5 Smart Strategies to Break Your Smartphone Addiction
Smartphones are not a drug, so why do we become addicted to them? According to psychologists, addictions are often formed by the need to remove pain rather than to experience pleasure. That pain could be mental, physical, or some combination of both. Whether it is anxiety, depression, stress, loneliness, psychological trauma, or any other upsetting issue you’re struggling to deal with, we can classify that stress as a type of mental pain.
This is when smartphone addiction can start to make sense. As a society, we are struggling with ever-increasing levels of anxiety, stress, depression, and loneliness. And when we try to soothe or distract ourselves from that psychological pain by scrolling through social media, it will work - for a little while. Because the relief our smartphones provide is only temporary, we’ll eventually become dependent on those brief moments of comfort.
And when we’re addicted to our smartphones, we’re taking on unnecessary stress and wasting valuable time that could have been spent on working productively towards our goals and improving our quality of life.
Poll: Your Smartphone and You
On an average day, how often do you have your smartphone on your person?
3 Common Symptoms of Smartphone Addiction
But just because we have our smartphones around most of the time doesn’t mean we have an addiction. Here’s how you can tell whether you have an unhealthy relationship with your smartphone or not.
1. Stress and Anxiety
You’re constantly putting your mind and body under chronic stress because you never “switch off.” You’re always on the alert to respond immediately to every notification and stress out when you can’t get to your phones in time. When access to your smartphone is restricted, you feel anxious and are worried you may miss something critical.
It’s hard to unplug even to go to bed, so you have trouble falling asleep at night because your mind is too overstimulated. The bright light of your smartphone also disrupts the production of melatonin which is a hormone that cues your body to fall asleep.
3. Constantly checking your smartphone
Even though you know there are no new texts, emails, calls, or notifications, or if you'd just checked your phone 30 seconds ago, you check it again anyway.
Also, whether it be a new game, scrolling through endless social media posts, chatting about nothing, or watching a video, you'll find any excuse to stay on your smartphone.
5 Steps to Break Your Smartphone Addiction
1. Stay Away From Temptation
Keep your phone as far away from you as possible. When you don’t need it, leave it in a separate room if possible or leave it in your bag. Break the habit of keeping your phone in your pocket where you’re constantly reminded of its presence. When you’re at home and off the clock, put your phone on silent and turn off all non-essential notifications. You don’t need to check your phone for every spam e-mail or irrelevant group message.
2. Say “Don’t”, Not “Can’t”
Research has found that people who say “don’t” instead of “can’t” were 80% more likely to follow through with their intentions and change their habits. So instead of thinking “I can’t use my phone in bed,” think “I don’t use my phone in bed.” This simple word substitution will change your mindset and allow you to better visualize the kind of person you want to become. So if you start visualizing yourself as someone who doesn’t rely on your smartphone, you’ll grow into that self-image soon enough.
3. Avoid Getting Stuck In
Sometimes, checking social media or using your smartphone cannot be avoided. When you need to check your smartphone, make a conscious effort to avoid the “ludic loop.” The “ludic loop” is a concept in psychology where we’re lulled into repeating the same addictive behavior over and over in a loop, like when you keep scrolling through your Facebook feed even though there’s nothing new or interesting to look at.
So avoid the ludic loop by making a conscious intention to stop after a set amount of time before you start doing what you need to do on your smartphone.
4. Replace Your Habit Instead of Breaking It
Instead of cutting smartphone use out all at once, make good use of your time spent on your device by replacing time-wasting activities like scrolling through social media or playing games with productive activities instead.
Download Kindle, Kobo or educational apps so you can read a book or learn a new skill instead of checking Facebook. Now, when you reach for your smartphone, you’ll be doing something productive and something that’ll make you feel good about yourself.
5. Plan and Anticipate
When trying to break any addiction, it’s important to plan and anticipate when you’ll be in situations where you’re more likely to relapse. Do you tend to check your phone when waiting in lines or waiting for food at a restaurant? Keep your phone in a backpack where it’s harder to get to. Bring a book along so when you do reach into your bag, you can pull that out instead of your smartphone. If you tend to use your phone to fill in gaps in conversation, make sure you keep your phone in your bag or another room the next time you’re with friends.
When you plan ahead, you can make decisions beforehand to remove temptation, which will make breaking your habit much easier.
Poll: Your Smartphone Habit
When are you most likely to pull out your smartphone?
Build Meaningful Connections
Much of addiction is about soothing psychological distress, so surround yourself with people who love and support you. Spend time with them in person without relying on a piece of technology as the middleman. If your loved ones live far away, reach out to new people and don’t be afraid to build new meaningful connections. If you lack confidence or are feeling a little rusty in interacting with others, there are ways to rebuild your self-esteem.
When you have a strong network of people around you and are focused on living a full life, you won’t need to depend on your smartphone for moments of loneliness or boredom anymore.
© 2018 KV Lo