Get Closure After Death by Imagining Visiting the Deceased
Sometimes people die too soon, and we feel grief without having had closure.
- Has someone close and dear to you died before you could discuss questions you had wanted to ask?
- Do you feel the need to get closure with a deceased loved one?
- Are you having trouble coping with losing a parent, spouse, or another relative?
- Would you want to have the chance to talk with your Mom or Dad who passed away?
If you are still grieving the loss, and it hurts, you might need some sort of closure. You can imagine having a conversation with your loved one. You do that with a virtual visit, by creating their persona, or psyche, in your mind.
Wherever that imagined visit takes you, you’ll learn something from it that helps with healing.
How to Deal With Losing Someone You Love
I had unanswered questions after losing a loved one, and I knew I needed closure. Fortunately, I found a way to resolve the void. I was able to use this method after the passing of my father and my Aunt.
I did not have serious, heartfelt discussions about specific issues before their deaths. Even though I missed these opportunities, I discovered a process that worked for me to gain closure and help with the grieving process after death.
- You can still visit someone after death by imagining it in your mind, and by scripting a conversation. You can ask questions and determine the answers by using your knowledge of their personality and of how they may have responded.
- You can recreate their persona, or psyche, in your mind. It's as if you were visiting them to talk, even though they are no longer physically there. You can create the script of the conversation in your mind.
That may help with grief, or having closure, by finding a way to complete those discussions that you wish you had while they were alive.
It can happen passively, with dreams of the loved one. Or you can be more proactive and achieve results consciously by imagining a virtual visit. I'll discuss both these ideas.
A Deceased Loved One Might Appear in a Dream
When we have dreams of a loved one who had passed away, it's our way of resolving unfinished business.
Many people experience dreams where deceased loved ones reappear. That seems to be a common phenomenon, and there has to be some psychological meaning with these dreams. They may be the result of the brain trying to make some sense out of an unexpected loss or to resolve emotional issues.
I had an experience with a deceased relative appearing in a dream. It wasn’t until I woke up that I realized the person in my dream had already been dead. In my dream they were very much alive. It’s as if they were immortal in my mind.
Dreams of deceased relatives can occur anytime. They can come back, even decades later, to revisit in a dream that our subconscious mind creates. My father, who died over 30 years ago, has reappeared in dreams long after his death.
In those dreams, he was very much alive. I think that is our brain's way of still working out some form of closure.
Imagine Meeting in a Virtual Visit
Imagine a meeting with the deceased and having a conversation as if they were there with you.
When we remember loved ones who we lost due to old age or health problems, we most likely visualize them as we last remembered them.
It's essential to decide at what age they should be when you visit them in this simulated visit. Many different results can come out of this, depending on their age you choose them to be when you have this virtual visit. You may want to try visiting them at several different stages in their life so that you can discuss things that were pertinent at that time.
I did this to have closure when I lost my Aunt. I needed to resolve some issues that were bothering me ever since I was a child. So in my mind, I imagined her being the age I recall her being when I was a kid. Then I proceeded to have that virtual conversation.
You can do anything you want in your mind to accomplish this communication with a deceased relative. Do whatever is necessary to help with grief or to resolve an issue so you can feel closure.
You need to resolve unfinished business. This can still be accomplished with a deceased loved one by using your knowledge of how they would have wished to help you. It works. You're in control of the process.
During your virtual visit, pay attention to their expression. Bring their reactions to life in your mind. Try to get in touch with the way they used to respond to you as you imagine the conversation in your mind.
Think About What You Need for Closure
Plan your virtual visit by thinking about what you would want to accomplish.
- What would you ask?
- What would you want to tell them?
- What would you expect in return?
Do you just want to have some precious time with them that you feel you missed out on when they were still around?
Was something more troubling to you, and you never made an effort to discuss it when they were alive?
Were they a source of comfort? Do you need that now? Were they the only person you could get that from?
Do you need their approval on some issues that you had never resolved?
Were they critical of you, and you are now ready to understand the reason why? Or did you already resolve that, and you just want to share the news with them? Maybe even thank them for making you aware of something important?
Do you need their input on something that’s going on for you right now that you are anxious about? Are they the only person who can help?
If it's unfinished business that you feel you need to resolve, think about how will it affect you if you get the answer you want? Will you be able to handle it if you get a different result out of it?
There are many issues to be considered, but you can get a lot out of it by imagining in your mind how a discussion with a loved one might go.
Use some idea you have of their attitude to envision what they might tell you and what answers they may have in response to the questions lingering in your mind.
Give it a try
In your mind...
Imagine the answers you know they would want to share.
In your heart...
Let them guide you with those answers.
Remember, you might have a good idea of how they would respond to various questions by imagining and recreating their psyche. You can determine what they would have told you when you ask for help.
Just verbalize those answers in your mind as if you were having a conversation with them today.
Your loved one wants to help. They will never let you down, dead or alive. Wherever it takes you, you’ll learn something from it.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
Questions & Answers
I was not allowed to attend my dad's funeral because his executor, who is not blood-related, didn't want me there. I'm sure that was not my dad's wish. How can I get closure?
This is one of the sad situations when an executor who has issues with family members is chosen. It’s especially troubling when a son or daughter is kept from saying their farewells.
You do need to have closure so that you can move on. Try a virtual visit. Imagine your dad is there in front of you and tell him whatever it is you need to say.
If you have questions you wish he would have answered while alive, try asking anyway in your virtual visit.
Then imagine what he would have answered based on how you knew him—imagine what you think he would have answered.
I discuss all this in detail in the article, along with additional ideas for closure. Review it carefully and give it a chance.Helpful 8
My friend died with cancer without telling me he was dying, I am in denial, how do I find closure?
Sorry to hear of your friend's death and for your grief. Finding closure is exactly what I explained in this article. “Get Closure After Death by Imagining Visiting the Deceased.” https://remedygrove.com/wellness/how-to-visit-a-de...Helpful 2
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