10 Ways to Change Your Attitude Towards Life

Updated on May 13, 2020
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Glenn Stok has a Master of Science degree. He enjoys researching topics related to health, relationships, and emotional well-being.


Your attitude has a lot to do with being mindful of your values, especially during stressful situations. You can enrich your life by merely being conscious of what matters to you. These ten ideas will help you focus on that.

1. Live Your Life Based on Your Value System

What’s the power of a value system? It helps you answer these questions:

  • What governs your life?
  • What causes your selection of goals?
  • What leads you to achieve your dreams?

Every choice you make in life is related to your value system. You already have values you wish to live by, either by your choosing, or taught by your parents, or enlightened by others.

If you have consciously chosen values to follow that are important to you, then they are your own and are most important to you.

Values you acquired by other means may or may not represent who you really are. That may confuse your thinking, planning, and goal setting.

If you chose your values, respect them, and appreciate them. They will empower you to live the life you want to have.

2. Wake Up Each Day With a Positive Attitude

If you ever feel stuck with some task that is giving you difficulty, always remember that tomorrow is another day.

Sometimes it helps to take a step back and give yourself a break. Get a good night’s sleep. Then wake up with a positive attitude the next day.

You can do that by recalling the positive experiences you’ve had in your life. Those memories will help you acknowledge the ability you have for success. When you wake up, think about those things, so you start the day with a positive attitude.

That will also help create self-confidence and set the tone for an enjoyable new day.


3. Learn From Your Own Lessons — Let Others Learn From Theirs

Many people make mistakes, and some never learn. You merely need to focus on our own affairs. You can learn from your specific lessons.

Put your energy into your own advancement. Let others learn from their mistakes.

I’ve had many experiences where friends asked for advice, but never took it. In some cases, I wasted my time because they just wanted someone to justify the reason for their failure rather than point them in the right direction. The effort is better spent on your own matters.

As I go through life, I consider each failure a lesson for improvement. It can be applied for the advancement of our being, or ignored to the detriment of our future.

4. Consider the Long-Term Effect of Your Decisions

Everything we do changes the outcome. We do have control over our destiny. The career we choose, the friends we socialize with, even the books we read, all affect where we are headed with our life.

Don’t make decisions in haste, especially those that may have a life-changing effect on your future.


5. Seek the Truth, but Don’t Ignore the Lies

People are not always trustworthy. We all know that. So you need to consider what's not apparent. That will help you see through the lies.

The truth is so easy to tell. It never changes. However, when people tell lies, they need to remember the lie, or else they might inadvertently say it differently the next time.

You will eventually catch them in a lie when you pay attention to detail. So remember to always seek the truth by focusing on the way people describe things, especially when it concerns your welfare.

6. Consider the Purpose You Serve

Ben Franklin wrote an essay in one of his newspapers, the Pennsylvania Gazette, on the value of one's life.1

He mathematically calculated that over one’s life, they have sacrificed tens of thousands of livestock, poultry, and fish for their own survival.

Then he asked if one had given back to society anything equal to that. He discussed how one might just live for pleasure and never serve any purpose.

Heavy stuff to think about, isn’t it? But try. It can help you avoid wasting time with things that don’t fit with your value system.


7. Read Between the Lines

There's usually hidden meaning in what people do and say. Paying close attention to the difference between what people tell you and how they behave will enlighten you to what they might be up to for their own agenda.

That is what’s meant by the term “read between the lines.” Try to do that whenever things just don’t make sense. You might find the hidden meaning in people’s actions.

8. Always Be Dependable

One of the traits that I feel is most important is to show everyone that you are a dependable person. When I make a promise, I keep it. My friends will always know that when I say something is going to happen, it does.

Life is full of uncertainties, and keeping a promise can be difficult when conflicts arise. However, real friends who know that you are always dependable will understand and appreciate the reason for breaking a promise when you have no choice.

A strong friendship is obvious when one can say "no" as easily as saying "yes." A true friend will respect the reason why someone can’t join them in an activity due to conflicting schedules.

