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How to Bring Stability to Your Life With a Support Group

Mindful attention to social affairs improves self-awareness and emotional well-being. Glenn Stok studies the benefits of this ideology.

Friends can be your best support group.

Friends can be your best support group.

Why Is Stability Important in Life?

Stability helps with finding ways to make your decisions more measured and purposeful. In other words, it provides a balance to your life, which is vital for being mentally healthy and productive.

Therefore, it’s crucial to have a support group that can help avoid unnecessary drama. That can be family, friends, or mentors.

I will discuss the significance of having a support group to help when encountering challenging matters.

How Does a Support Group Provide Stability?

When you run into challenging situations that need a secure approach to solve problems, it helps when you have someone to turn to for guidance. Sharing thoughts and discussing personal concerns can provide meaningful direction.

We sometimes can’t think things through by ourselves because we have too many issues that keep us from recognizing what we need to do. For example, denial and fear can cause us to select the wrong path and waste time with poor choices.

In that case, we might run in all directions trying to find a foothold or figure out what we need to do. As a result, we lose the ability to grip onto our planned goals and stay focused. Have you ever noticed yourself in that condition?

Success is more achievable when we can collaborate with others. We need someone to talk to when we need to make well-thought-out decisions or just when we are feeling down. That’s so important for emotional success and well-being.

Personal Support Groups

Some people say they turn to family for support, usually when they have nowhere else to turn. Family guides most of us because they have always been there, although that’s not true for everyone.

However, when one has close family members, they can receive love and understanding from those who know you best. These two things help create the power to move forward with important decisions in life.

What if you don’t have a close family? What if you have a dysfunctional family? If that’s the case, where are you getting your energy to survive, guide you, help make decisions, and learn?

If you feel you're alone with no one to turn to, you can find local groups with an online search that are organized for many specific needs.

Mutual Support Groups

Mutual support groups can be comprised of people dealing with a common situation. People in this kind of group share ideas about what’s working for them. That can help one with difficult decisions.

Not everyone has the advantage of love and understanding from their family. Without that, they are on their own to deal with life’s issues and decision-making.

Close friends who care about each other can provide mutual support and advice. However, it’s essential to know when a friend needs advice or when they want support for a decision they already had made.

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When a friend asks for help, I have frequently noticed that they don’t always listen to the advice. So I concluded that we need to determine what a friend wants when they come to us for advice. It may be taken as judgmental criticism if they are not in the frame of mind to desire honest guidance.

Where do you stand with that? When you reach out for help from a support group, a family member, or a friend, are you really looking for solutions? No support group will be helpful with the wrong match to one’s needs.

Support in a Relationship

Nothing can come any closer to the contentment we have in our lives when we are with someone who we feel comfortable with, someone we know we can share our innermost feelings and private thoughts.

Therefore, a partner or spouse could be all one needs to confide in when in need of personal guidance with making decisions.

Most relationships that endure are those with partners that provide emotional support for one another. That represents more than 90% of long-term relationships.1

Create Your Own Personal Tribe

You’ll find it a powerful force to have a connection with like-minded people who share your values and views. Consider this your tribe, and nurture them once you have organized such a group.

When looking for people to be part of your tribe, consider integrity, accountability, and loyalty as their most important attributes. These people can offer advice or give their opinion when needed most.

I have friends who don’t fit this picture. I don’t envision them to have any integrity, and I can’t count on them. They are good people, but they are broken in some way. I respect them for what they are, but I know I cannot consider them to be part of my tribe.

You probably have friends like that too, and that’s okay. But be careful about considering them for anything crucial in your life. Their lack of stability will crush you.2

Keep a Close Circle of Friends

When you have close friends who you know are kind and respectful, it’s nice to enjoy their company and share activities. They may not be the best resource for advice, but they provide something of value that you would not want to dismiss.

Engage with them on a one-on-one basis. Stay in contact with phone calls and email, and share words of appreciation when you exchange ideas.

Everyone seeks happiness, and it helps to be part of a group. The crucial thing to understand is the difference between your personal tribe and your circle of friends that merely provides a satisfying distraction.

The Limitations of a Support Group

The support you obtain from others may not always be in your best interest. You still need to use your own due diligence to come to a final conclusion. It’s may not be helpful to do things merely because everyone else does.

For example, you’re told to go to college because that will give you security, and that’s what everyone else is doing. However, that might not be the right choice in your case. You might have other desires that could be just as beneficial as a college education.

I’m not saying your should rule that out. But what I’m saying is that every decision you make in life needs to be considered from all angles. Consider what you want in your future before making any decisions. People’s advice in your support group can help immensely, but only if they understand your personal goals.

