moving vehicles that I learned to love classical music and the peace it brought me.

Peg Cole (author) from North Dallas, Texas on October 01, 2009:

How true. It's one of the few things we can truly control, our own mind. When we start to doubt and become cynical the doors to happiness close. You might guess I'm working on my self as I say this. I needed a good kick in the pants to get going today. Thanks for taking time to comment.

Cygnet Brown from Springfield, Missouri on October 01, 2009:

I've always been a glass-half full kind of gal. I always try to remember, circumstances won't change until we change.