All this becomes easy when you are known to be a dependable person in general.

9. Follow Your Own Rules, but Appreciate Those of Others

It’s essential that we obey the rules of the land as well as our own. They ensure the integrity of the entire social spectrum.

Your personal rules that are based on your value system are just as crucial. They help maintain a strict attitude towards your own life and live based on what’s important to you.

Keep in mind that others have their own value system rules for the same reason, and they should be respected too. Friends and acquaintances will appreciate you for it and will reciprocate (assuming they are fair-minded).

10. Review Your Decisions

One other thing I learned from Ben Franklin. In his book, The Art of Virtue, he explained that he never trusted human reasoning. He believed that it resulted in our need to justify our decisions based solely on beliefs.2

Once one justifies their behavior or decisions, they never search further for facts. That lack of the desire to seek the truth can be a reason to be doomed to failure.

So what do you do? Whenever making decisions, think hard about the chance that you might be overlooking critical factual details. You need to be honest with yourself, without defending beliefs.


The ideas I discussed will give you something to reflect on. They may change your attitude where you might have been finding difficulty loving yourself. I haven’t referred to it in that way until now, as I figured I’d leave it for the end to give you one final nudge. Just think of it as your value system.


  1. Benjamin Franklin. (Nov 18, 1736). "On The Waste of Time." Pennsylvania Gazette
  2. Benjamin Franklin. (Reprint edition: January 10, 2018). “The Art of Virtue” - Skyhorse Publishing

© 2018 Glenn Stok


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    • Larry Slawson profile image

      Larry Slawson 

      20 months ago from North Carolina

      Thank you for sharing! Very helpful and meaningful list here.

    • Glenn Stok profile imageAUTHOR

      Glenn Stok 

      21 months ago from Long Island, NY

      Tessa - Everyone has their own method that works for them. The only thing that’s important is to know what the method is.

    • TessSchlesinger profile image

      Tessa Schlesinger 

      21 months ago

      I would agree with them all except that I don't see the need to wake up positive. There was some research the other day that in order to accomplish things, extroverts need to be happy whereas introverts carry on regardless of mood.

    • Glenn Stok profile imageAUTHOR

      Glenn Stok 

      21 months ago from Long Island, NY

      Interesting point Heidi. Many things that seem simple are not always easy to maintain on an ongoing basis.

    • heidithorne profile image

      Heidi Thorne 

      21 months ago from Chicago Area

      It seems so simple, yet we often struggle with living this way. Thanks for the great reminders!

    • Glenn Stok profile imageAUTHOR

      Glenn Stok 

      21 months ago from Long Island, NY

      Good point Venkatachari. These rules can actually help bring success in life if used properly.

    • Venkatachari M profile image

      Venkatachari M 

      21 months ago from Hyderabad, India

      Very useful and instructive advice on one's self-development that can bring success in life. Thanks for sharing the tips.

    • Glenn Stok profile imageAUTHOR

      Glenn Stok 

      21 months ago from Long Island, NY

      Thanks Dora. The fifth point is an important one for me too. I’ve saved myself from being taken advantage of many times, by noticing when people can’t keep their story straight. It’s especially useful when talking with salespeople who are trying to sell you something.

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      Dora Weithers 

      21 months ago from The Caribbean

      Helpful and practical counsel. Number 5 sticks out as the one never to forget, but they're all important. Thank you.

    • Glenn Stok profile imageAUTHOR

      Glenn Stok 

      21 months ago from Long Island, NY

      That’s the most important one for me too, John. And you’re right, unforeseen circumstances can always get in the way. Short of that, I only agree to do something if I am mostly sure (okay - 99%) that I can keep my promise.

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      John Hansen 

      21 months ago from Queensland Australia

      You have listed a commendable set of rules for living life here Glenn. I have my own similar set of rules/values. For instance, like you, I never promise anything unless I am 99% sure I can deliver (no one can be 100% certain because unforeseen situations sometimes occur.) Good job.


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