Simple Ways to Avoid Stress in Your Life That Worked for Me
These are ten things I do that help simplify my life with reduced stress, leaving me feeling good about myself. Try it yourself.
Each one in this list is described in detail below.
- Live by your value system.
- Wake up each day with a positive attitude.
- Learn from your lessons. Let others learn from theirs.
- Consider the long-term effect of every decision.
- Seek the truth, but don’t ignore the lies.
- Think about the purpose you serve.
- Read between the lines. There's always more hidden meaning.
- Always be dependable without any doubt.
- Follow your own rules, but appreciate those of others.
1. Live by Your Value System
What’s the power of a value system? It helps you answer these questions:
- What governs your life?
- What causes your selection of goals?
- What leads you to achieve your dreams?
Every choice you make in life is related to your value system. You already have values you wish to live by. You may have done this by your own choosing, or it may have been taught by your parents or enlightened by other mentors.
If you have consciously chosen values to follow that are important to you, then they are your own and are most important to you.
Values you acquired by other means may or may not represent who you really are. That may confuse your thinking, planning, and goal setting.
If your choose your values, and you own them, respect them, and appreciate them, they will empower you to live the life you want to have.
2. Wake Up Each Day With a Positive Attitude
Positive thinking can avoid stress. If you ever feel stuck with some task that is giving you difficulty, always remember that tomorrow is another day.
Sometimes it helps to take a step back and give yourself a break. Get a good night’s sleep. Then wake up with a positive attitude the next day.
You can do that by recalling the positive experiences you’ve had in your life. Those memories will help you acknowledge the ability you have for success. When you wake up, think about those things, so you start the day with a positive attitude.
That will also help create self-confidence and set the tone for an enjoyable new day.
3. Learn From Your Lessons and Let Others Learn From Theirs
As I go through life, I consider each failure a lesson for improvement. It can be applied for the advancement of our being, or ignored to the detriment of our future.
You can learn from your own lessons. People can grow by recognizing their faults just as well as when mentors guide them. So put your energy into your own advancement. Let others learn from their mistakes.
I’ve had many experiences where friends asked for advice, but never took it. In some cases, I wasted my time because they just wanted someone to justify the reason for their failure rather than point them in the right direction. The effort is better spent on your own matters.
4. Consider the Long-Term Effect of Every Decision
Don’t make decisions in haste, especially those that may have a life-changing effect on your future.
Everything we do changes the outcome. We do have control over our destiny. The career we choose, the friends we socialize with, even the books we read, all affect where we are headed with our life.1
5. Seek the Truth, but Don’t Ignore the Lies
People are not always trustworthy. We all know that. So you need to consider what's not apparent. That will help you see through the lies.
The truth is so easy to tell. It never changes. However, when people tell lies, they need to remember the lie, or else they might inadvertently say it differently the next time.
You will eventually catch them in a lie when you pay attention to detail. So remember to always seek the truth by focusing on the way people describe things, especially when it concerns your welfare.
6. Think About the Purpose You Serve
What purpose do you serve in life? Why are you here? Do you ever think about that? Well, maybe that’s getting a little spiritual, but it’s a good thing to contemplate. It can enlighten you and help you avoid wasting time with things that don’t fit with your value system.
Ben Franklin wrote an essay in one of his newspapers, the Pennsylvania Gazette, on the value of one's life.2
He mathematically calculated that over one’s life, they have sacrificed tens of thousands of livestock, poultry, and fish for their own survival. Then he asked if one had given back to society anything equal to that. He discussed how one might just live for pleasure and never serve any purpose.
Heavy stuff to think about, isn’t it?
7. Read Between the Lines
There's usually hidden meaning in what people do and say. Paying close attention to the difference between what people tell you and how they behave, will enlighten you to what they might be up to for their own agenda.
This is what’s meant by the term “read between the lines.” Try to do that whenever things just don’t make sense. You might find the hidden meaning in people’s actions.
8. Always Be Dependable
One of the traits that I feel is most important is to show everyone that you are a dependable person. When I make a promise, I keep it. My friends will always know that when I say something is going to happen, it does.
Life is full of uncertainties, and keeping a promise can be difficult when conflicts arise. However, real friends who know that you are always dependable will understand and appreciate the reason for breaking a promise when you have no choice.
A strong friendship is obvious when one can say "no" as easily as saying "yes." A true friend will respect the reason why someone can’t join them in an activity due to conflicting schedules.
All this becomes easy when you are known to be a dependable person in general.
9. Follow Your Own Rules, but Appreciate Those of Others
It’s essential that we obey the rules of the land as well as our own. They ensure the integrity of the entire social spectrum.
Your personal rules that are based on your value system are just as crucial. They help maintain a strict attitude towards your own life and live based on what’s important to you.
Keep in mind that others have their own value system rules for the same reason, and they should be respected too. Friends and acquaintances will appreciate you for it and will reciprocate (assuming they are fair-minded).
10. Review Your Decisions
Sure, you always make decisions. However, how often do you forget about them? You had a plan, but other things got in the way, and you totally forgot about something important that you wanted to do.
The best thing you can do is to write in a notebook the decisions you make for your plans and your goals. Review it from time to time just to be sure you’re not overlooking the things that are most important to you.
The ideas I discussed above will give you something to reflect on. Just think of it as your value system.
- "How to Resolve Issues and Plan for Your Future." RemedyGrove.com
- Benjamin Franklin. (Nov 18, 1736). "On The Waste of Time." Pennsylvania Gazette
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