There is a difference between gaining stability from a support group and settling into a stable life. Keep that in mind to avoid accepting advice that might not satisfy your desires in life.

If people tell you that you need to go where there’s the opportunity, you may end up making the wrong decision. Opportunities will always present themselves if you keep your eyes open. That’s why you wouldn’t want to settle.3

To Conclude

Is there anything that can derail you, emotionally or professionally? Life is too precious to have to struggle with it alone. That’s why it’s essential to ensure you have the support of people you trust and can turn to when you need to hear someone else’s opinion.

Confirm that you have a trusted support group or respected circle of friends as your personal tribe you can turn to when you feel the need.

A well-considered group provides safety and security. That feeling gives us confidence that things will turn out alright.

References

  1. Elias Aractingi. (August 19, 2015). “There Are 6 Types of Relationships: Which One Is Yours?” ThoughtCatalog.com
  2. Natha Jay. (n.d.). “Loyalty & Accountability” - Retrieved May 23, 2021 from WalkinginBothWorlds.com
  3. Dan Western. (n.d.). “Why Having A Stable Life is Killing You From the Inside” - Retrieved January 7th, 2022 from WealthyGorilla.com

© 2021 Glenn Stok

Comments

Glenn Stok (author) from Long Island, NY on May 26, 2021:

You really got the point of having a tribe, Audrey. Thanks for your comment. When I first discovered the concept, I studied it in detail and found it to be a great way to consider true friends who share common values.

Audrey Hunt from Pahrump NV on May 25, 2021:

I really like the idea of having a "tribe." There are times when I feel the need for a supportive shoulder. This article is absolutely full of support and understanding. Wonderful!

Thank you so much, Glenn.

Audrey

Glenn Stok (author) from Long Island, NY on May 24, 2021:

McKenna, your experience shows that we learn who our true friends are in times of need. I’m glad you found a spiritual path to compensate for the difficult time.

McKenna Meyers on May 24, 2021:

Glenn, this is an especially valuable article during May, mental health month. While people count their Facebook "friends" in the hundreds, we need just 1 or 2 folks who are really there for us: showing up in-person, being there during challenging times, and offering compassionate listening. When I was younger, I thought that I had my tribe. It was only when my son got diagnosed with autism that I realized they were friends of little consequence. It was painful, but I had to rebuild and focus of those who were positive, urged me to take care of myself, and encouraged my spiritual journey.

Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on May 24, 2021:

This is an interesting article, Glen. I am blessed to have a very supportive family, and I have a church group. I have another girlfriend also and we go to DAR meetings together. You are certainly right about the benefits of an anchor.

Glenn Stok (author) from Long Island, NY on May 23, 2021:

I understand your viewpoint Brenda. A lot of people feel the way you do. I wrote an entire article a few years ago on the issue you mentioned. Whatever method that works for you is best as long as it leads to success. Thanks for your input

Glenn Stok (author) from Long Island, NY on May 23, 2021:

John, thanks for checking out this article and confirming the need for a tribe support group as an anchor in life.

BRENDA ARLEDGE from Washington Court House on May 23, 2021:

Glenn

I often don't turn to others for support.

I do sometimes check out support groups online, but I know the ultimate choice is mine.

I don't like including people close to me because I may not take their advice & each of us is different.

There are those I mention things to about my health, etc...but I usually don't want to know their advice.

This is a good article though and I can see how it can benefit alot of people.

John Hansen from Gondwana Land on May 23, 2021:

A very useful article Glenn. We all need an anchor or tribe/support group to help us get through the difficult things in life. Thanks for sharing.

Glenn Stok (author) from Long Island, NY on May 23, 2021:

Kathleen, Thanks for your kind words. Your comment helps me know I'm doing the right thing.

Glenn Stok (author) from Long Island, NY on May 23, 2021:

Umesh Chandra Bhatt - What you describe could often be a struggle that one needs to deal with, and you are right that one's family can help them follow the right path.

Kathleen Cochran from Atlanta, Georgia on May 23, 2021:

Glenn, glad to see a familiar face and an example of productive writing. I'm not on HP often any more, but it's great to see you are still turning out thoughtful articles.

Umesh Chandra Bhatt from Kharghar, Navi Mumbai, India on May 23, 2021:

Most of the people have it as one has a big psychological feeling that in time of adversary or problem some of them will advise and help. I think that itself is a big support. Living in isolation required much courage and self confidence. That is why people living in joint families are so happy, cheerful, and of course at the same time careless also!

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